married men

[newyorker88]

Sister, here is my take.

If your Ex( boyfriends, men, etc), decided to get married to another person, they want to come back to you to start all over again, it would be a telltale sign that he has some problems with his family. It is best for him to sort out his problems be it family, wife, children etc, himself.

Either you stay clear or him from another relationship or you are on the way to break up someone else family. Be a friend whom you can give advise, or support in his time of distress, and a family friend, but never a lover again.

[8387]

It is obvious your ex's are just taking advantage of you.
If that's something you enjoy, then the pleasure is "mutual" - so to speak.
But then again, they are married. Hence, you know it can only go so far.
Prepare to have your heart broken, or be ready to break others' hearts (the wives n families of your ex's.)
If it's just games to everybody... well, play on.

[meisha]

Originally Posted by becca

my married exbfs seem to always talk to me.. after they have been married for a few years.. just suddenly decided to talk to me again.. or we bumped into each other in the streets and started being in contact again..

many times, the guys end up wanting to have sex with me.. sian of friendship ending up that way.

recently again, bumped into my ex from more than a decade ago! exchanged numbers.. then everyday will whatsapp me.. sometimes whatsapp me the whole day while he is at work to chat..

in the beginning will just chat like catching up.. then start talking abt family.. kids.. and then problems with the relationship between wife and him! but once they reaching home.. will say busy and can't talk anymore..

i jokingly laugh and say because wife around already issit.. he also ok lah, never deny.

suddenly.. our agreement to meet for dinner.. became he suggest we meet for movie.. then became suggest we go across the causeway and for no reason mentioned abt if stay until too late then stay overnight!

somehow just feels like something naughty is up his mind or am i too sensitive because of past experience??

time will tell. he is married, just draw the line in between well.

[Rated-R]

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

I presumed you are single. With married guys (ex-bf), allow them to bed you only if you feel sexually good with them. Make sure they know how to pamper you with loving tender care and gifts. Enjoy the sex and don't even think about falling in love, it will be your loss.

I agree with Bro GentleBeast.

TS Sis, if you just wanna enjoy sex..make sure you don't get caught by their wives. Otherwise...hell hath no fury like women's scorn, you know that right??

However, it is also logical to move on and tell your ex-bfs to focus on their marriage instead of still fucking around and making use of you. I am sure you can find many more bros here to "play" if you wish.

HOWEVER, if you like to be used by your ex-bfs...go ahead and enjoy the game.

IN the options: It's your choice
IN the consequences: It's your responsibility.

[Rated-R]

Originally Posted by becca

my married exbfs seem to always talk to me.. after they have been married for a few years.. just suddenly decided to talk to me again.. or we bumped into each other in the streets and started being in contact again..

many times, the guys end up wanting to have sex with me.. sian of friendship ending up that way.

recently again, bumped into my ex from more than a decade ago! exchanged numbers.. then everyday will whatsapp me.. sometimes whatsapp me the whole day while he is at work to chat..

in the beginning will just chat like catching up.. then start talking abt family.. kids.. and then problems with the relationship between wife and him! but once they reaching home.. will say busy and can't talk anymore..

i jokingly laugh and say because wife around already issit.. he also ok lah, never deny.

suddenly.. our agreement to meet for dinner.. became he suggest we meet for movie.. then became suggest we go across the causeway and for no reason mentioned abt if stay until too late then stay overnight!

somehow just feels like something naughty is up his mind or am i too sensitive because of past experience??

Realised I did not answer your question.
I think he's trying to get between your legs again. And yes, you are sensitive towards it and you actually do know what he wants.
Your choice of actions next!

[wally888]

If u dunn wanna spread your legs for your exbf, then nobody can force u rite? By force = rape.......very serious offence leh!

[becca]

aiyohhh alot of replies..

already say is ex bf, i will not haf feelings for him again.. oh and he never had the chance to get between my legs back then and probably not now too

not a high flyer anywhere significant so don't need to worrie too.. wife is crazily paranoid kind though!

i'm not leading him on in any way, i don't mind listening to his troubles even give him advice/suggestions.. etc like tat wrong ? keep talking and reminding him about his wifey n children somemore.. even asked if wanna meet together with his wife and children. so obvious tat i just wanna be only a friend

end up so many of you put it like i'm the one that's leading him on!

so anyway seem like it is impossible to ever be friends again with an ex lah, married or not.

[nstern]

Just curious, bro LeGarcon is not one of them right? Hahhahahahaha if not then u can try be his friend!!

www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=284180

[becca]

sigh! u want me to be aunt agony for all these married men is it!

[FruitOfEve]

You like attention from your ex-bf and so you hang around despite your doubts? If you think can draw the line, then ok lor...go with it. If not, better to keep clear before anything really happens.

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by becca

aiyohhh alot of replies..
....

so anyway seem like it is impossible to ever be friends again with an ex lah, married or not.

I thought you should be at least appreciative of these replies, regardless of whether you agreed with them or not. If you are not looking for replies, then why are you starting the thread for?

Truth be told, married men look for singles like you because what they want is to get you to bed. Continue to cock tease them a few times, see whether they are around to share and listen to family (wife's) problems.

No, friendship and sex between guy and girl do not go hand in hand in the real world. Don't agree? Try it and see for yourself

[Sensual8725]

Originally Posted by becca

my married exbfs seem to always talk to me.. after they have been married for a few years.. just suddenly decided to talk to me again.. or we bumped into each other in the streets and started being in contact again..

many times, the guys end up wanting to have sex with me.. sian of friendship ending up that way.

recently again, bumped into my ex from more than a decade ago! exchanged numbers.. then everyday will whatsapp me.. sometimes whatsapp me the whole day while he is at work to chat..

in the beginning will just chat like catching up.. then start talking abt family.. kids.. and then problems with the relationship between wife and him! but once they reaching home.. will say busy and can't talk anymore..

i jokingly laugh and say because wife around already issit.. he also ok lah, never deny.

suddenly.. our agreement to meet for dinner.. became he suggest we meet for movie.. then became suggest we go across the causeway and for no reason mentioned abt if stay until too late then stay overnight!

somehow just feels like something naughty is up his mind or am i too sensitive because of past experience??

Hi becca, the same thing happens to me. my married ex bf during uni days keep sms-ing me, telling me that he is unhappy with his wife and marriage is just a pretense behind commitment etc. Says the one he loves is me and hinting me to start an affair with him. but turns out he is lying. there are photos of him and his family happily together. he tells me he is separated and they do not live together. keep wanting to ask me out, so far i have not agreed to meet him. during working hrs, he got all the time to keep msging me and pestering me, telling me he remembers everything about us and keep reminding me of those days. don't know what is his motive.

[LeGarcon]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

Hi becca, the same thing happens to me. my married ex bf during uni days keep sms-ing me, telling me that he is unhappy with his wife and marriage is just a pretense behind commitment etc. Says the one he loves is me and hinting me to start an affair with him. but turns out he is lying. there are photos of him and his family happily together. he tells me he is separated and they do not live together. keep wanting to ask me out, so far i have not agreed to meet him. during working hrs, he got all the time to keep msging me and pestering me, telling me he remembers everything about us and keep reminding me of those days. don't know what is his motive.

Lol I'm sure u know very well his motive.

Anyway Becca pls don't listen to bro Nstern. I don't need an aunt agony. I was looking for someone who can click with me, as a friend.

[Sensual8725]

LeGarcon, Ya man. he's been pestering since our break up during uni days until graduation and now, for at least 4 - 5 years? i have never met him so far, mainly because he has been lying about his wife's situation with him. don't really want to get too much involved with married man.

[Bristol.]

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