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Originally Posted by smay
Bro,
By saying the sister is right doesn't mean that I support her action.....
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Hi bro...
So sorry if I made you feel that I was pointing at you in my last post...I wasn't ok bro?
I was just using your point and was yelling at the universe...
Sure bro, men and women are so different that we will never fully understand each other...BUT...
The only thing, in nature, that a man and a woman are both built to do together...is sex...
Yes, we can blame the changing rules that prevent men from having 3-4 wives...we can blame the women lib movement....we can blame our own stupidity that we subscribed to the one man one woman, till death do us part romanticism...
But blaming gets us nowhere...
We have a problem...a situation...and drastic measures are needed...
Please go back (maybe 2 pages) where I gave bro Bernardlee my plan...
Yes, it was meant as a threat...but what has he got to lose? I already told him that the worst case scenario is she divorces him. At that point, it would have been a relief, even if he does not agree.
Men should not live like that after marriage...not in the modern age...in the old days, yes, maybe sex once a year is better than no sex...but in today's world??? In Sg???
No frigging way!!!!
Sex is everywhere...forget temptation bro...none is needed...you cannot turn on the tv without seeing at least a sex scene every hour...legal and illegal prostitutes are available...even 18 yo are talking about finding a fuck buddy...damn...I did not even understand the concept of sex fully at 18...now they have fuck buddies?? And who are these women willing to be their fuck buddies?? Yes, unless 1000 guys are sharing the same woman as their FB...there must be close to 1000 women liking sex with these boys right??
Do NOT believe for a second that women dislike sex and that sex is a chore to them...they simply CHOOSE to see it as a chore when it suits them...
So we know, single guys are fucking around having the time of their lives...ok, not all of them...but my point is...they can...right??
But here...a guy feels enough love for a woman, that he is willing to give up that lifestyle, or even the possibility of living that lifestyle...to commit all of him to her...and she repays that promise by withholding sex??????
WTF...what did he make the promise for??
So that he can help with the housework? Wait, he already did that at his own home befor marriage...To pcc every night when wife says no??? Wait, he already did that before marriage...So that he can have children?? Wait, millions of children are born out of wedlock...where did they come from???
If I, as a single guy, fucks around...I'm a stud and actually more women check me out...but if a husband fucks around, he is an unfaithful, heartless bastard who cheated on hs wife...
So marriage is not a good thing for guys right?? What is the benefit, if not the hope and promise of regular sex, with someone he cares for...
Now if we remove the sex...then the guy has given up everything in return for absolutely nothing...Well, nothing a single guy cannot get from somewhere anyway...but shit...he is married, so he cannot (should not) use the methods a single guy can freely use...
Why???? What has he done to deserve this fate?? All he did...was to commit to a woman he believes he loves...one...single...mistake...
We want to love...we need to love...
But I will say this till my dying breath...to both men and women...
If you do not love yourself enough to make your own life better, you are incapable of loving anyone else because it will only be lip service.
If she wants a divorce...so be it...
I know, not all the bros can handle that...
But guys...you have to decide where the line is drawn...what is the end game??
Do you want to end up telling people...(like some bros posted) that actually, growing plants and raring fish is healthier than having sex? So glad your wife forced you into such a healthy lifestyle...now you will live 15 years longer...15 more years of no sex...great...thanks! But no thanks!!!
I cannot tell any bro here that divorce is the way for them...and I am not saying that...I am just saying...
What are the alternatives??? Do something about it or forever hold your peace...
Is divorce painful? Yes! Will you die because of it? No!!
Once you have stared divorce in the face, and feel no fear...you are now ready to negotiate with your wife, and try to make your marital relationship better...
Do not try to do it one minute earlier because she will use the D word and you will give in.
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