Why married man still visit FL?

[Shadow_warrior]

need to rant so pardon my lamenting

met my ex FB, after years she has become my GF. And as usual she is complaining about her life, work, family etc... as usual. didn't expect her to be in the mood, again as usual.

Sitting in my car, played some videos on WeChat and she was remotely aroused, said wouldn't mind if we get it on. mai tu liao right?

Damn it, was the worst decision I made, and made me swear off sex with her indefinitely
Wanted to rub my dick against her pussy- DONT, Pain.
Wanted her to lick my nipples- 5 secs of a tongue flick
Started the deed and wanted to go a bit faster and cum on her stomach- She said, don't do that, she will have to clean up, so don't cum. I was like WTF?
She said lets go hotel than go all the way, but I know from experience she will be even lazier in the hotel, she will watch TV instead of focusing on us.
So I pulled out for a breather and wanted to go back in, she said she's lost her mood.

Man I was pissed. She's given me shitty sex for the longest time now, so I text her, from now on, let's keep it to movies and meals. Sex is non negotiable because I don't want it anymore from her. She is someone who always promises, NEVER delivers. Promises to suck(rare and far, if there is sucking its a 5 sec commercial), promises to focus and be in the moment, she's always thinking about herself.
She still have the cheek to say I seem to complain a lot.

Fuck!!! If I wanted shitty sex like this, I'd ask my wife for sex, which hasn't happened for 3-6 years now. I forget the exact time frame because it's been that long.

NABEI. Just realized I had written about the situation in this thread, self fulfilling prophesy
https://samleong.shop/showpost....&postcount=152

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

need to rant so pardon my lamenting


NABEI. Just realized I had written about the situation in this thread, self fulfilling prophesy
https://samleong.shop/showpost....&postcount=152

haha bro i feel you can totally relate to this.... my fb who end up as my oc...there was a period of time during our fb stage we cooled things off but eventually got back again but things never really got back to what it was before...some how something just changed...

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

need to rant so pardon my lamenting

met my ex FB, after years she has become my GF. And as usual she is complaining about her life, work, family etc... as usual. didn't expect her to be in the mood, again as usual.

Sitting in my car, played some videos on WeChat and she was remotely aroused, said wouldn't mind if we get it on. mai tu liao right?

Damn it, was the worst decision I made, and made me swear off sex with her indefinitely
......

NABEI. Just realized I had written about the situation in this thread, self fulfilling prophesy
https://samleong.shop/showpost....&postcount=152

Bro SW...why dun u just drop her & find another new FB...problem solved right ? ...so u dun hv to continue to live yr sexual life in misery...not sure why u r still pampering her...believe there r many more better ones out there to choose from....

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Bro SW...why dun u just drop her & find another new FB...problem solved right ? ...so u dun hv to continue to live yr sexual life in misery...not sure why u r still pampering her...believe there r many more better ones out there to choose from....

KNN old dog liao

spent a large part of my productive life with wife, it didn't work and then this FB/GF now sian to go and put in effort to make things work

rather pay and fuck off.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

KNN old dog liao

spent a large part of my productive life with wife, it didn't work and then this FB/GF now sian to go and put in effort to make things work

rather pay and fuck off.

Dun quite understand u bro...Why must u pay her off ??...gals like her who do not want to make themselves loveable.. do u owe her anything ??

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Dun quite understand u bro...Why must u pay her off ??...gals like her who do not want to make themselves loveable.. do u owe her anything ??

hello bro.

PAY AND FUCK OFF means go and find FL/WL.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

hello bro.

PAY AND FUCK OFF means go and find FL/WL.

Oic...but why spend more & extra money to find FL/WL leh ?? ...save yr money.. just drop or pay this present FB off...& find a new FB, cow tim liao ..

[Sturmgrenadier]

Originally Posted by Voorhees

I think if really your wife figure still ok and able to fulfill your requests and desires..... you would not find FL.

Some wife after giving birth dont care about figure liao.... houswife usually. My colleague got 3 kids and back to 45kg in no time. she is super hot and the guys at work always say.... wah lan eh... wife like that Tak meh pia....

