Is this a prelude to a sex agenda?

[littlepok]

the weirdest thing is it actually go on for 6months, no sex no nothing and the woman actually agree to go everytime?

no hints? no seduction? no hands over shoulders etc? friendly hug? checking out cup size is it?

[Edyta]

Thanks for all the replies, valuable insights to me.

To answer some of your questions, man always pay and declined the woman's offer to go dutch. Woman paid once, excuse is his birthday was round the corner. No inappropriate touching, mood was casual and relaxed. Talks about everything including his children. Hugs yes only hello and goodbye, light peck on cheeks no lingering hugs. Man is quite influential in the industry, no need help from the woman. Man initiates and makes appointment early in the week to meetup nearer end of week. Woman agrees to mert if she is free and sees that as a casual catchup. There is no daily texts or phone calls but man do text to catchup for drinks even if he is overseas.

So is this still sexy date or platonic catchup?

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by Edyta

So is this still sexy date or platonic catchup?

Platonic catchup. He is more lonely than horny. He appreciates a good chat more than sex. Is he a deep thinker?

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Thanks for all the replies, valuable insights to me.

To answer some of your questions, man always pay and declined the woman's offer to go dutch. Woman paid once, excuse is his birthday was round the corner. No inappropriate touching, mood was casual and relaxed. Talks about everything including his children. Hugs yes only hello and goodbye, light peck on cheeks no lingering hugs. Man is quite influential in the industry, no need help from the woman. Man initiates and makes appointment early in the week to meetup nearer end of week. Woman agrees to mert if she is free and sees that as a casual catchup. There is no daily texts or phone calls but man do text to catchup for drinks even if he is overseas.

So is this still sexy date or platonic catchup?

Only time will tell. Only time will show true motives and intentions. Maybe the person enjoys the thrill of the chase and enjoys a good mind fuck; wants the gal to be curious enough to pop the question not him, reversing the roles, making him the wanted. Please note, its just an assumption. As said again, ONLY TIME WILL TELL.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Brainstorm

Platonic catchup. He is more lonely than horny. He appreciates a good chat more than sex. Is he a deep thinker?

Sort of a deep thinker, appears frosty at work. Now u reminded me he is a known patient hunter in his profession. He is not a touchy man but i caught him touch my thigh while we are laughing over a joke n he ever wrap his arms around my waist when i got out of his car. Very sporadic ocassional touches so i dont really remember or pay much attention. Now i am starting to recall bits of it for your analysis.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Only time will tell. Only time will show true motives and intentions. Maybe the person enjoys the thrill of the chase and enjoys a good mind fuck; wants the gal to be curious enough to pop the question not him, reversing the roles, making him the wanted. Please note, its just an assumption. As said again, ONLY TIME WILL TELL.

Yes agree only time will tell but i thot i should learn to move away before i get into trouble. I dont want to ask him direct because it would sound so presumptuous and also insulting to him as a married man. So am asking for you guys to enlighten me abit so that i can do a better judgement call. I do treasure his friendship, thats why the struggle. But if its really heading wrong way i have to forgo it.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Yes agree only time will tell but i thot i should learn to move away before i get into trouble. I dont want to ask him direct because it would sound so presumptuous and also insulting to him as a married man. So am asking for you guys to enlighten me abit so that i can do a better judgement call. I do treasure his friendship, thats why the struggle. But if its really heading wrong way i have to forgo it.

I assume you are a lady. No harm just go with the flow as long you know what you are doing with a clear mind. No harm enjoying it, just play at the water edge without getting your feet wet.

[sane]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Yes agree only time will tell but i thot i should learn to move away before i get into trouble.

Agreed back away if he propose things further. Don't indulge deeper in the pretense of a friendship with a married man because ultimately, the 3rd party will be the one ended up feeling used n hurt.

[tungsten]

Seldom post nowadays... Anyway this is what I suggest if you want to create some distance.

If you have a BF, tell this guy friend that you are thinking to bring your special someone to meet him in the next dinner. Reasons could be your BF heard so much good things about him that your BF want to learn from him.

This is a blunt and effective way to signal to him that you are not available. Prepared for repurcussions (e.g. awkwardness) for a while though.

While there is a chance that he is just lonely or just enjoy your company, I am not sure how it will lead to in the long run. Given enough time, this will have the potential to develop into something. If that is not what you want, run or at least create some distance.

Put yourself in the position of his wife. Would you be comfortable if a woman is meeting your husband at this level of frequency?

Even if both of you is very sure that this is a platonic relationship, it is good to reduce the chance of it being mistaken as a romantic invovlement by other. There is a Chinese saying, "He will not pull on his shoes in a melon patch, Nor adjust his hat under a plum tree." This means a smart person always seeks to provide against possible troubles. And never renders himself under suspicion. As a woman, you might want to protect yourself against this kind of unwanted trouble.

[evilknight]

seems quite obvious...maybe he is not sure if you will accept him...so he is more careful till he gets an obvious signal from you....