Advise Needed for a HeartBroken Man

[cuscorex92]

Originally Posted by alan0338

have a kid and some more mid 30s liao still dunno how to think, serve u rite ...

not to flame thou..think & do is different.if its simple like a switch,nations wt nd a juridical sys to govern.

[cuscorex92]

@ times,i find the forum(thou primarily sex), informative & brudders here can b good listeners,s well s adviCe.
cheers to tat!!

[smallbaron]

You poor Bro,

Try to cool down first. Go somewhere to relax e.g. holiday. Try to do positive things to rid the negative thinking.

Don't be idle. When you are busy, then you forget to worry. Keep yourself busy so that you will not run into depression. Don't be too hard on yourself. It is not entirely your fault. It takes 2 hands to clap.

I believe your love to her is genuine. Unfortunately, it is also a fact that she is too young and emotionally unstable & immature. That cannot be helped. In addition, nowadays girls are different from your generation, or worse if compared to my generation. There is a huge gap in values that you can never imagine.

Therefore, after taking a break, cool down and then decide what to do. As a big man in your 30s, I believe that you will make a wise & rational decision after you have cooled down. Take care Bro. All SBF bros will support you

[jelly123]

If she can do it once she will do it again. Just forget her and concentrate on your daughter. Once you have drifted from someone it will almost always never be the same again.

Doesn't the fact that she wanting you to divorce your wife just because she wanted to "be with you" and yet managed to fall for someone else show something? TS!! WAKE UP!!!! Use your big head to see the big picture.

[smallbaron]

Bro,

Just to share with you. I was played out by a SYT 12 years my junior before. I know exactly what happened to you. The SYT really seemed innocent and sweet then. Its like she is all for you & you are all for her.

Hence, you just cannot imagine the things that she can actually do. But I learned an important lesson

[QueeniePeh]

Well you had fall deeply in love with syt, but not to forget what you and your wife had buildup in the marriage.

男人怕诱惑.女人怕寂寞.

its happen you are the one that be there for her after the breakup.
advice from from 23years old, move on la.

[dander]

Life is short. Enjoy it while you can.

[bugmenot]

Bro TS, pardon me.

I thought your wife, and especially, your young daughter deserved to be sympathized more than you do.

The divorce is already a fact. What done can't be undone. Pick yourself up from where you last fall and take good care of your daughter from now on. Forget abt the heartless SYT!!!

May the courage and strength be with you!

[sgjoey]

TS...

Here's some objective facts to help you reflect on your experience and decide what to do next...

Humans tend to exhibit non-monogamous behaviour. This applies to males, as well as to females, assuming that there are no legal or social penalties to do so. So essentially, what happened to you is not really atypical. You were attracted to someone other than your spouse. Now your girlfriend is also exhibiting the same behaviour.

You may not want to repeat your earlier mistake of divorcing your wife because you had a new love interest. Now that your new love interest has a new love interest, you should probably clarify whether she also still loves you. It is very possible for one person to love more than person -- this happens all the time.

Depending on how much you treasure your new relationship, you may or may not want to break it, if she should answer that she still loves you. (If she says she doesn't love you anymore, you should probably call it quits.)

The usual (but in my mind mistaken) impulse is to want to possess someone exclusively. Such an impulse has led to many unnecessary breakups and divorces. You need to remind yourself that non-monogamous behaviour is actually natural. This is what we know from science, and also from your experience.

I know that what I said is different from what most people will tell you. This is because most people are ruled by their emotions and are not well-informed about what science has discovered concerning these issues.

Good luck.

[Subaru75]

Bro sad to say that u r now in a piece of shit and if I wrong u r neither here or there as ur heart is with her but she break it ,but if all the thing go as normal she will be with the other guy now.Move on bro shower all your care and concern to your only daughter filled your heart with nobody but your daughter cos u must remember that u still have a responsible for your daughter forget the young gal .she is way to young for u at this moment and her heart is not even settle down or I should say she want to try everything (young and wild) just my pieces of advise
Cheers

[tamtam]

Ok, what i m going to says here may not be very nice, but this is what i learnt from my past experiences and my sexless marriage, that turns me into what i m today.

Here it goes....

What's done cannot be undone, since you have already divorced your wife, i m not going to mention it, move on from here..

As for the SYT, Since you have already confronted her, and she admitted to it, go on...change your mind set, be happy, keep on screwing her. You will know one of these days, she will stopped letting you to screw her anymore, when this day happens, you will thanks me, how many time you had screwed her.

If you choose to be depress over these new bf thingy, chances are you both will end up having huge quarrel, and worst case, may break off almost immediately after, then you have even more to lose, your wife, your daughter, your time with the syt all these while, and cannot screw her anymore, cannot go back to your wife, on and on....

If you read my past postings, i suffers alot due to my sexless marriage, during that lull periods, i do meet some young girls too, as relative to my age, 30 yrs old is consider very young to me, coz i m 45 now. At that time, i was so fucking sure this young lady was the next best choice, i wanted to dirvorce my wife too, to cut the story short..

Things started to get changed by the months, and i too suspects this young lady is secretly seeing some one else behind my back, even thou we meet 5~6 days a week. (It is easy for them to do so, if you send her home say 11pm, she can meet that new bf after that till 3am !)

So calm down and be happy, continue to screw her, anyway all of us including yourself knew this relationship won't last, for get about she saying if it doesn't works out with the new bf, she would comes back to you.
You must now be very calm, don't go into a quarrel unnecessarily, keep up the good relationship and again continue to screw her.

When all comes to an end, you will gain at least something out of all these mess.

This is exactly what i did, i got very furious coz i did so much for her, to the extend of almost dumping my family. Then i think thru carefully, and make up my mind to be happy and screw her to the max ! I got what i wanted, but she still chose to leave me, see i got alsolutely no control about her leaving, but i can control how much i get to screw her !

Thinking back, i feel that i gain more than suffer more, worst if i do get to marry that young lady, and now she sees new beau...i will be fuck !

Honestly, there is nothing you can do now, but be on the bright side.

[smallbaron]

Bro Tamtam,

Why we all kenna played out by SYT? Really sure that the young lady was the next best choice ... My experiences same as yours Bro. The SYT can really "play around" ...

But you are a solid man man. Can continue to screw her. I already too traumatized ... I salute you!!

[tanwanababe]

Bro ts,

I had ur situation 10 yrs ago.
She told me to wait for her. She told me she love me n him.
She cannot decide.
She don't want to lose u becos she still not sure of that guy.
Dunoe girls are smart or we r stupid.
Her words " love u" made u still in miserable.
Bro ts, let ur memory forget her.
I believe / sure times will heal.

Think of ur daughter.
Bless u.

[smallbaron]

These SYTs ...

Always ask you to wait. Say cannot decide. But actually decided already

[tanwanababe]

Originally Posted by smallbaron

Bro Tamtam,

Why we all kenna played out by SYT?

Bro

Cos we r young bird, not experience.