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Originally Posted by greener
Hi,
Thanks for the advice and opinion. There is certainly a lot of uncertainty about the age gap. I did ask her before about the age but she said that it is perfectly ok. Again we will never know how " ok " is this " ok " .
Again thanks all for giving me your feedback and opinion.
I got to see it and feel it for myself if I am able to understand and accept and like the family she is in. This is probably the most important part as acceptance and understanding can be developed thru more interaction.
I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.
I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.
Regards
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In order to learn and understand more about them, u need to start learning the language and more importantly the culture as well. Embrace them as Vietnamese people rather than try to tell them to become Singaporean (which will never work).
Whatever u see there, DO NOT compare it with similar things in Singapore and start talking about it... and DO NOT judge and say their way is stupid... if u could just throw away ur very Singaporean thinking, there are a lot u can learn about them.
Most importantly... and this is something i really find it hard to understand... many green-green-wet-behind-the-ears naive Singaporean guys when kenna KC by VB, will want to quickly marry them, ROM and all... and in less than 2 years, divorce with lots of bitterness.
If u see a blender in Harvey Norman.. if u like it, u have to buy it before u can take it home to use... but for VB, the same rule does not apply... u no need to buy the cow first and later realise its a bad cow!!! There are many options available for u which various people are talking about in HCMC Thread 2... some say can "Borrow(for free)", some can "rent(pay a monthly fee)", and some even "Hire Purchase (pay by installments)". Marriage is paying FULL SUM upfront and expose urself to all the bad risks with no safety net at all... always remember that ROM = Registry Of Mistake!
Let me also tell u that, there are some brudders who go thru the process and finally married the VB of their dream... and then they buy house, start business put under their VB wives name and then things gone all wrong!
From what i see u wrote... u are a long long way to this learning process and to be frank... slim chance of success.