Do you love your parents? - Page 2

vampangel · #16 17-10-2015, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

Alright. Maybe I am just a little confused at the moment.

Again, loving somebody is not necessarily the same as liking somebody.

树欲静而风不止子欲养而亲不在

you like a flower you pluck it
you love a flower you plant and nurture it
*winks*

Greenfrog · #17 19-10-2015, 01:14 PM

your parents are perhaps one of the few people that will be with you in hard times.

not your wife , not your gf, not your friends....

but having said that, i have seen my share of bad parenthood.

ringo6668 · #18 19-10-2015, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

Alright. Maybe I am just a little confused at the moment.

Again, loving somebody is not necessarily the same as liking somebody.

树欲静而风不止子欲养而亲不在

Bro how you are here today and what you had or have at present is all because of your parents.What I can say is no matter what ...they are still your parents.To be able to forgive you will live a meaningfull life.Without them we wont be in this world.

larue · #19 19-10-2015, 05:49 PM

I can think of a lot of parents who treat their children like shit, and who in return deserve to be treated like shit by these very same children.

eddy72 · #20 19-10-2015, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ringo6668

Bro how you are here today and what you had or have at present is all because of your parents.What I can say is no matter what ...they are still your parents.To be able to forgive you will live a meaningfull life.Without them we wont be in this world.

got this Chinese saying, when yr road is tough, it will get better..

this saying is mild..

I rather dun be here in the first place..

dyelook · #21 19-10-2015, 06:24 PM

whatever religion youre in.. respect & care for your parents is a must.. the best & worst karma comes from how you treat your elders..

orangeproud · #22 20-10-2015, 03:01 AM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

whatever religion youre in.. respect & care for your parents is a must.. the best & worst karma comes from how you treat your elders..

Raise my both hands & legs up fully agree

Chinese has a saying zuo ren yao yin shui si yuan, means that when one drinks water, one must not forget where it comes from & be gratitude for it, bu ke yi wang ben

makeyouhappy · #23 20-10-2015, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by larue

I can think of a lot of parents who treat their children like shit, and who in return deserve to be treated like shit by these very same children.

Finally! And I agree too! The replies I have been getting have been overly vanilla :/ Can share more?

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Originally Posted by dyelook

whatever religion youre in.. respect & care for your parents is a must.. the best & worst karma comes from how you treat your elders..

While I am not too keen to enter into a discussion about religion..

I have no problems respecting elders who earned it. There are some elderly who, despite their age, are no role models for anybody and thus, don't deserve any respect.

vampangel · #24 20-10-2015, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

While I am not too keen to enter into a discussion about religion..

I have no problems respecting elders who earned it. There are some elderly who, despite their age, are no role models for anybody and thus, don't deserve any respect.

my my
don't mind how the elders are
how bad or worst they do is them who'll come visiting my world
you as a young person should just do your part in respecting them even they're role models or not
if you really can't do that just walk away
it's better to walk away than showing disrespect to the elders

i for once have been smack in the face by a fried kueyteow uncle and i just smile and walk away
out come?
the uncle get scolded and disrespect by the others hawkers
karma
*winks*

Notary · #25 21-10-2015, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

So my question for all my brothers and sisters here is.. Is it wrong to not love your parents?

Hello bro makeyouhappy,

Thank you for starting this thread, I suppose it does take some courage to do so as the general public would frown at your question: "Is it wrong to not love your parents?"
And to all the brothers and sisters here who have lost their parents, my deepest condolences to you and your family

If we believe that there are good people out there in the world, you must also believe that there are bad people. If one would think that this world is filled with only good people then you are a naive little kid in a grown up's body. If there are good people, then there are good parents. The flip side of the coin is also true - bad parents exist.

I guess the ultimate question here is, will you have to still love your bad parent(s) unconditionally if they did wrong to you?

For example, your colleagues or university friends could talk about how their virginity was given to a charming young boy in a nice romantic night but you could only keep quiet because your virginity was stolen from you when you were too young and too weak to defend yourself while your father was pumping you hard and all your mum did was watch and pretended nothing ever happened.

Could you still love your parents

For sure, not everyone will have this chance of being abused, raped, publicly humiliated or murdered by their own parents, but back to the question: "is it wrong to NOT love your parents"?

How about I ask my own question instead?

"Is it wrong to NOT love your parents after being harmed by them?"

dyelook · #26 21-10-2015, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Notary

"Is it wrong to NOT love your parents after being harmed by them?"

now thats a different question..

btw, still waiting for ts to share his experiences story..

makeyouhappy · #27 21-10-2015, 09:44 PM

Huh? Want me to share meh?

I totally wasn't expecting anyone to be interested lol xD

And Notary, great reply!

Sorry I can't quote you, I'm replying on my phone.

I think my previous responses in this thread has already given people a glimpse of my worldview.

If your parents wronged you intentionally, and any reasonable person could see that it has damaged you , and they have made no effort to right the wrong they have committed, then ..

Sure. You're not obliged to love them.

dyelook · #28 21-10-2015, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

Huh? Want me to share meh?

I totally wasn't expecting anyone to be interested lol xD

And Notary, great reply!

Sorry I can't quote you, I'm replying on my phone.

I think my previous responses in this thread has already given people a glimpse of my worldview.

If your parents wronged you intentionally, and any reasonable person could see that it has damaged you , and they have made no effort to right the wrong they have committed, then ..

Sure. You're not obliged to love them.

not really interested but since you say you'll share, so thats why i'm waiting..

btw... i only use phone to surf the forum,quote,post & paste image..

Notary · #29 22-10-2015, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

Sure. You're not obliged to love them.

Love was never an obligation

Anyway bro, up you with a humble little +1 for starting this thread.

Cheers!

Notary · #30 22-10-2015, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

now thats a different question..

btw, still waiting for ts to share his experiences story..

Haha bro,

It is actually the same question disguised to get an answer in a less guilty manner. With the above question, it is easier to say yes. And if the answer is yes that basically means - no, it is not wrong to not love your parents.

To all loving parents out there, thank you for making this world a better place!

(Thanks for the +7 bro dyelook)