[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by queeniegal

Guys is use sex to show and reconcile their love whereas Gals like to use words and emotional on it.

Hence, gals no matter wife or gf even normal friends they want attention ha..

Wife or Gf prefer affection, caring, patient and understanding partner then to have a guy just want sex.

Yes true...

But have you thought of this from the other angle??

Rewrite it from the guys point of view...

....Hence, guys no matter husband or BF they want sex ha..

Husband or BF prefer sex, quick sex or slow sex and a willing partner then to have a girl just want to talk all night with no action.


If a guy is dating a girl, maybe have to work harder to get into her pants...and that is the attraction (under false advertising obviously) to get married so that we don't have to try hard all the time...I pleadge commitment of my time and effort to her and she gives me sex...

We can go all week discussing whether it is fair and which gender gives more to a marriage...but sex is essentially what guys want for return in a marriage...(how many guys do you know will say, I really want that woman to have my children because she has such good genes?? We seldom think that far ahead..)

So when you want sex, they feel you might not even understand her need but just to have your own pleasure of course is a turn off to a gal or wifey.

Ask yourself (guy) how long have you seriously sit down and listen to what your wife whining or complains she said? Or really put your heart to understand her needs? Or did you tell her your stress your problems? What u going thru.. What u facing?

Are you saying that women don't enjoy sex? Then how to explain the married FB that guys get?
They just don't want sex with the husband because they link it to obligation...

Seriously, I have had many FB back in the day who were married...and guess what...I never ever have to listen to her whine and complaint abvout things...it was meet up, have a coffee, how was your day? good? mine's good too...what time must you get going? 3 hours? great, me too...and straight to the action...
I, however, cannot say if they are still giving sex to their husbands or not...I suspect they do simply becausethe FBs I had were all quite sexual...so they do enjoy and want sex...

But there are so many wives out there...I am sure some are not giving their husbands but give to FB...for whatever reason, that is not acceptable...

I can close one eye...she can have FB outside....if I find women outside, my obligation is still to make my partner sexually satisfied...and she should do the same.

(I do agree with you that a husband should listen to the wife's problems...however...the more they talk, the less time for sex...I can almost guarantee you...after the long talk...oh, it's so late already...we have to sleep honey...don't worry, sex this weekend ok? Then...that weekend...you don't listen to me and care about me today, so I don't feel like sex...
Once a husband has been trained like this...the weekday whine session? Siam...eventually, the weekend session also siam because she will promise sex for next weekend...
And from there it's is a downward cycle...)

Some wife I know they really not into bedroom stuff but why some before marriage having wonderful time but after marriage things change??

Think thru look back what really went wrong.

What went wrong is ...they got married...

As you said...not dating so no need to impress any more.. .she fucked him enough to impress him...now the test drive over, he bought the product...no more sex...why? Warranty expired after weeding night...no money back, no long term service contract and no parts exchange...