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Originally Posted by littlepok
aren't u considered a samster as well? then why he meet u?
in other words, because u met other samster before, therefore he is afraid when he go out with u, other samster will identify u and hence refer him as another samster which he do not want to.
conclusion: very shameful to be seen with u? for example, there are bros who got together with masseur, ktv gals and even prostitutes (not referring u as one of these) and the bros accepted them for who they are, what they did IN THE PAST and lived happily (some of them...). if he likes u, he will have to accept for who u are and who u met or bonked with in the past. if not, this will forever be a prick in his heart. will u be truly happy? your own call
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Originally Posted by westendgirl
omg this is totally unfair and sexist. wtf! female samster is slut; male samster is he-man? bro littlepok, thanks for pointing this out.
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Chill gal... as someone neutral, I believe u've misunderstood Bro Littlepok's intended message. He's criticizing ur Man, not u. Hope that clarifies. As for ur Man's fears, becoz of some lack of info we have here from u (u may also b lacking some info on ur part as well for that matter, we really don't knw...), there can b multiple perspectives & his paranoia or indignance may be due to one or a few of the below listed reasons: -
(i) In Biz, Speak Biz (在商言商)
U've mentioned he is a bizman. In biz, reputation does matter. He cld b fearing tt a Samster outing wld unnecessarily blow his identity, &/or even cause him to bump into fellow Samsters w/ he has biz dealings w/. It may seem a small matter to u, or us even; But it may generate unnecessary awkwardness in future when he's talking biz in a professional capacity, jeopardize biz r/s, or even generate unnecessary rumors about him in his inner circle.
(ii) His marital status or other circumstances
Particularly for bizmen &/or some1 w/ reasonable public exposure, & in furtherance of e above (i), e anonymity that e virtual world offers to all of us protects them slightly more. Using marriage as an example, he might have fears that he loses his bargaining power becoz he's identity might be blown to a samster who is also a biz associate, simply becoz now e same associate, having known who he is, & perhaps what he does becoz of FRs or stories he's published, blackmails him. It may seem a remote fear, but remote as it is, it can happen bcoz e world of biz is a cut throat one. I do not knw e size of e biz he has, or e industry he's in, but I believe tt fear wld b there, e difference being only in e propensity he feels it.
(iii) R/s between e 2 of u
U mentioned him as a FB. Perhaps he does not see u in tt light. It cld b his possessiveness, not wanting to share u w/ fellow samsters, regardless of his seniority in this forum, or he knws what goes on in these forums & he cannot bear e thought of that happening to u &/or him. Perhaps, he hates how some shallow guys (most in fact but certainly not all), is likely to see u in a light whereby u "can b upped" (blunt, but some cruel truths, no harm intended) if people knew he had his chance w/ u. Perhaps, such a thought is simply too much for him to bear; and/or
(iv) Simply doesn't care
Not that he doesn't care about u. But he simply doesn't care about a Samster meeting. Some of us keep to ourselves pretty much (me included and I haven't met that many samsters before really in the past). Particularly for males, especially those w/ a profile in biz, we tend to be very objective-driven. A mere outing like food and drinks, could be mistakebly perceived as a waste of time w/o much specific outcomes, by some men.
Just some thoughts I have. I hope my perspective helps, but I do understand its not meant to be exhaustive towards other possibilities. If u r truly feeling curious & perturbed, I believe u shld speak to him. After all, if u guys are intimate, what's there that cannot b spoken aboveboard? U've credited him for being attentive, I'm sure he'd b more than willing to offer u answers like how a gentleman wld instead of have u (or us) speculate.