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Originally Posted by Wizrd
Bro Jim...
Please understand that I am not against your suggestion of talking to counsellors...I am against the way that you suggested...that you go find one, tell her your problems...THEN call the wife and say, honey, I love you very much and because of that I went and seeked marriage counselling, and by the way, please expect a call from a counsellor....
That will get our bros here killed!!
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If you are at the point where you are scared of your wife or scared of her reaction to you talking to a cousellour, you're not ready yet. Your head has not exploded yet. You'll get to the point where you don't give a shit what her reaction is, that is when you go and talk to the cousellor. Depression is a fantastic motivator.
You don't "Call the wife", you talk to her. Put the cousellour's card on the table and say "I went to see a cousellour at MCYS today because I have been very depressed. The cousellour asked if its ok for her to call you, will that be ok?". If your wife says no, you go and see your lawyer, its done. If she says yes, away you go.
I'm asuuming that the gentlemen writing here are at the end of their tethers and ready to either:
1. Fix their marriage,
2. End their marriage.
If they're just here bitching, they're not ready for either. One day they will be.
Cheers,
Jim