Is this a prelude to a sex agenda?

Edyta · #1 19-11-2012, 10:18 PM

Married man asking a woman for drinks quite regularly. One on one but nothing happens over last 6 months, hello hugs n gdbye hugs only. The man initiates all these outings n took the woman to quite nice n exclusive places. The woman declined a few times but invites continue.

Can this be just platonic given that both of them are in the same industry n have plenty to talk about? Or its always a prelude to a NSA sex agenda that the woman should run like no tomorrow if she is not interested to be the other woman?

Thanks

jasdude · #2 19-11-2012, 10:24 PM

Honestly it does not seems to be heading in the right track. But there might be still a "slight" possibility of platonic friendship. No matter what, it takes two hands to clap and two to tango to the tempo.

alanthedevil · #3 19-11-2012, 10:26 PM

too often and not, such innocent outings will take a twist and end up on the bed. imo, no happily married man will date lady out on expensive dates just for innocent chats without expecting any form of ROI.

the fact that the whole saga lasted 6 mths already seems that the marriage could be a prob.

if u are the lady in this scenario, if u really do not want to have any other business with this man, then perhaps distance yourself even more.

owl888 · #4 19-11-2012, 10:32 PM

Woman goes with guy one on one means something and it happens for so long.....sure something good gonna happen

zveron · #5 19-11-2012, 10:57 PM

everything happen for a reason...

maybe she remind him of a lost love/wife/mother/sister etc, maybe he is interested in her wealth or her position of power, maybe he is a spy trying to steal information from her... And many more reasons we may think of. But the most probable is that he is trying to get into her.

then again she may want to play along for many reasons other than sex, but she would want to be frank and have a good talk with him to set the parameters of the meeting right. It may seem embarrassing, but will save lots of headache later if misunderstanding are allow to continue.

Edyta · #6 19-11-2012, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by owl888

Woman goes with guy one on one means something and it happens for so long.....sure something good gonna happen

I got a really stupid question, hope you dont mind. Are all one on one drinks with a man considered a date? I am not in anyway a young gal but i have never assume anything when i go for one, or maybe from now on i should be aware of this?

singacock · #7 19-11-2012, 11:07 PM

Life is full of twist and turns and you never know where the next road will lead you to. I have personally done nice dinner and drinks with gals despite being married and if they are comfortable with you, they will agree to the next date and the next.

Barriers do fall over time and the woman once comfortable with you will reciprocate your initiatives be it hugs and kisses or a full fledged romp in bed. It takes chemistry to get to this point so don't set this as your main goal but rather work towards it.

At the end of the day, you may end up with a gal that will only your best friend. So let it be, she is still a friend worth having and to treasure.

justl00king · #8 19-11-2012, 11:43 PM

Anything is possible given the circumstances.

I always try to sex it up by 3 dates.

callmebad · #9 20-11-2012, 12:00 AM

will this lead to sex ?
possible
it will be very much dependent on the gal side
as for men, they always have this desire to bed another woman who is not his wife if there is the chance even though it may be slim

Krazzie · #10 20-11-2012, 12:31 AM

If you are married or attached I don't think it is right to go out with just a guy friend for drinks.

If you are not... proceed

just be prepared for any consequences

Krazzie · #11 20-11-2012, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by singacock

Life is full of twist and turns and you never know where the next road will lead you to. I have personally done nice dinner and drinks with gals despite being married and if they are comfortable with you, they will agree to the next date and the next.

Barriers do fall over time and the woman once comfortable with you will reciprocate your initiatives be it hugs and kisses or a full fledged romp in bed. It takes chemistry to get to this point so don't set this as your main goal but rather work towards it.

At the end of the day, you may end up with a gal that will only your best friend. So let it be, she is still a friend worth having and to treasure.

Haha very true bro. One of my female ex-colleague is my good 'buddy' now, very good friends but no sex involved.. but true to be said its damn rare for it to happen.. because more often end up in bed

owl888 · #12 20-11-2012, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

I got a really stupid question, hope you dont mind. Are all one on one drinks with a man considered a date? I am not in anyway a young gal but i have never assume anything when i go for one, or maybe from now on i should be aware of this?

if the guy is not attractive to you would u go one on one drinks? Or u dun trust that guy would u? Imho, this is the basic to develop further in a relationship....

PeaceWithin · #13 20-11-2012, 10:50 AM

Let's put it this way...

1) If the guy doesn't like the gal... would the invitations come?
2) If you don't want to drink... why go to the pub?

Or you are unsure yourself...
If you don't want the invites, just state your terms. Whether he accepts is up to him. And whether you continue accepting... is also up to you.

Just make sure you can live with whatever you decide.

SH149 · #14 20-11-2012, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

I got a really stupid question, hope you dont mind. Are all one on one drinks with a man considered a date? I am not in anyway a young gal but i have never assume anything when i go for one, or maybe from now on i should be aware of this?

Simple .... Just ask

I don't like play guessing game

Siriusam · #15 20-11-2012, 11:11 AM

Simple, are all the dinners and drinks on him?

If he's paying for everything then it is definitely trailing towards more-than-friend route.

If you guys are going dutch, then it is almost always platonic only.

If you're not comfortable with having a more-than-friends r/s with him, I suggest you go dutch and if he insist to be that gentleman paying for everything, then you should decide if you should continue to see him.