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Originally Posted by shadowlunar04
Why hold someone back... when u know u don't love them...
Why keep them to yourself... when u know you won't wanna have them?
Why let them miss other chances...when they can have them? If you really
don't love someone....le them go...hurt them NOW... not later...for a
longer relationship builds stronger emotions...
A good relationship isn't a game you play or an ego trip you take. It is
about love and two people.
Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can
hurt more than we can believe too.
When it does not really hurt when that person did something disappointing
to you, but really hurts when you see that person in pain and sadness, then you know you truly love that person.
Loving someone means you should be ready to experience heartache and
happiness at the same time.That's the reward and that's the risk. Unless
we are willing to experience it, we will never really know what it's like
to love and be loved.
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a
person can ever have.And there's a difference between being in love with
someone and loving someone.
It's the difference between a love that's fickle,wild and short-lived
and one that's tender and passionate,nurturing and lasts a long time. The
first is easy.
The second, the one that really matters to all of us,takes work because
it's about keeping a relationship.
Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to communicate with
each other. Nobody can read anyone else's mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to
predict or sense each other's thoughts but it's
never perfect and takes time to develop. Getting the chance to love and
be loved by someone is blessed.
Respect him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be.
Everyone is pretty and special in his/her own special way. No one is
perfect. It is true love which closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth
surface of acceptance for each other.
True love sees and accepts a person for who he/she is. It is also true
love which makes a person change for the better. The power of true love to a
person is undeniable.
A relationship needs commitments too. What is love without commitments
from each other anyway? It's like principles and values. Everyone has them
but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand for them.
The same goes for our commitments to relationships, and the person we
love.
"Love is like an antique vase. It's hard to find,hard to net, but easy
to break."
Every day everywhere, people fall in love ... but just how many of these
relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships
which are formed only for the intense! feeling of falling in love? I know
hundreds of friends who say the magical words "I love you"... but more
often than not, the truth is just I am IN love with you.
There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving
someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that
he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you
because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts.
When fairy godmother comes in at midnight to whirl us back to reality,
we see the heartache of such a relationship... where both were only IN love
with each other. But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that
he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the
past and who you might be in the future.
When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it,you have to ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you're in love with the idea of being in love. It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. Let your heart guide u. May you be blessed on your soul-searching journey for your soul mate.
ARE YOU REALLY IN LOVE? ASK YOURSELF!
Is this true love? Do I really love him/her? Or izzit just another
infatuation? R U willing to give? Even though you may not get back the
same amount you gave?
R U cheating yourself? Thinking that you really love him/her and not
just taking him/her as a substitute for your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend?
Friends, let today be the day....... you truly understand love.......
If after reading this and answering all the questions,you are very sure
that you love him/her,tell him/her that. Let him/her know how much you
love him/her and that you are willing to take the risks of being hurt by
him/her in the course of the development
of your relationship with him/her. This is a love that's sacrificial, R
U ready for it? If you accept someone's philosophy that is simply their
rationalisation to justify their failure, you accept their failures!"
**The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take.**
If you think something will make you happy, go for it.
**Remember that we pass this way only once.**
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09-04-2005, 01:52 PM
