Woah.. What a nice thread.
Greetings to all ,
i think i fit in with most of the married guys lol.. just married last year
but am 36. Already feeling sex is waning for me because priority changes
after marriage.
But i like sex , raw sex that is. My wife does too but i would prefer to
use caps since i am not planning for a kid that early into our marriage
life. Honestly i hate caps due to lack of feeling . If not for it, it would
be for prevention of hitting the jackpot.. Though she hates caps and
forbid me from using caps...
Ejaculating outside would be calling for more washing of bedcover, etc...
Then again, the feeling of releasing inside is much , undeniably intoxicating.
I work. She works too and aiming for a phd to come. I am proud of her but
in ways of sex, there's so much i feel we are missing out. painting has
been kept to like 10-20s, fingering longest been 5mins but not all the way
and giving me bj was like a peck, slight suction on the head for 10s-20s.
Self-diy has been the longest job for me personally and it is still strong
till date. Perhaps i have been doing this too much that sex is kinda a chore
to do...
To other people going for fl, fb, geylang.. there are times i dwell towards
that direction but the hazards that lie ahead are too much to bear.
Worse case scenario to happen is having a change of mindset and heart towards the wife and family.
Together with women's charter, flinging around with other women are
potential minefields.
Feelings gotten from these flings are at most exceedingly short, after
you spew your seeds, its gone. Trying to maintain it longer is i feel just
an illusion for if you already having a family with kids, you are just putting
yourself at harm's way.
I have a ict buddy who is going through a far worse case ; Had 2 kids,
wife always black face and complaining about money issue and less
care towards her. He resorted to ktv and sex flings.
Perhaps sex is not everything and it is ok for it to "die" in place of something
more important that holds more value.
I am taking a resign look aspect towards dwinding sex-life actually right now.