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Originally Posted by Darina
All I can say is that men will try their luck to get between your legs
It's whether you want to or not and whether you encourage them.
I have married ex bfs coming to me to pour out their problems. But it stays at that but maybe it's because I'm married and they don't think I'm inclined to want to sleep with them.
Likewise I also hv single ex-bfs coming to me with their problems but they hope that I will sleep with them because I'm the perfect no strings attached partner if I ever sleep with them.
Thing is, I'm very open when I talk. I can share personal stuff and I can talk about sex (not talk dirty though) but that doesn't mean that I will sleep with the guy. I think you just have to be very very clear about that. I talk to my guy friends about sex but I make it very clear to them that just because I talk about it doesn't mean that I"m open to doing it with you. They are all very respectful of that and appreciate that they can talk to me without me taking offense and they respect that I'm not going to have any hanky panky with them.
Works out fine so far.
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thanks! it's heartening to know that you managed to get it into their minds that you are not keen on sex. i have an ex, i used to just chat with him as a friend until he decided to start suggesting indecent stuff.. then i told him off and etc and that he shd focus on his wife and kids.. but no use. that guy is still pestering me (msging me) which i ignore until now since 2 years ago but he's still trying!
now this is another ex that is married with kids too, which i just want to maintain as friends. just hope nothing like the last exbf will happen