[benxmanda]

The best is to be able to find a wife who can meet every bit of her hubby's fantasy, no matter how perverted or weird these fantasies looked in the eyes of the ordinary but this won't happen to everybody.

Sex is just part of our life and it's not all, I have seen cases of happy marriage where sex is not a priority, it happened to one of my close friends, he confided in me that he and his wifey seldom have sex and both of them are perfectly OK with it, one thing is sure, both are very religious and it seems that their priority is their kids and their charity works, on the look department, his wifey can easily score at least a 7 , being a middle management employee in a MNC.

It takes two to tango, if it happens that the other half of yours is at fault, well, that is what you always think, take a step backward and assess the situation objectively, think of all the sensible things to do to improve the situation, with one important thing in mind as the most important objective. i.e. to save the marriage, don't be the very first party responsible to break the marriage.

If it's a tumour, cure it if it's still not too late, if it's getting too much for you to handle then you have to remove it, open up to him/her and tell the other party what's on your mind and that you are willing to make the marriage works, problem with most of the married couple is lack of communication, too much taking things for granted. Talk is good if both parties are sincere with each other, speak now or forever hold your peace.

Give the other half all the chances to work with you to close all the expectation gaps between the two of you, before you do something stupid make sure you have done the best to save the marriage, dont be the first to cross that forbidden line.

One must move on, if it's too huge a gap to bridge then must learn to let go already.

If it's a stain on your shirt, some might just throw it away, but some might just want to keep it, some will cover it skillfully so that can wear it, it all depends on you.

Give your other half and you a chance to make it work. Think sensibly.

One man's meat could be another man's poison, however, that man can still eat it if the poison can be neutralized.

Hope you have a happy marriage.

We had our ups and downs too.

Last definitely not least: To my dearest wife, I love you, darling.