[wondergal]

Lucky of you to have a nice respectful boyfriend. Indeed, love making and fucking are different as you wrote.

BDSM is exciting but I prefer to use this style of sexual play as spice not the main meal. If BDSM becomes the main meal, I feel that it is difficult to feel the tying, slapping, spanking, pinching etc as love. More like disrespectful abuse. That's my experience and how I felt. If I was roleplaying like a naughty student then I accept that the sex act was an acted punishment and I accept the disrespect and abuse that was pretended during the session.

But it also makes me wonder how a mostly nice and respectful man can roleplay as being disrespectful and abusive in a BDSM session. I ever met such a man before who had difficulty roleplaying that way, and I admire him for admitting it and I didn't blame him.

I have been to a BDSM fetish club where it's more hardcore. I didn't like how I felt.