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Originally Posted by n30n
Yes, don't tell them you fantasize other men. Their ego very big, yet very brittle. Once broken very hard to mend, same as our trust for them.
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Hehe, good point good point ..
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Originally Posted by n30n
Rule of thumb, respect their private space.
When you confront them, make sure they have all the time in the world to reveal to you. Don't rush them. Don't corner them. Let them have some space to back down.
If they want to cool down or run, can.
Let them run, but tell them after running for a few days, meet at a certain deadline and talk about it. Give them time to prepare mentally.
If they tell you the worst of the worst issues, don't scream at him immediately.
Thank him for telling you and not hiding.
Listen finish everything. Sayang him first, then ask him to sayang you till you calm down. Then both talk about it.
Slowly cultivate the habit of feeling safe with each other.
If not very hard to communicate difficult issues.
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Actually I scared to talk also, you know men are terrible liars... they may let slip something then its harder for me to feign ignorance ... haiz I must really prepare myself mentally first if I ever want to HTH talk....