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Originally Posted by queeniegal
Hi TS
You are dying for a change so you decided to married her.. Hmmm I would say it might not be a good choice before marriage already so many issues after marriages it would be worst.
Miracle won't happen.
She is not Singaporean right so getting married is to obtain her pr? Or citizenship? Sometimes don't under estimate a lady you may belittle her lowly educated then you.
Well after marriage divorce, you need to give her alimony also house if share name have to give her half of it. - not very sure but well that the basic stuff I always heard
Take some days off from work, book a trip to somewhere alone. Have a good thought of it. Really you want to spend your rest of your life with her. If so I do give you my blessing
Preparation till the day you still can call it off. I have friend last mins before the day of married that gal run off or guy. Pretty common these days.
Or maybe should try understand each other more again then settling down.
Don't want go back to dark days also don't have to buried yourself into a dark future with every day having arguments. Is too tiring ESP after hard day at work all we need is someone there listening or sharing his or her day.
Advising on each other, comforting each other, encouraging and caring .
Pardon me being kpo I just can't help to reply you cause I have a friend lately doing his divorce undergoing lots of stress and being retrenched.
Oh you went operations, hope u feeling better! Take more tonic!
Birdnest very good for operations.
Good luck!
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She IS a Singaporean. So the issue of "marriage for citizenship/PR" is not really there.
I have no idea what turned her into this 'thing' I am handling now. She ran into rough patches in her previous relationships and when I knew her, she was climbing out of her own rough patch (I was going through my dark times as well and having no one to turn to, I have to bloody my own feet and hands to climb out of my own pit).
Her old advices to me when I'm having problems previously or feeling stressed? She would not say anything, and just give me a long hug.
Her new advices? "This is life, suck it up."
Previously, she was like, "You are so noble, making sacrifices for your family."
Now, she is like, "Why are you so stupid? Do your family appreciate it? You need money now, will your family give you? And your sibling whom you'd supported to go through Uni is a 败家子."
I do not know what had caused her to change drastically this way. Giving me candies AND hammering me after.
I really wanted to marry her, to fix her life, to give her happiness. But it all feels like my own positive energy had been drained away by her now and its changing back into the old negative, cynical energy that I'd sworn to eradicate.