Nsf bf

winterwhite · #1 18-05-2012, 06:48 AM

hello all,

just needed a place to rant. I have been a silent reader for a week here to learn stuff on how to spice things up in the bedroom. my boyfriend is a nsf and his unit is super shiong -start training at 6am and go back to his bunk at 4am the next day. no admin time so we can't chat at all, and he will book out either on sat night or sun morning for the next few months. Its really frustrating and making me super tired

ugh.

Xgenre · #2 18-05-2012, 07:31 AM

Why are you super tired? You aren't serving NS. Emotionally tired is it? I'm sure you can find guys here who are willing to accompany you when your bf is protecting the nation. A lot of couples break up when the guy serves NS. If you are willing to wait for him, then got to learn to be more patient. If you can't accept a weekend bf, better don't drag and make yourself suffer for the rest of his 2 years of NS.

I'm surprised to read that he trains from 6 am to 4 am and only book out on Sat night or Sunday morning. I thought the army works on a 5 day work-week these days? Plus every soldier must have 7 hours of sleep right? What type of unit is so siong? Got bluff you or not? Perhaps he just doesn't wish to be always contactable because you are too sticky.

winterwhite · #3 18-05-2012, 10:25 AM

Sorry for the double post ! First time posting so not sure how it works haha! It's true because his trainings are shiong now. I don't want to point out the unit or he may get into trouble >~< and I am his first gf and he is those kind of guys that loves me to be sticky so definitely he is not making himself uncontactable because of that. Like I said I just needed someone to talk to so thanks for the advice..! Well appreciated

asdfghjkl · #4 18-05-2012, 11:41 AM

did you double post? remember not to do again.

rubberduckygirl · #5 18-05-2012, 10:14 PM

sis winterwhite, i can feel you. cos i too came here for the same reason. but it was not for this nsf guy.

i dont know how it started for you and your boy. but for me, me and my nsf exbf, we were constantly texting for the first month or so. and we actually spent some quality time together over the weekends. (i'd let him rest once he gets home on friday nights, and we will head out on sat. for sundays, i leave him alone to do his own things and he would pack and leave for camp around 8pm). things like these went on for about 2mths.

Until there was a week, he got confinement. I said it was fine, i will wait for him for another week. But when that week came, he totally changed. he become super quiet. Asked him if anything bothering him in camp, he replied no. asked him if anything bothering him at home, he too replied no. and the next few weeks went on, with lesser texts.

From about 50-100 texts a day... it went all the way down to say 10 texts? and no matter how many times i asked if everything's okay at camp. he just replied with a "ya". so i just assumed that it just inconvenient to share, cos its classified information (u know la.. its always those sensitive information in army).

2+ months, i told him im starting to feel insecure about whats happening between the both of us, and i really want to salvage this relationship, he only replied he need some time to think abt things. and just a lil over our 3rd month anniversary, he broke the news - he wants a breakup. cos he feel he cant commit at all.

just a three months thing. now thinking back, was that even a relationship? or was it just puppy love, infatuation of sorts? gosh... idk.

as much as i heard about my guy friends who got dumped by their girlfriends, cos they found better guys while their boys are slogging, sacrificing their 2 years... i am the one who got dumped instead. *shrugs.

Tico · #6 18-05-2012, 11:46 PM

Sis winterwhite

Its common for NSF to be busy esp the first 3 month when they having BMT. but later on slowly they will have more free time. so if u really like him u can try endure abit more. Gd luck to you

Sis rubberduckygirl

feel sad for you but dats happen to most guy in Singapore either gf feel lonely went away with another guy or they feel bad and cannot hold up the stress from you which end up breaking off. which i guess he feel even more painful den you with that kind of environment.

goldblow · #7 19-05-2012, 12:53 AM

My experiences are very different but heartwrenching.

