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Originally Posted by Wizrd

Sure bro...but there are all kinds of people in the world...nowadays, there are plenty of women who are more interested in their careers than settling down young...be there for them in their 20s and by the time they are ready for marriage around early 30s...you can help them find a better match for marriage and then move on...

Think of it this way...while some women hate giving BJs...there are equal number of women who love giving BJ...if we hook up with a woman who hates giving BJ and then complain about not getting BJ...is that the fault of the woman?? No...it's partially our fault because we should have known that she is not into giving BJs...all we have to do is find the ones who love giving BJ and we are happier...

Nevertheless...the original argument still remains...being human...after a while...either she slowly stops giving BJ (due to tireness, boredom and whatnot...)...then it is time to move on...

Communicate....talk about what is important to both of you...and agree right from the start that if things are no longer rosey and sweet...that you are able to discuss the issues calmly...and if things are still not working out, one or both parties can press the eject button and move on...

Having said all that...and the worry that women are clingy and must settle down...be sure that you can handle rejection too...if she says she is moving on...do not get angry or bitter...be her friend and move on...who knows, maybe she will introduce another woman friend to you if you stay nice and gentlemanly...after all, she is fully aware of your lifestyle and thinking because she agreed to it in the first place...perhaps she knows a girlfriend or two who share the same ideal...

I am very over the fact that being in a relationship means must get married...I think being in a relationship simply means being happy for the time together...nothing more...and you will be surprised at how many women think similarly too ...

My lottery ticket is to eventually find a woman that we are both so happy to be together that we will stay together for longer than expected...I am happy to keep changing and seeking to find my own happiness...to find someone who will share the same idea of fun as me...even if it is only for a year or two...

Oooh wow !..bro Wizrd...great to see u back contributing ur POVs in tis wifey thread ! ...Where hv u been all tis while ??..

Well said, u are really a guru of sorts on such r/s matters. Enjoy reading the words of wisdom frm ur own experiences, which u hv shared in ur original post abv...Keep it up, bro !! .. haha...cos it benefits all bros reading ur tis msg..

Cheers !

Originally Posted by joncheong

but there will also be ladies who think we are making use of them only if we keep having sex with them without any intention of marrying them...

i once brought a lady overseas for a short trip to hk....had sex for two nights there...when back in singapore she helped me plan a wedding....scared the shit out of me and she went cranky when i told her i am not ready for marriage yet...

Thank u, bro joncheong for ur contributions here in tis thread too ! You r a bachelor enjoying life both ways...
Happy u r finding ur own happiness in ur own way...Cheers to u !

Originally Posted by Botakhead

Wife is forever unless divorced, FB is short term - never more than a few months, longest is 1 year. GF is risky investment, anytime cum anytime go. FL is got money to spent and release. End of the day, men still have to go home and with sum luck, wife giv FJ, bbbj, HJ or cold shoulder.

Bro Botakhead, enjoy ur humour in ur post abv...haha...so hilarious as highlighted in dark blue..

Originally Posted by Sadlady

I did experienced once when my fiance and i fought because i rejected him as i was still having my mens. He got so damn upset with me and that was the time we had longest cold war. It was only how i can feel how he feels when i initiated and he rejected me. That moment i told myself i wont inititate anymore and i cried for the whole night. Thereafter, we did had a hth talk. Things get much more better and i cant deny that sex does bring our relationship even more closer. I will always do my best to satisfy him because i love him, though after work i am quite tired esp during my peak period but i do understand his needs.

TQ sis Sadlady...At least, there'e one wifey here who understands the sexual needs of her hubby. There r other wifeys like her who understands but they r few n far between...Most others are jus too busy wif life's matters to understand each other on tis need...sigh
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