Ulitmately, looks to husband will sort of dilute out so its still the sexual fulfiment part.

if your wife:

1. Blows you are like porn star
2. rims you with no reservations
3. allows anal every now and then
4. allows CIM
5. allow every position you can fuck her with
6. allows you to video your love making
7. allows you to use sex toys
8. talks about sex and fanstasies freely without judgement. example: asking her to urinate on you or asking her to finger your ass, she is receptive and ok instead of thinking you are a pervert


if its all checked or 80%, I personally will not look for FL ...

Sorry bro but total bullshit.

The real problem with us guys is this. The moment it gets too easy and we get EVERYTHING we want? We will get bored.

It's not whether she allows you to do all the above or not but rather its the lack of any effort at all from a lot of women when it comes to sex after marriage.

Fucking a good looking girl is great - but fucking your wife that actually is into it and enjoying it as much as we are? That's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better.

Unfortunately the reality is that for most married couples, one or even both parties just stop making an effort and normally...its the lady.

I'm tired today...and we are not?
I have a headache...really? Every week so zhun one meh?
I just don't have the urge anymore...ok I can accept this but this may be a mental/physical issue that perhaps needs to be looked at professionally?

It might also be the fact that we get caught up with our lives, work and worries. We don't dress up. We are out of shape (or less in shape) and physically not as attractive anymore. It might also be the pressures of work, life, bills, money or whatever that is getting in the way.

I honestly think that the root problem is Asian culture (and I'm Asian myself!!). We are attracted to the physical things...and less so the actual person. When something goes wrong? Then we are left with nothing left. Us Asians also find it difficult to communicate with the one person we really should have NOTHING to hide from...but we do anyway. Is it a face issue? Is it social pressures/expectations?


I don't have the answers but I do know this. Being married doesn't mean you stop trying. If anything you need to try HARDER. And this goes BOTH WAYS and not just on the husband or the wife. And if you are too lazy or cant be bothered to try? Then don't complain if they take their pleasures outside of marriage.

[Sturmgrenadier]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Wanted to rub my dick against her pussy- DONT, Pain.
Wanted her to lick my nipples- 5 secs of a tongue flick
Started the deed and wanted to go a bit faster and cum on her stomach- She said, don't do that, she will have to clean up, so don't cum. I was like WTF?

I lol'd when I read this bro - so true.

Like this pain. Like that cannot. Try this don't want. Etc, etc etc etc etc.


Story of my life brudder.

[Aware66]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

need to rant so pardon my lamenting

met my ex FB, after years she has become my GF. And as usual she is complaining about her life, work, family etc... as usual. didn't expect her to be in the mood, again as usual.

Sitting in my car, played some videos on WeChat and she was remotely aroused, said wouldn't mind if we get it on. mai tu liao right?

Damn it, was the worst decision I made, and made me swear off sex with her indefinitely
Wanted to rub my dick against her pussy- DONT, Pain.
Wanted her to lick my nipples- 5 secs of a tongue flick
Started the deed and wanted to go a bit faster and cum on her stomach- She said, don't do that, she will have to clean up, so don't cum. I was like WTF?
She said lets go hotel than go all the way, but I know from experience she will be even lazier in the hotel, she will watch TV instead of focusing on us.
So I pulled out for a breather and wanted to go back in, she said she's lost her mood.

Man I was pissed. She's given me shitty sex for the longest time now, so I text her, from now on, let's keep it to movies and meals. Sex is non negotiable because I don't want it anymore from her. She is someone who always promises, NEVER delivers. Promises to suck(rare and far, if there is sucking its a 5 sec commercial), promises to focus and be in the moment, she's always thinking about herself.
She still have the cheek to say I seem to complain a lot.

Fuck!!! If I wanted shitty sex like this, I'd ask my wife for sex, which hasn't happened for 3-6 years now. I forget the exact time frame because it's been that long.

NABEI. Just realized I had written about the situation in this thread, self fulfilling prophesy
https://samleong.shop/showpost....&postcount=152

Could she have found a new FB? Not trying to rub salt in, bro!