My gf and i are now together for 4 years. But of late she has become very cold towards me. We used to hug kiss ect. but recently she cut off all physical intimacy and I feel very lost and dont realy know whats going on. in NS we fought alot, even though i stayin and could meet only every weekend. but now we meet everyday but the fire gone liao. haiz.

why, girls, why

HugeDoggy · #8 19-05-2012, 03:24 AM

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, this is a true test for the both of you. I feel you should embrace this test and see the results. More likely than not, it's a test for you for he can't do anything for he's in camp.

rubberduckygirl · #9 20-05-2012, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by goldblow

My experiences are very different but heartwrenching.

My gf and i are now together for 4 years. But of late she has become very cold towards me. We used to hug kiss ect. but recently she cut off all physical intimacy and I feel very lost and dont realy know whats going on. in NS we fought alot, even though i stayin and could meet only every weekend. but now we meet everyday but the fire gone liao. haiz.

why, girls, why

have you tried giving her little surprises? Im not saying things like flowers or expensive little gifts. but like for example, her fav cheesecake from her fav bakery? or a little card to say how much you love her? and perhaps you can try sounding out her close pals. maybe she could be stressed over something else and do not want you to worry thus not telling you about it.

FortuneCookies · #10 20-05-2012, 10:25 PM

Me and my then GF actually grew closer after my 3 months BMT course at Tekong.

LovePotion · #11 20-05-2012, 11:31 PM

Hi WinterWhite,
To be in a committed relationship with an NSF is never an easy task. While it may be be hard on you, always remember that it is equally difficult for your partner as well. If you so choose to be in a committed relationship, be committed. Be patient. If you know that the relationship will be an awesome one in the long run, be strong. Hope I was helpful

Greendevil · #12 21-05-2012, 06:10 PM

Dear TS, take this as a test for both of you. You must realise that not only NS will keep both of you apart, a lot of times like study, work, business trip and etc will keep two ppl apart for a period of time. Most relationship usually start off with a fiery flame, but more impt is hw long you can keep the flame burning. So if you realise that the flame is going weak, either fuel your flame with passion or put a cap to it.

goldblow · #13 22-05-2012, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by rubberduckygirl

have you tried giving her little surprises? Im not saying things like flowers or expensive little gifts. but like for example, her fav cheesecake from her fav bakery? or a little card to say how much you love her? and perhaps you can try sounding out her close pals. maybe she could be stressed over something else and do not want you to worry thus not telling you about it.

LOL rubberduckygirl I Pmed you.. the tagline was too tempting not to. hope toi hear from u!

winterwhite · #14 22-05-2012, 02:12 PM

Thank you all for your advices.. just a little background... We have been together for 3 1/2 years since poly days, and are planning to be together forever that kind haha! Even at our age (he's 21 and i m 20) we are thinking of the future together !

He is 9 months through his ns, and I know it will be tough and hard for the next 1 year 3 mths =/ I guess I'll just have to tahan loh. x.x

I do feel lonely at times, so I sometimes msg my friends (most of them are guys) and I am scared to tell him that I am messaging so and so, in case he gets jealous. He gets jealous really easily and is very possessive over me because I am his first gf ! I don't want to make it such that he thinks I am cheating on him because I have been very faithful since I was together with him !!

rubberduckygirl · #15 22-05-2012, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by winterwhite

Thank you all for your advices.. just a little background... We have been together for 3 1/2 years since poly days, and are planning to be together forever that kind haha! Even at our age (he's 21 and i m 20) we are thinking of the future together !

He is 9 months through his ns, and I know it will be tough and hard for the next 1 year 3 mths =/ I guess I'll just have to tahan loh. x.x

I do feel lonely at times, so I sometimes msg my friends (most of them are guys) and I am scared to tell him that I am messaging so and so, in case he gets jealous. He gets jealous really easily and is very possessive over me because I am his first gf ! I don't want to make it such that he thinks I am cheating on him because I have been very faithful since I was together with him !!

no serious shit! when me and my nsf bf got together, he was into his 9th month too! i was his first gf too! and yes. i too also have a lot of guy friends as well. i find guys easier to talk to, and relate than girls. hahaha.

3.5 yrs. pretty long i gotta say. just remember to give him a reassurance here and there. jiayou!! =)