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Originally Posted by cawca

IMO..... kids are simply a convenient excuse for women to justify themselves when they fail in their duties. My wife and I have 3 young kids to care for but that has never been used as an excuse for us to cut back on our intimacy. While we've had to make sacrifices and give up certain aspects of our lives, we still manage to have sex every other day to every day.

It is therefore, more likely the psychology and beliefs of the couple that determines the decline in sexual intimacy.

1. Ambition - Women are generally more ambitious than men and this can be seen from an early age. This leads to the view that sex in a couples life should take a 'back seat'. A woman marries hoping her husband will change while the man marries hoping his wife doesn't change.

2. Love n Sex - When the 2 are viewed as entirely seperate entities, sex naturally loses its value. Where a marriage is concerned, it'll be good for the 2 to be viewed as going hand in hand.

3. Ownership - What's the point in marriage when you still refuse to acknowledge that you now belong to your spouse. While those with more 'modernistic' view may frown at this point, I simply do not see the purpose of marriage without this. In fact, this very point has many implications on the directions of a marriage that can be discussed as a seperate topic.

Bro, full marks on all points!

10/10.

Well said.

Cheers,
Jim