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Originally Posted by smay
Bro,
Our sister is right. You don't understand women. I shall not say I understand woman fully. But I can say I do understand 90% of my wife mindset.
She asked me sometimes back as to how do I feel about her or how much do I know her. Guess what is my reply:"sometimes you are like my mother, sometimes you are my lovely wife and sometimes you are my younger daughter (We have a 19 yo daughter). She remained silent.
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Yes bro...I do not fully understand women...
I don't feel the need to fully understand them though...I have been fucking around for the last 20 years...I have no trouble getting women...
Trouble starts when the heart gets involved...because once she knows it...she can (consciously or not) blackmail me with her actions...
I do not play their game...so what happens? They have to play mine...
Yes, I agree...I may never experience the love these bros feel from their wives and children...but it is a trade off I am willing to accept...
I have been there...begging every night...to this one woman who proclaims that she loves me...yet, obviously does not love me enough to 'entertain' me for a few minutes, by letting me have sex with her body...by the one year no-sex stage...I didn't care about making love to her any more...I just wanted release with a warm female body...with the woman who made me believe that she loves me...
It was around the end of the second year that I realised...fuck me...there are plenty of warm female bodies out there...and they do not even ask for forever, or a house, or a car...just buy them a drink...chat and listen to them a bit...and they will fuck me...not dead fish style...not letting me use their bodies...but actually participate and actually fuck me...why?? Simply because they wanted to...they say they like me...
Dear oh dear...here is a woman who wants to fuck me because she likes me, and she doesn't even know my full name yet...then there is this woman who says she LOVES me, holds all my assets and money...but just will not fuck me...
Which one should I choose to hang out with? Physically, it's a no brainier right??
Yes, it was tough to part with all my money and assets...but I thought it through...what the hell? Having all the money in the world but live a miserable life is just not what I want...
I gave her not half bro...I gave her everything...I walked out with just the clothes I was wearing...
Oh wait...I did not die...not having a woman say she loves me did not kill me...
I now know...do I need the bullshit of emotional blackmail? Hell no.
I like the women I'm with...and they like me...otherwise they won't hang around...I just don't allow myself and them, to get to a point when I can use money or they can use sex to control each other...I like to think we have more balance relationships...
Nevertheless...I understand what these bros are going through...I see them struggling with their choices...they are not me...and I will never be them again...so what do we do?
I give them suggestions...that I agree...will not work for a functional family husband and wife setting...but we are not dealing with functional husband and wife situations here (read my reply above)...drastic measures are needed...and yes, finally, one of the bros got sex for the first time in a long long time...
Does the means justify the end?? I don't know...I can only suggest what works as far as I can see...if you have a better, workable idea, by all means share it? Some of these bros have been dry for many years...they do not need theories and nice words....they need results...
Please...give them your best ideas...if you don't have a workable solution...hey, mine is working...so let's try mine for a while...ok??
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