[TheIdesOfMarch]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Oic...but why spend more & extra money to find FL/WL leh ?? ...save yr money.. just drop or pay this present FB off...& find a new FB, cow tim liao ..

KNN save simi money?! You think what, want a FB FB drop from the sky ah? People what age already you think still got so much time fish for girls outside? Even I 25 this year I ALSO CANNOT STAND GIRLS MY GENERATION OR YOUNGER.

If sex is the only main goal, paying for it is the easiest and cleanest way to get things sorted. Plain and simple.

[SadLoser]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

KNN save simi money?! You think what, want a FB FB drop from the sky ah? People what age already you think still got so much time fish for girls outside? Even I 25 this year I ALSO CANNOT STAND GIRLS MY GENERATION OR YOUNGER.

If sex is the only main goal, paying for it is the easiest and cleanest way to get things sorted. Plain and simple.

agreed. it's not like u can find a new fb whenever u feel like it

the best experience i had was with a m'sian 25 yo comestic gal i gotta know on wechat. she was pretty looking and had creamy C cups tits. but the best part is she was rely open to anything... allow me to role play, tie her hands and fuck her, bbbj me, cim. she has a high sex drive too and say fucking helps her to relieve stress (the stress from work, living alone in SG etc)

i still rem how she is easily aroused. when we just cuddle only and i rub my hands against her groin area (with clothes still on)... and subsquently i slip my hand into her skirt and touch her pussy, damm it was fucking dripping wet and her vaginal lips were kinda swell up and tender, like ready to be penetrated anytime

but subsequently she got kinda emo. each time we meet, she will say alot of emo stuff, like how she felt like being treated as a sex toy, she didnt like herself to be so loose (morally) etc. everytime i got to prep talk her... until in the end i also become emo

eventually i figured it was not worth all the effort and began to stop contacting her. never had another fb who is as fun as her. in fact i didnt have any fun for next few years. it was a stroke of good luck to find a fb like her

for me, now its straightforward and simple... just pay and fuck. finish go home and sleep

[Romelu]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

KNN save simi money?! You think what, want a FB FB drop from the sky ah? People what age already you think still got so much time fish for girls outside? Even I 25 this year I ALSO CANNOT STAND GIRLS MY GENERATION OR YOUNGER.

If sex is the only main goal, paying for it is the easiest and cleanest way to get things sorted. Plain and simple.

Wa jiak kan tang kia eh hiao gong KNN?

[samdiy]

Originally Posted by Sturmgrenadier

Sorry bro but total bullshit.

The real problem with us guys is this. The moment it gets too easy and we get EVERYTHING we want? We will get bored.

It's not whether she allows you to do all the above or not but rather its the lack of any effort at all from a lot of women when it comes to sex after marriage.

Fucking a good looking girl is great - but fucking your wife that actually is into it and enjoying it as much as we are? That's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better.

Unfortunately the reality is that for most married couples, one or even both parties just stop making an effort and normally...its the lady.

I'm tired today...and we are not?
I have a headache...really? Every week so zhun one meh?
I just don't have the urge anymore...ok I can accept this but this may be a mental/physical issue that perhaps needs to be looked at professionally?

It might also be the fact that we get caught up with our lives, work and worries. We don't dress up. We are out of shape (or less in shape) and physically not as attractive anymore. It might also be the pressures of work, life, bills, money or whatever that is getting in the way.

I honestly think that the root problem is Asian culture (and I'm Asian myself!!). We are attracted to the physical things...and less so the actual person. When something goes wrong? Then we are left with nothing left. Us Asians also find it difficult to communicate with the one person we really should have NOTHING to hide from...but we do anyway. Is it a face issue? Is it social pressures/expectations?


I don't have the answers but I do know this. Being married doesn't mean you stop trying. If anything you need to try HARDER. And this goes BOTH WAYS and not just on the husband or the wife. And if you are too lazy or cant be bothered to try? Then don't complain if they take their pleasures outside of marriage.

Bro,You hit the nail one the head.Could not have put it better.

[Icecass]

A friend once told me, free sex is always the most expensive sex. Paid sex is always the cheapest one.

Fellow chiongsters agree?