[Wizrd]

I don't think the wives' libido dropped to zero...

It is about priority and focus...if her focus is now on the children or her own life / career only, then no amount of 'hard work' from the husband will warm her up...

Of course a husband should not give up and should keep trying...but...for how long??

Women are wise to men's physiology...if a woman neglects her husband for more than a couple of months, she knows he will need sex...and if he is not getting it from her, he must be getting it somewhere else...ppc can only replace sex for the short term because as long as the man is earning money, she knows there are plenty of places he can get sex from...

Sadly, for the husband, the more faithful he tries to be and stick with a non-sexual wife, the more she will believe he is getting it from elsewhere....one of my friends in Sg does not get any sex from his wife…but lucky for him, she allows him to find it elsewhere…as long as he doesn’t rub it in her face with it…oh, paid sex only so that there will not be a 3rd party…very wise woman…(they don’t even have children…and this started when they are both in their late 30s…)

I cannot speak for other men...but if it happens to me...I will simply ask for a divorce...or...tell her that I am not getting sex from her, so I will be seeking it elsewhere...

One of the bros here suggested to focus on other things...yes, very good advise but men are all different in terms of libido and how much/often each one of us need sex...
If we ask advise from a monk...he won't understand why we are so uptight because he chose to be celibate...we did not...

As Rocky said (I think in the second one)...I don't ask you to stop being a woman...please don't ask me to stop being a man.

Be upfront, explain your case...sex is a must whether we are in a relationship or not...if she doesn't want it / enjoy it...allow you to find it with someone else...

I know a few couples who are best friends...they don't have sex with each other any more...and they know a little bit about each other's sex partners...but together, they raise their children and tend to their homes...they are basically playing house and it works for them...separate bedrooms in the same house, the in-laws are all none the wiser...
(Might be an important point, none of these couples lives in Singapore)

Once this arrangement can be worked out...life can go on and sex need not be the deal breaker in a marriage / relationship...

Just my 2 cents...can’t spare you the pain bros…just trying to help by making sense of things….