infatuate with married man

july3rd · #1 24-08-2014, 10:37 PM

Hi Everyone

I'm confuse with my feeling toward my colleagues. We know each other for past 5 years same company. However, we does not really contact each other provided there some issues due to work related we will have more meetings and discussion.

It happen few months ago, our relationship from a known stranger to close friends.

We talk to each other everyday, when I'm on leave, he is on leave also. We both will meet up with his daughter around. We play at playground with his daughter. Both of us like very clear on weekend we won't talk to each other.

Tbh, from the start I really treat him like a Normal colleagues till he start taking my words seriously and told me his daughter fall sick, he won't be going to work. (We are not from same dept, hence he does not really need to report to me)

Things start get weird, he will actually remember every single things I said.

Am I being sensitive that there something wrong between us?
Should I continue meeting him and chat with him?

Tbh he is quite attractive to me in term of the way he carry himself and jostle around with me

I would say is more like infatuate love for me. However, I seem to every enjoy every single moment with him. Any advise from you guys here? Should I just ignore him?

LFsugarbabe · #2 25-08-2014, 09:14 AM

never eat at the place you shit

zan888 · #3 25-08-2014, 09:35 AM

Yeah I am having attention from female collegue (hope it is not you ). She is v nice and pretty. She is in next to mine and occasionally she would give me cookies etc. Think she is lonely but it is generally a bad idea to have an eca at work as it is frown upon by most companies and would affect the careers .If interact often there is tendency to fall in love but have to used head.. The big head cos more often than not the result is a big mess, so really think if you want to sacrifice so much for someone, and not get any return. Maybe try to date other guys and slowly cool down?

happywoody · #4 25-08-2014, 10:33 AM

TS, it's a nice feeling to be wanted.

we're all lonely and to be appreciated by someone who's so in-tuned to every word we utter. and every action bringing a similarly nice reaction, makes us all walk on clouds. and it doesn't even need to involve sex!

u're probably at the flirting stage. all nice and seemingly harmless.
with a small exception that he's taken.

two possibilities from here - u end it or u continue.

no matter what others say to be prepared for the pain etc, it doesn't work. love needs to be experienced, its joy and its pain.

good luck.

prettymannequin · #5 25-08-2014, 10:57 AM

There's probably a lot of reasons to justify what the both of you are doing now is alright and not against anything, which is fair enough.

But I'd advise against investing even more time and emotions. Just try imagining how you'd like your friendship/ relationship NOT to progress, and keep on reminding yourself not to walk down that path. And then imagine how you would like it to progress, and keep on working towards that and keep it healthy.

Hope this helps darling! x

july3rd · #6 25-08-2014, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by LFsugarbabe

never eat at the place you shit

Yes! I do agree not to eat and shit the same place.

july3rd · #7 25-08-2014, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by zan888

Yeah I am having attention from female collegue (hope it is not you ). She is v nice and pretty. She is in next to mine and occasionally she would give me cookies etc. Think she is lonely but it is generally a bad idea to have an eca at work as it is frown upon by most companies and would affect the careers .If interact often there is tendency to fall in love but have to used head.. The big head cos more often than not the result is a big mess, so really think if you want to sacrifice so much for someone, and not get any return. Maybe try to date other guys and slowly cool down?

Haha..

Oh well, my office concept is free sitting and I changes office daily. Depend on my mood where I want to work at.
So confirm I'm not that lady you referring to

july3rd · #8 25-08-2014, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by happywoody

TS, it's a nice feeling to be wanted. we're all lonely and to be appreciated by someone who's so in-tuned to every word we utter. and every action bringing a similarly nice reaction, makes us all walk on clouds. and it doesn't even need to involve sex! u're probably at the flirting stage. all nice and seemingly harmless. with a small exception that he's taken. two possibilities from here - u end it or u continue. no matter what others say to be prepared for the pain etc, it doesn't work. love needs to be experienced, its joy and its pain. good luck.

Ya! It has been nice 4 months we been flirting most important is he can really click well with me. Not much people can really hold an conversation well with me for long period of time

Yup! He is married, it always right in front my mind. Sigh!

july3rd · #9 25-08-2014, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by prettymannequin

There's probably a lot of reasons to justify what the both of you are doing now is alright and not against anything, which is fair enough. But I'd advise against investing even more time and emotions. Just try imagining how you'd like your friendship/ relationship NOT to progress, and keep on reminding yourself not to walk down that path. And then imagine how you would like it to progress, and keep on working towards that and keep it healthy. Hope this helps darling! x

Sigh ya! I got it! Oh well sigh...

demonhunter · #10 25-08-2014, 12:02 PM

Dear TS , just have him as your Fuck Buddy .

When you put your feelings in , you will get burnt !

july3rd · #11 25-08-2014, 12:04 PM

Just an update!
We got an heat argument last Friday. Which I find it quite annoying because it is an casual conversation turing into heat argument.

I did my apologies, but he did not replied since Friday afternoon.

I do not know should I give him a text or just leave it as it is?

This type of issues always happen in office. Apparently seem to be quite common, my female friend just telling me about hers. Which is so similar to mine!

july3rd · #12 25-08-2014, 12:05 PM

Sorry, still under moderation so my reply is slow!

prettymannequin · #13 25-08-2014, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by july3rd

Just an update!
We got an heat argument last Friday. Which I find it quite annoying because it is an casual conversation turing into heat argument.

I did my apologies, but he did not replied since Friday afternoon.

I do not know should I give him a text or just leave it as it is?

This type of issues always happen in office. Apparently seem to be quite common, my female friend just telling me about hers. Which is so similar to mine!

You apologised on your end, the ball is in his court now. He's not a baby who needs to be taught how to be a person with decent manners.