[5ag1_Boar]

Justawife,

You have to consider what kind of forum you are in right now. Most of the guys who frequent this forum stray... either with hookers, one-night-stands, FBs, flings or any combination of the afore-mentioned.

Are there guys who don't stray? I would say yes, and I think still not an endangered species, but you won't find them in here.

The question is how often, how deep we go (emotionally) and whether we still come home to be a good husband and father after our urges are satisfied.

For a husband that stays by your side, are you willing to accept that he may stray discretely, but always comes home to fulfil his duties as husband and father? He still loves you (the long term commitment type of love) and will never consider leaving you. To have some degree of the passionate love of dating days would be a bonus. Basically, he is a dutiful and loving husband and father and you have no reason to suspect he is straying and you adopt a "ignorance is bliss" attitude.

I don't mean that you should be pretend to be blind if there are any reasons to suspect that he is having an affair. Just saying that some otherwise faithful husbands do discretely seek out hookers, ONS and/or FBs to satisfy their urges, but emotionally they still love their wives and kids.

To keep your man by your side:
Stay attractive. We don't expect you to maintain the looks/figure that you had when we married you, but we greatly appreciate that you don't just let everything go.
We know you will inevitably put on some weight, but don't become obese.
Groom yourself: Keep your hair healthy, get a nice feminine hair-do, even if you want to cut it short for convenience. Brush your hair in the morning. Bedroom hair is feels-cosy when we wake up in bed together, but not throughout the whole day. Keep plucking/waxing/shaving your armpit/leg/arm hair (if we married you that way), and keep your other bush trimmed (if you don't wax or shave there).
Continue to dress nicely. I don't mean dressing to the nines all the time, but get clothes that compliment your new figure, not shapeless clothes that hide your body.

[To be continued...]