Bro rebirth need help - wife have affair

[5ag1_Boar]

Bro rebirth posted in another thread (), but it will get lost there. So I help him start new thread.

Originally Posted by rebirth

Hey guys, here to share my sad story.

I had been suspecting my wife for having affair but could not get evidence till last friday...

This day, as usual I left early for work but I have thought of buying wife coffee for breakfast. Hence, called back home to ask her what she wants for breakfast. Maid said she left home already to buy bread. I said okay thinking she still need coffee I continued to the hawker center to buy from her favourite stall.

When reached, i saw her sitting at the table and was happily talking over the phone. I was curious normally she is too lazy to go hawker center alone, thus i decided to stay and watch. I sms her asking where is she. Her reply was to buy bread. Hey, near our block there is a provision shop why come all the way to hawker center?

I sitted far away so that she could not see me. After 10 mins of waiting, finally someone came. Is her boss from other department whom i suspected. He walked to her. Both of them smiled. Then he bend down to kiss her! She too stretched her arms to give him a hug. As they hug, i could see his hands moved from her back to waist to butt touching her. Upon the sight, my blood was boiling and dam furious. I told myself to confront them immediately but to probe further. I patiently watched them.. All this while, hands touching each other, smiling and kissing.

After their food, their actually bravely hold hands and walked away to carpark. I followed. They stopped at second level, an partially opened partially blocked carpark. Wife was facing inwards while him facing outwards to the streets. They were very close. They stood there near the walls; chatted, smiled and kiss. Hands were roaming everywhere. Could see half his body leaning on her. His hand was stretched to her groin. Like hugging like fingering. Then i realised, their lips locked. He was actually rubbing her. Few mins later, he daringly moved his hands into her skirt. From the looks of my wife, she was enjoying and actually could see her mouth opening as if moaning. The action goes on, his hands were moving faster and faster as i could see from her expression she was cumming. Her hands clenching tighly to him and seconds later, she let out a stream of loud moan which i could hear clearly from my distance and her body start to shiver there after. She collapsed onto his shoulder, smiled and kissed him. He removed his hand from her skirt and she took his fingers into her mouth to lick her own juice.

They were still in their estascy not knowing I was there standing behind them. I appearance gave them a shock. They pushed each other aside. I shaked my head and walked away. Till today, i have not gone home, she called me phone for countless time, i just hanged it up. i am too heart broken and speechless. Thinking what i should do next. All the trust that I have from her seem all gone.

[5ag1_Boar]

Bro, I have to go out already. So my quick advice is talk to her. See what she wants. Wo.t solve anything, but good to know what she is thinking. She probably confused too tight now.

Sure will get angry when talking to her. Make sure you don't do anything regrettable out of anger like slapping her or something.

[wali-kota]

should take the video on their action at the car park.
will be useful later in court for Divorce.

[maggikari49]

I can totally understand the pain of betrayal..My ex-gf left me for some ah beng working in a cyber cafe.

[S i l v i a]

2 ways out

1) She keep calling you meaning she still cares about this marriage relationship. She might be full of guilt now.

2) She dun call you at all, meaning this is THE END. She still keep this guy and try to anger you more.

From your view that she keep calling,meaning she still cares about you. You might want to go home and sit inside both of your room and talk it out. REMEMBER talk it out, not shouting! Tell her how you feel and see how she consoles you back...if it's a 1 time affair, maybe you might want to forgive her and move on, at least now she is the guilty party.

If she want to broke up with you,in my humble view, move on lah bro. This kind of wife have is also equal to dun have.

Most importantly, dun give up on yourself. Dun behave like those cry everyday or drink till drunk everyday. Like that you will only prove to her that you're a weakling. Instead, try to go out with your best friends or keep yourselves busy with work. In no time, you will be a HAPPY man again

[Long_LL]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Bro rebirth posted in another thread (), but it will get lost there. So I help him start new thread.

If no children, just divorce. It's not worth it trying to patch up as the image and knowledge that she has cheated on him will never be erased.

Never marry, let all the women in the world be spinsters.

[hiretuja]

If you want to forgive her, pls forgive her sincerely, in future if got arguments dunt bring this thing up again.

Have you ever 2 timed her before? If you have, ever got caught? If yes to both then maybe you will feel how she felt last time. If no, you are the examplary one woman man, then Im afraid you have to answer her call, talk things out, see where you have gone wrong that made her do such things.

If you can live with the knowledge yr wife ever cheated/had an affair on you, then move on, take her back

Even if you love someone doesnt mean you have to live your life with her. If you love her but she loves someone else, let her go. Thats a sacrifice. You will make sacrifices and hardships for the ones you love without them knowing how it feels, how it hurts.

Cheers bro

[iluvsyt]

Bro, that will very much depend on whether if u still luv her alot.
if u find that u cant live w/o her, then talk things out.
if u can go on w/o her, i suggest u move on.
but one thing here is, at least she still try to call u, proved that she still care abt the relationship.
Men has ECA, Women too will do that. (most human seldom satisfy with one and onli)

[Sirrus]

dump her so fast now

[popi824]

I know it sure hurts alot when u see the things happening infront of you.. Although it is not right to ask ppl to divorce, i think i will move on if i were you. Because i will not forget what i have seen. If you have children, then you might want to think twice for their sake.

[sammyjay]

Brother, don't feel too sad and it is a risk if we want to get marry.

I had bad experience in the past too.

Talk things out calmly and if really can't resolve, move on to prove to her that you can live a better life without her.

If you wish, you can PM me and we can meet up for coffee..

[HunterJ]

Be calm, and talk to her. No matter what happens, what she responded, if you can't accept it, just walk away. It depends on you, whether you will want to hold on to the relationship or not. But to be honest with you, not many people can accept their other half cheating on them. Even for me, I can't bring myself to accept and forgive it..

Have a good conversation, if possible, end things in a peaceful manner. Good luck.

[wolflust]

Main thing is whether you want still want to be with her.

1. No - gather all the evidence you have and you will have a clean clear cut divorce...

2. Yes - you must be prepared to forgive and forget...

No.2 is never easy for a man, your ego will one day get to you...

[Iloveschgirls]

You should have a peaceful confrontation with her. I see from ur previous posts that u frequent massages, which logically u are also betraying her. If u can live without her then I believe u should move on. If u have kids u might want to think twice with a divorce, kid should never be implicated and the fact that she's been calling u means that she still cares. Talk to her, find out where goes wrong in ur marriage. Good luck

[auntygranny]

Leave her. Find your happiness.