STDs

[Moomoblacksheep]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

I don't even have money(that's why I went to visit a prostitute because I felt I really had nothing to lose and couldn't see a future anymore), nah I am not health anxiety, the fever symptoms are real thus it is not due to health anxiety. Thanks for concern.

Go see a doctor. The next thing you gonna be paranoid about is hiv. A full panel urine and blood test cost about $1k or lower. As a grown adult, you must have at least $1k of savings. If cost is a problem, then go polyclinic but the doctors would suggest you go dsc kelantan.

If you really want to solve the problem, go see a doctor.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by Moomoblacksheep

Go see a doctor. The next thing you gonna be paranoid about is hiv. A full panel urine and blood test cost about $1k or lower. As a grown adult, you must have at least $1k of savings. If cost is a problem, then go polyclinic but the doctors would suggest you go dsc kelantan.

If you really want to solve the problem, go see a doctor.

Nah I don't even have a 1k in savings(I am starting a new job within this few weeks though), that's why I told you I went to visit a prostitute becuse of my dire circumstances. If you wish to know more about my life story/why it came to like this pls PM me.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by avet

....already told you go see dr.....


As for everything else... Suggest you listen to therapist. But doubt you will.

I don't have money to see doctor, spend $17.05 on vagasils already very chor. I am starting a new job soon. Nah I will listen to therapist as long as it makes sense.

[ssd3469]

As a male in Sg I feel very oppressed, marginalized and discriminated against due to NS, reservist, etc. This is another factor why I was forced to eventually visit a prostitute.

[SadLoser]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

As a male in Sg I feel very oppressed, marginalized and discriminated against due to NS, reservist, etc. This is another factor why I was forced to eventually visit a prostitute.

It's not easy being a man in SG and I definitely feel you. Everything in SG is from a female's POV, always about females' privileges and entitlements.

No NS liability for females. Women commit crimes no matter how heinous no need canning and the sentencing is always lighter than for men. There is AWARE, WC and all sort of network support for women. And the society here is full of white knights and simps.

For a man, unless you are blessed to be born with either the wealth lottery (come from rich family) or genetics lottery (tall & handsome), otherwise life is a uphill struggle.

But just take 1 step at a time... things will surely get better over time bro

[SadLoser]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

I keep getting rejected and cold shoulder by not just women, but men(for friendships) as well from age 21 to 24 after previous stages of buylling in my life. I tried dating 5 women when I was 30 to 33 but no woman want to go out on a second date with me. My university grades and subsequent career path is severely sabotaged thanks to the multiple stages of bullying. That's why I got forced to visit a prostitute because eventually I became 33/34 without a first gf and with little savings to plan for stable gf or marriage. It's a very sad situtation/sad life actually.

Bro I wish to emphasize one thing here- there is nothing wrong with visiting a prostitute. Dun always harbour that mindset like oh I am "forced" to visit a prostitute cos I was rejected by many women or my life is stuck in a terrible state hence I am visiting prostitutes etc. You can be a millionaire today with a trophy wife, but still visit a prostitute.

In my years of cheonging at GL, I have seen all sort of people visiting prostitutes - from doctors to lawyers to CEO. Have you read the case about the underage prostitute who lied about her age and all her clients were exposed. Many of her clients are high profile successful people like school principal, rich businessmen etc. So rich or poor, married or single, many men are visiting prostitutes for a variety of reasons.

My point here is stop berating yourself emotionally. Visiting prostitutes as an outlet for your frustrations is a form of therapy too. If you are going to spend money to make yourself happy, then might as well embrace it fully!

Lastly, its perfectly normal to visit prostitutes but if you are getting health anxiety/concerns, pls do see a doctor (as advised by many bros here). And take the necessary precautions in future so you dun need to worry about such stuff after every session.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

It's not easy being a man in SG and I definitely feel you. Everything in SG is from a female's POV, always about females' privileges and entitlements.

No NS liability for females. Women commit crimes no matter how heinous no need canning and the sentencing is always lighter than for men. There is AWARE, WC and all sort of network support for women. And the society here is full of white knights and simps.

For a man, unless you are blessed to be born with either the wealth lottery (come from rich family) or genetics lottery (tall & handsome), otherwise life is a uphill struggle.

