[junior_cannibal]

First, let me say this, my marriage ain't a bliss.

I have heard from my fellow friends that their wives ain't that keen of having sex, may be from day one when they got married, or after their kids were bornt.

When your wife starts to avoid having sex, before you conclude she ain't keen, check on the following:

- was she having a stressful day?
- did you guys try to time the sex, e.g. let's do it only on Friday night
- if you guys are both working, do you need a super long sex, or a nice, spontaneous quickie would be better?
- this list can go on and on. Last but not least, did she appear different now? E.g. dressing, behaviour.. In the modern world, not only man looks for FB, our fellow women could be doing the same, if not better

If it is none of the above, what about asking yourself what you guys loved about each other at the start, were those reason still valid and around. If so, why do you guys don't do it like it used to be. If not, why did you guys remain together? Just for the kids or other reason? If right from the start, your spouse already not really interested in sex, what makes you think she will like it now? Afterall, most men have sex while most women make love. These two are similar but ain't the same.

A so called lousy marriage is like a lousy job, when you ditch the lousy job, what makes you think that the next job would be a better one? Thus, before you ditch the job, do a sincere and honest self and soul check.