[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Yes I can't agreed more with bro Wizrd on the highlighted portion. I tried the same thing with my oc too, honestly I was going through a real rough patch needed someone to talk but seems like ironically my oc was the last person i could have a heart to heart talk...end up i have a female confidante (if you reading this you know who you are)...i was actually going through a bout of depression, really a lack of active sex life can really makes you feel depress...i told oc i was confiding in someone about our problem..she hit the roof and felt so insulted, that an outsider has to come and teach us how to run our lives...i suggested to her to talk to this female confidante of mine, perhaps as women they can relate to each other...i can only say the whole matter left a bad taste behind...true be told, not every woman wants to be told how to be "real" woman....

Originally Posted by purple001

Personal point of view- if my ex is gonna find me a counsellor (a female one esp.) to tell me that one of my duties being a wife is to provide sex to my husband, I'll definitely hit the roof. Frankly, the last thing I would want to hear is someone teaching me how to manage my marriage life. Whether is it right or not, it should nvr be from another person's mouth..esp sensitive issues like this. Other issues like communication prob, how to maintain good relationship etc... It's fine, and I might be more willing to listen.. Lol.

Thanks both...we all know this actually...but desperation makes us ignore the pitfalls when our hands grasps at straws, with the hope to pass our problem onto another...professional....person.

Special thanks to sis purple001 for confirming my hypothesis and understanding of women...


There we have it bros....talk to you wife...use the ultimatum method, don't use the ultimatum method...it is entirely up to you....let the woman choose a female counsellor should you both wish to go that way...but do NOT ambush her!!

I still believe it is the husband who has to do the talking with the wife...most bros are reluctant to do so because of fear...a fear of the uncertainty in the outcome...but if you have prep your own mind for the worst case scenario...ie: divorce...then you will be brave enough to initiate communication with your wife...

Do that...and do that soon...you owe it to yourself to understand your own wife's mindset on enjoying sex with you...and get your marriage back on track...


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