[Rickey]

Originally Posted by sluttymistress

that's really sad. i wonder what's wrong with the majority of women. sex is enjoyable and meant to be enjoyed.

Originally Posted by BabyJane

Firstly, I cannot begin to understand the mentality of these wives. Maybe I should not comment since I am not married. But then again, wives who refuse sex with their husbands deserve to get shot. I don't think any of the reasons that they use can justify the refusal of having sex. They're more like excuses. I don't think there is a clause in the marriage vows that state no sex once you have kids or too busy in juggling work and family. So am I to understand that these wives stop feeling horny a few years into the marriage? I find that hard to believe. Then they shouldn't blame their husbands for having affairs or FBs or paying for sex. The problem with these women is that they fail to understand that sex is very much a part of their marriage. I pity all the bros here with such wives, which makes me wonder if this is really a Singaporean thing.

Originally Posted by westendgirl

as a woman, i m guilty of these two traits too, Rickey.
these two r interlinked. i m working on the unforgiving part now. but to be more forgiving, i have to be less sensitive in the first place. so now, i trust more and chap less with my partner. i cant speak for other women cos it is easy for me. i dont see him that often and it will be r/s suicidal to be suspicious all the time. although i feel more insecure now to put so much trust in my man but i actually feel better. it is a trade-off and i m happy for it.

as for the main topic, i dont go through the motion, cos i m not the wife. i m not being trivial here but our r/s is more lust than love. although i like it to be the other way round but truth be told, i know my position. still on wife and sex, i deduce he is not the go=through motion type. we had been in this r/s for awhile and he is still very patience and passionate. guess it boils down to how much interest you have on pleasing each other. for us, sex is the glue that bind us together. so we just try a little harder.

Thank you v. much to the 3 sis above for coming in to share ur views on tis serious issue of wives refusing sex to their HBs n for understanding, appreciating n empathising the position of HBs in such sexless marriages ! or even those still fortunate enough to be able to "Go thru' the motions" wif their partners like dead fish on the bed...n thanks esp to sis WEG for being so frank abt her own weaknesses to forgive others and having the desire to work to improve on them herself. Kudos to her !! ..Such understanding gals are rare to find in SG n they shd be very much valued and treasured. ...I always believe tat if SEX IS NOT NEEDED, there is really no compelling reason to get married. They can jus simply be two good friends doing things they happen to like tgt at their own convenience w/o being tied down by the complications of marriage and sex..

To sis BabyJane...yes, indeed !..its true...it seems so frm so many bros' testimonies here tat esp after the children are borned, their wives' desire for sex is thrown out of the window. ..possibly cos as women ages, so too their sex drives diminishes...till zero 1 fine day !..women at age 50 n above esp (after menopause) can go w/o sex anytime beta than men their same age. They will point out tat having sex will not bring food to ur table, working to earn ur income does...so which is more impt ?? .so yes !..sis, its really happening here in SG !!...sigh

Originally Posted by gizbabe

Dr. Phil said that sex life is the indicator of your overall relationship with your partner. If sex is not good, usually 90% of the relationship is already having problems. If sex is good, it only constitutes 10% and you have to work on the rest of the 90%.

Tink tats true n every1 shd agree wif it...thxs bro..