But just take 1 step at a time... things will surely get better over time bro

Thank you for taking the time to reply and the advice. Men are also expected to shoulder most of the dating expenses burden. Yet we get disciminated when we go for job interviews due to reservist. Do you know that there was once I was teaching or correcting a mistake in as assesment book at a tuition centre and the female boss told me to speak to a female child in a softer tone of voice? LOL. I really do not wish to give birth to a son in Singapore because I will be ruining another person's life. I left you a PM to tell you about my life situation in more detail(which was why I said I was forced to visit a prostitute). Women face a longer jail term as a substitute for no caning but I think the lighter sentence meted out balances it off? Pls confirm on this. It really is a privilege to be a female in Singapore.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

Bro I wish to emphasize one thing here- there is nothing wrong with visiting a prostitute. Dun always harbour that mindset like oh I am "forced" to visit a prostitute cos I was rejected by many women or my life is stuck in a terrible state hence I am visiting prostitutes etc. You can be a millionaire today with a trophy wife, but still visit a prostitute.

In my years of cheonging at GL, I have seen all sort of people visiting prostitutes - from doctors to lawyers to CEO. Have you read the case about the underage prostitute who lied about her age and all her clients were exposed. Many of her clients are high profile successful people like school principal, rich businessmen etc. So rich or poor, married or single, many men are visiting prostitutes for a variety of reasons.

My point here is stop berating yourself emotionally. Visiting prostitutes as an outlet for your frustrations is a form of therapy too. If you are going to spend money to make yourself happy, then might as well embrace it fully!

Lastly, its perfectly normal to visit prostitutes but if you are getting health anxiety/concerns, pls do see a doctor (as advised by many bros here). And take the necessary precautions in future so you dun need to worry about such stuff after every session.

For your first paragraph, it may be morally wrong to visit a prostitute. When I said "forced" I mean life circumstances forced me to eventually visit one. The people you listed out as an example visited prostitute voluntarily because they did not had very bad life circumstances, meaning they did it under abundance circumstances(already having a gf or wife yet still went to find prostitute). I did it under scarcity circumstances ie. no women want me.

I skipped your second paragraph because it is similar to first paragraph and thus my reply is in first paragraph.

For your third paragraph, ya I thought of visiting prostitute as a form of therapy also because it is similar to CLEAN massage therapy(though some MLs turn it into something sleazy or dirty but that is another thing). So I thought that by the same analogy, a prostitute is providing a sex service for us. And that sex is a basic human need just like sleeping and eating. However, this is not 100% because while you can say that sex is a basic need, should we share something so intimate with any strangers(prostitutes)? Another thing is services like teaching tuition and CLEAN massage can be sold and transactional because it is a service and not sex, for sex can it be sold or transactional?

For your fourth paragraph, I already mentioned in other posts that condom does not protect against all STDs, the only way is abstinence. Thank you for your time in writing the comment, I look forward to your reply.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

Bro I wish to emphasize one thing here- there is nothing wrong with visiting a prostitute. Dun always harbour that mindset like oh I am "forced" to visit a prostitute cos I was rejected by many women or my life is stuck in a terrible state hence I am visiting prostitutes etc. You can be a millionaire today with a trophy wife, but still visit a prostitute.

In my years of cheonging at GL, I have seen all sort of people visiting prostitutes - from doctors to lawyers to CEO. Have you read the case about the underage prostitute who lied about her age and all her clients were exposed. Many of her clients are high profile successful people like school principal, rich businessmen etc. So rich or poor, married or single, many men are visiting prostitutes for a variety of reasons.

My point here is stop berating yourself emotionally. Visiting prostitutes as an outlet for your frustrations is a form of therapy too. If you are going to spend money to make yourself happy, then might as well embrace it fully!

Lastly, its perfectly normal to visit prostitutes but if you are getting health anxiety/concerns, pls do see a doctor (as advised by many bros here). And take the necessary precautions in future so you dun need to worry about such stuff after every session.

Originally Posted by SadLoser

It's not easy being a man in SG and I definitely feel you. Everything in SG is from a female's POV, always about females' privileges and entitlements.

No NS liability for females. Women commit crimes no matter how heinous no need canning and the sentencing is always lighter than for men. There is AWARE, WC and all sort of network support for women. And the society here is full of white knights and simps.

For a man, unless you are blessed to be born with either the wealth lottery (come from rich family) or genetics lottery (tall & handsome), otherwise life is a uphill struggle.

But just take 1 step at a time... things will surely get better over time bro

Please teach me a bit about multi quote next time. Do you all type the open quote and end quote function manually when you all want to separate my single post into multiple quotes btw(this is a separate qn from the teach me multi quote one don't get confused)

[sony2002]

Originally Posted by donut88

A lesson learnt. Don't chiong hookers.

Get a proper gf.

Getting a proper gf will not guarantee STD free unless you found yourself a virgin as her first bf.

Read in another thread that even the boss sammboyfor - his first gf got herpes and he wasn’t aware when they were dating. For herpes, even protected sex not going to help because it can spread by kissing.

