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Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar
Justawife,
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To keep your man by your side:
Stay attractive. We don't expect you to maintain the looks/figure that you had when we married you, but we greatly appreciate that you don't just let everything go.
We know you will inevitably put on some weight, but don't become obese.
Groom yourself: Keep your hair healthy, get a nice feminine hair-do, even if you want to cut it short for convenience. Brush your hair in the morning. Bedroom hair is feels-cosy when we wake up in bed together, but not throughout the whole day. Keep plucking/waxing/shaving your armpit/leg/arm hair (if we married you that way), and keep your other bush trimmed (if you don't wax or shave there).
Continue to dress nicely. I don't mean dressing to the nines all the time, but get clothes that compliment your new figure, not shapeless clothes that hide your body.
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Make love (or have sex) with your husband regularly. How often depends on both of you. If your sex drive differs, then talk and make a compromise that suits both of you. No doubt, over the years the sex may get boring, so do something to spice it up. Get sexy lingerie... or better yet, shop for lingerie with him, online or at the shops. Be open to explore what he wants to try. He still has to respect what is comfortable for you, but be open-minded to step out of your comfort zone a little.
Sex should never be a bargaining chip. (Actually, nothing in a marriage should be a bargaining chip). Don't withhold sex as punishment... granted that you may not be in the mood if you are upset with him, but that's different from wielding it as a punishment.
Men need to feel like men. In bed, in decision making, etc. Does not mean you must let him dominate you, just don't talk down to him or nag at him. Communicate with him, discuss matters with him, find out what he thinks about matters. Even if he has no opinion, it matters that you bothered to ask.
Don't forget to be a wife, even if you are busy being a mother. You probably have to spend more time being a mother (and him being a father), but for some time of each day or week, both must make time to be husband and wife.
All said, of course, guys must still play their part.