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Originally Posted by erkobb

If its really pleasurable for them, why won't they play ball too?

This is because you are thinking like a man...

For most women, and I dare say 80-90% of them...getting an orgasm is not the goal of sex...yes, it's great when it happens...but what they really want in sex is the intimacy...

Once they link sex to being an obligation...they no longer feel the intimacy...

Why? Because they link the guy having sex with them as the source of their stress, their problem and part of their dreaded daily routine and life...
That is also why some married women seek FB...morally right or wrong doesn't matter at the moment...but with an FB, it's quick release without all the emotional links of their real life...no problems, stress or attachment of blame and obligation...just the intimacy of having a man's body close to hers...two hearts beating as one blah blah blah...

This is the reason people will be more enthusiastic when doing volunteer work than at their real jobs...they are doing it because they want to...plus, they can walk away from it if it gets too much...with the real job...obligation, stress, necessity and can only walk away when a better job comes up...

Link that to male/female relationships and you have a better handle on the whys...

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