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Originally Posted by Hurricane88
you are in the right forum and asking right questions...
I checked thru your history...your gf is a WL...she was only 19yrs old...
that explains why the hurry to get married...because to you she is a good gal...to me and others...once a WL always a tendency to resort back to WL once things are not going her way...do you want that to happen??...
give the relationship 2 years and time will tell all what will happened if both of you can still love each other after that...you already termed "emotional blackmail" and knowing that why do you need to rush...you are right that your parents may not be able to agree...so take your time to consult and bring her to get to know your family well...let relationship matured a bit more...and get stable... 
how old are you today? i guessed you are in mid 20s and should be too young to settle down...if you are late 20s and financially are you stable...have you read bro SV comments about being able to apply LTVP, PR, HBB, etc....with a stable job and income...
6 months relationships to me is a bit rush and still too short to get to know each other...i dun like to be pressured into making decisions...if anyone do that i will walk away...I had done that and will continue to do..."if you trust a WL then pigs can climb trees...and that's my opinion... |
Hi Bro Hurricane88,
Thank you for being meticulous and check back the background to my story and issue. I am thankful that i gave out this cry for help and advice.
I am in my early 30s. Financially stable.
I have requested for her to come to visit my parents but she says that her mum will not allow her to come without my parent going over to talk about marraige first. I reckon that this is to prevent her family to lose face in the case of coming to visit me and then later on the marraige never happen. Her mum is worried that I cheat her.
So it puts me in a catch 22 situation. If this is the way it is how will i ever get her to come and know my family first. But yet again i am able to understand her rationale behind her and he family thoughts. They want some sort of a promise before allow things to progress. Again, not the way we handle things here in Singapore.
6 months in indeed short. I hope that I make a wise choice. Breaking her heart if things do not fall thru, is also something that i would want to prevent too.
Dilemma truly. But i need to keep my head clear.
Regards