Imagine you got yourself a new gf, are you going to ask her for full declaration of sex history and ask her to do STD test before first kiss/first sex? I have had many FB who used to be so wild with unprotected sex with many guys, do you think they will tell their proper bf about their past? They may already have STD knowing/unknowingly but don’t want to tell their proper bf too.

https://samleong.shop/showpost.php?p=22946276&postcount=16

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

Visiting prostitutes as an outlet for your frustrations is a form of therapy too.

when you say frustrations, do you mean sexually frusrated(due to no gf having sex with us) or other frustrations in life due to bad circumstances? The latter right? For the former I already PCC from age 15 until 33 until I have no more fantasies or new genre of porn to watch already, this is another reason why I went to visit a prostitute. I think if we quit porn or didn't start porn we wouldn't end up visiting a prostitute because it is easier to get a gf without porn and PCC.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by sony2002

Getting a proper gf will not guarantee STD free unless you found yourself a virgin as her first bf.

Read in another thread that even the boss sammboyfor - his first gf got herpes and he wasn’t aware when they were dating. For herpes, even protected sex not going to help because it can spread by kissing.

Imagine you got yourself a new gf, are you going to ask her for full declaration of sex history and ask her to do STD test before first kiss/first sex? I have had many FB who used to be so wild with unprotected sex with many guys, do you think they will tell their proper bf about their past? They may already have STD knowing/unknowingly but don’t want to tell their proper bf too.

https://samleong.shop/showpost.php?p=22946276&postcount=16

Even if you are not her FIRST bf and she is not a virgin you can still be STD free as long as she has a window of 2 months for symptoms to show as well as if she is truthful about her history. Same for friends with benefits.

If I get a new gf it is okay to ask her about her history, if she is not truthful about it then she is to be blamed. Similarly, I will not have sex with her in the first 2 months first as explained above previously.

May I ask you, do you view sex as a basic human need like sleeping and eating? Because this will affect my view on whether should I accept and go to a protitute on a regular basis if I am single. My view is that it is a basic human need but not to be shared with strangers like prostitutes. It is only to be done with gf or wife, people who are close/intimate with us.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by sony2002

Getting a proper gf will not guarantee STD free unless you found yourself a virgin as her first bf.

Read in another thread that even the boss sammboyfor - his first gf got herpes and he wasn’t aware when they were dating. For herpes, even protected sex not going to help because it can spread by kissing.

Imagine you got yourself a new gf, are you going to ask her for full declaration of sex history and ask her to do STD test before first kiss/first sex? I have had many FB who used to be so wild with unprotected sex with many guys, do you think they will tell their proper bf about their past? They may already have STD knowing/unknowingly but don’t want to tell their proper bf too.

https://samleong.shop/showpost.php?p=22946276&postcount=16

Btw can I take photos of my suspected herpes or yeast infection area and post in this forum to confirm what it is? The thing is before visiting prostitue I was already having such rashes/sores.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

It's not easy being a man in SG and I definitely feel you. Everything in SG is from a female's POV, always about females' privileges and entitlements.

No NS liability for females. Women commit crimes no matter how heinous no need canning and the sentencing is always lighter than for men. There is AWARE, WC and all sort of network support for women. And the society here is full of white knights and simps.

For a man, unless you are blessed to be born with either the wealth lottery (come from rich family) or genetics lottery (tall & handsome), otherwise life is a uphill struggle.

But just take 1 step at a time... things will surely get better over time bro

Btw when I said etc. I was referring to dating expenses, car, marriage, etc. Not just purely NS(which is already bad enough).

I also don't believe in the saying that you will eventually get a gf, I think such phrases are just for consoling purposes. Since age 14 or 15 I have always looked forward to a gf until now age 34 still nothing.

May I ask you, do you view sex as a basic human need like sleeping and eating? Because this will affect my view on whether should I accept and go to a protitute on a regular basis if I am single. My view is that it is a basic human need but not to be shared with strangers like prostitutes. It is only to be done with gf or wife, people who are close/intimate with us.

There was some other important thing that I wanted to ask you but I cannot remember already.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by SadLoser

It's not easy being a man in SG and I definitely feel you. Everything in SG is from a female's POV, always about females' privileges and entitlements.

No NS liability for females. Women commit crimes no matter how heinous no need canning and the sentencing is always lighter than for men. There is AWARE, WC and all sort of network support for women. And the society here is full of white knights and simps.

For a man, unless you are blessed to be born with either the wealth lottery (come from rich family) or genetics lottery (tall & handsome), otherwise life is a uphill struggle.

But just take 1 step at a time... things will surely get better over time bro

Btw, go and read this forum:
https://www.reddit.com/r/singapore/c...ans/?rdt=64479