[bernardlee]

Hi bro,

Here are some tips for guys who found themselves in a sexless marriage:-

It works for me. Post here for your reference.

With no sex for a long time, your little head will sure explode. It will control your big head and keeps suggesting silly ideas like going to Geylang to have sex, going to massage to have HJ. If you really do eat outside, your marriage life is in danger. Make sure your wife never find out you eat outside!! No woman can tolerate her man eats outside.

Here is the interim solution to live in a dry season:

1) Sign up some gym membership
2) Go to gym and workout on a regular basis; I workout 6 days a week, an hour each session, a day to rest the muscles
3) TELL your wife why you are going to gym. BECAUSE of no sex my hormones are raging. I am sorry that I pester you for sex last time, it is all due to my silly sexual hormones. Now I am in control and need to go gym every day to exhaust my sexual homones. TELL her sincerely and honestly.
4) if you really go to gym and workout cardio for an hour almost every day, I guarantee it is much healthier and better than spending money on prostitutes. The after exercise fulfillment, satisfaction is much much better.
5) after a period of gym exercises, you can control your sexual desire much easier. At least I won't go crazy if my wife rejects me for sex. I feel more calm.
6) next change your diet to avoid taking red meats like beef, mutton etc. Eat more vegetables. This further help to control the little head from exploding.
7) Learn meditation to calm your mind. Remove the sexual thoughts.
8) After 3 months of gym session, I reduced my weight.
9) This is important too. Exercise your abs and build up the 6 packs if possible. Women love men with developed abs. I put up a few of Bruce Lee posters in my room to motivates me.
10) Go for sun tan. A darker tan looks much healthier and sexier.


You see... As a men we also need to do our part to look good and sexy. It helps your career and also attracts your woman. Let her feel the threat that you have the capability of attracting women and you are a women magnet.

The important key is as a man you must take control of the situation.

Next use bro Wizrd ultimatum method to "show hand" with my wife.

This woke her up. Now she fully believe that a man needs sex. His poor husband is "suffering" and going through the tough gym sessions because of lack of sex. I further explained to her that I am a man of high libido ( higher sex drive than the average guys) hence must go through all these extreme measures to keep the hormones in check if there is no normal sex.

You must know your wife before going the ultimatum. I know she will not take the road of divorce. First I have not done anything wrong yet. She MUST do something to mend the marriage AND accepting the point that sex is a must. Let her know that without sex for a good reason is a legal ground to divorce.

Next after slapping your wife to wake up, you must sayang her.

With all the exercises, I have higher energy and can completes more house work to help her out. Mop floor, wash dishes, vacuum, play with kid etc

Very important to shower her with love.

Before both of you sleep, try to re initiate the fire by talking about the past. Talking about the places you both went to. Bring her back to her sweet memory.
This is the harder part but is the key part to re harmonise the marriage.

It is just like the car engine is dead half way on the road, and you die die must jump start it. START THE ENGINE OF LOVE AGAIN! All women are like that: NO LOVE NO SEX. Just pour them with love and drown them, then ML with them.
THIS IS A HARD FACT. THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH IN THIS WORLD. You want some thing you just got to work for it. How sad but true.

Always remember that marriage is a marathon. You have to put in lot of efforts to make it work til the end.