How do you guys deal with Perimenopause wives??? big headache, no sex no appreciation

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

Hi bro,
Read your candid sharing. My wife is currently going through perimenopause and it’s not fun for me and my 2 kids I tell you. But at least my wife knows she is going thru that and not in denial. But even before this, the sex has stopped right after my second kid was born and it has been many many years since the dry spell started. Thank god there are so many MLs around to keep me balanced and sane hahaha.
I can totally relate to your no love/appreciation situation. Had so many major arguments with her and things just cannot be patched up but going downhill. If not for my kids I would have divorced her already so that I can be happier living my own life.

Hi Bro,

Thank you for sharing as well. Appreciate the support

Like you, if not for my kid, would have divorced liao .

but seeing my kids happy is top priority now, at the expense of my own ..

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

Hi bro,
Read your candid sharing. My wife is currently going through perimenopause and it’s not fun for me and my 2 kids I tell you. But at least my wife knows she is going thru that and not in denial.

does your wife go thru any treatment? seen a specialist about this? following any diet to try and manage it? taking any meds for this?

if so, still very bad despite these being done (or any)?

[Nekofear]

My wife's aunty is in that stage of life too. Her mental load from my view is her young adult son, being a stay at home wife, and looking after her post-op husband.

She got BF and friends/relatives that comes over every weekend to hangout, to relieve her mental stress. Now she hired maid to look after the house, so I think a lot of weight have been lifted.

Hope your wife wants to follow you go on vacation. For at home, hope your wife open minded, can try sleep naked with you first to calm her down.

[Spymaster2]

Originally Posted by fallen11

does your wife go thru any treatment? seen a specialist about this? following any diet to try and manage it? taking any meds for this?

if so, still very bad despite these being done (or any)?

She saw her gynae and was prescribed hormonal medication. But she didn’t go back for her follow-up visit because she said the medication is too expensive and cannot be sustained over the long term. She did her own research to see how she can manage it herself instead. It’s not easy because there’s a list of symptoms that are related to it but you’re never sure if it’s 100% related.

[Spymaster2]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi Bro,

Thank you for sharing as well. Appreciate the support

Like you, if not for my kid, would have divorced liao .

but seeing my kids happy is top priority now, at the expense of my own ..

You’re welcome bro.
Do you drink? Perhaps we can chat more over some wine/whisky and share our misery and the good sbf stuff Lol