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Originally Posted by bernardlee
Marriage is tough to maintain without sex. My wife always claimed that I am a pervert when I tried to make "advances". WTF. This never happen during honeymoon and the first three years before the kid is born. Bros, better delay having kids when you really want good sex with wife. I secretly hated the kid and become jealous when the harmony of the marriage is disrupted.
Oh dear !!..tats dangerous thinking bro ! ...wat so good abt getting into a marriage r/s if it has to come to such a point like jealousy...children are God's gifts to enhance n bond the family closer tgt not break-up the family  ....sorry , bro bernardlee.. am not blaming you for feeling tis way...it is totally understandable...jus tat it happened n u can't help but feel tis way !!...its a natural feeling...OMG, why has marriage i/o of bringing joy to couples has brought forth such mental dilemmas for the HBs instead by the refusal to hv sex...If tats the case, how i wish there's no such thing as GETTING MARRIED in tis world....why were we even created male n female in the 1st place ???...given a choice, i would rather remain single n distance myself frm those human female species who are capable of causing so much emotional distress to their partners by their hard hearted attitudes  ...
Now what can I do? Resign to fate loh. I cannot simply walk out of the marriage since I have to be responsible for the household and the child. Can I go bonking in G lang and come home as a good husband? I will be very guilty of doing this. Some bros can handle this well as a way to save their marriage, but I cannot escape the sense of guilt. I still love my wife if not I won't get married with her.
Sorry, bro bernardlee, no offense meant and wif all due respect to u n ur marriage,...we often hear pple say " Its HISTORY " ..n " we got to let go and move on "...else there may be more misery for either one or even both the parties. Pls do not misunderstand, am not saying you dun love ur wifey or vice versa...for tis, only the both of you know urselves best..
Situations or Things always happen at a point in time.. which becomes the past after it has happened wif the ticking on of the clock. We may tink tat we hv made a correct thing or decision at tat point in time which may or may not actually be so....But the saddest thing is tat many of us do not realise that TIME changes situations n pple...the way they think and do the same things...The world never remains static n we cannot expect the status quo to remain forever unchanged...TIME moves us on every minute whether we like it or not...ticking away...sigh ...So even if things began well in the past or past decisions hv been made correctly, the situation may changed to be different today...The sooner we realise tis, the beta...so tat we can make pragmatic n necessary adjustments which r usually painful to our changed situations....and hopefully continue on to live a life happily after.. |
Hope things will work out well for all couples who hv tis problem
...my plea to those young guys wishing to go into marriage,.. is to consider very carefully if can withstand a sexless marriage or one tat jus go thru' the motions some time down ur married lives.. b4 u sign on tat dotted line wif ur Miss Right...rather than later having to seek the services of FLs, WLs etc shortly after the wedding for ur unfulfilled needs which ur wives do not wish or want to provide...which by so doing u break their hearts ... Best wishes !!