How often does your wife give you sex?

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by peanutbutterjel

Hi. I chanced upon several comments of yours in the forum and I wonder your sense of maturity came inbuilt or with age and experiences. Were you all the while understanding and sensible towards marriage, family, and women or did it only kickstarted when you reached a certain age or perhaps because of certain incidents. maybe what I want to know is does the maturity of the mind and soul comes with time or it just simply doesn't exist for some. Uob lady's card tagline "the men don't get it.' haha

Oops. I have been commenting too much! LoL. Didn't think anything about being mature. Its just my current train of thoughts. I probably didn't think like this when I was newly wed. The kids triggered it. How many times were we caught in a heavy quarrel and left our homes to cool down, and our thoughts just drifted to our kids.

Does it come with age? Yes to a small extent. Does it happen for all? No imho. Saying wisdom comes with age is like saying all old men are naturally wiser when they eat more salt than younger men eat rice, which to me is rubbish. There are still old men doing foolish things like visiting prostitutes and ruining their families. Some choose to listen to wisdom. Others reject it. You too are wise in your judgements.

[Jannygirl]

I am a wife with same problem, husband not interested. Sometimes the urge so strong I fantasise that I get molested by doctor or stranger, or get seduced by my boss. There are some men who massage women, but not sure which ones are safe to try. I tried one with Indian man before in Balestier hotel. Men have more avenues. Maybe try a girl massage.

[retsmas]

Originally Posted by Jannygirl

I am a wife with same problem, husband not interested. Sometimes the urge so strong I fantasise that I get molested by doctor or stranger, or get seduced by my boss. There are some men who massage women, but not sure which ones are safe to try. I tried one with Indian man before in Balestier hotel. Men have more avenues. Maybe try a girl massage.

Poor thing. I am sure lots of bros will be willing to massage u FOC. U r just a pm away from getting massaged by bros here...

[fakestar45]

Originally Posted by Jannygirl

I am a wife with same problem, husband not interested. Sometimes the urge so strong I fantasise that I get molested by doctor or stranger, or get seduced by my boss. There are some men who massage women, but not sure which ones are safe to try. I tried one with Indian man before in Balestier hotel. Men have more avenues. Maybe try a girl massage.

Wow.. Serious? I won't mind if u require massage and release.. No idea if this consider as Fwb..

[Nokia69]

some women (like my wife) are simply LSD or ZSD (zero sex drive).

She wants a complete life cycle: date (no pre-marital sex), get married when everyone does, make 2 babies, make money, live in private property, grow old and die.

I do all the housework, i study with the kids, i pay for
most of the household expenses. she goes to work, comes back
home in the evening and sleeps at 10pm.

Once a mth, or maybe once in 2 mths if i siam well, we make out. No foreplay as she hates to be touched. in out dry deal done deal.

i conclude: its the person (and her parents), not the circumstances.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by peanutbutterjel

Hi Rickey. Sad la Maybe I'm too old until I'm talking about soul mate. Hahahaha. But not all people gets it yah. It's kind of like an enlightenment. Anyway, for other bros. No sex only mah. Actually I think humans are just seeking emotional affection la. To guys no sex means no affection. Thus the unhappiness. To ladies, we don't feel your affection also thus the black long see a ready also sian wife face. Quite sad.

Just saw one couple today and the wife was screaming with no sense of courtesy or hold back to her husband. "U stand here I also cannot find you @*!#::&=\" the husband just do the normal reaction u guys give. Which is NO reaction. LOL. Maybe couples should treat their partners like how they used to la. talk With the same tune (texting 'yes baby?' last time and now texting 'ya?')and With some effort to please and also courtesy lor. u know , like how you all woo each other that time. If it's that way and it's just more responsibility shouldered together (aka kids), then the emotion and love also won't run too far off la.

Most importantly, don't live your life like the way you lived when you had her as a girlfriend. Live it like her. A cooped up cannot go anywhere zombie sleepless mother.

You so old meh, dear sis !!??..can't be older than me, I tink...haha...Anyway, T.Q. sis for yr contribution to tis discussion abt wives giving or not giving sex to their hubbies...apologies to hv to paragraph yr post somewat to highlight the impt points you mentioned..

"No sex only mah"...tats the problem...wifeys always tink tat when they dun give sex to their hubbies, it's only "No sex only mah", a very small matter...still giving him all the other things he needs. But they fail to understand the sexual needs & nature of the male species as God equipped them to be, to be the horny ones & help replenish the earth...

And about emotional affections...yes, men & women all crave for emotional affections at some point of time or other in their lives...& emotional attachments will sooner or later lead to sexual attachments for both genders as well...But then we all know tat women must feel loved 1st before giving sex to their men & vice versa guys wants sex 1st before it leads to love...T.Q. sis for sharing wif us your observation of the hubby who was so rudely scolded by his wife in public..it shd never hv happened, not even at home...but sadly tis happens quite often by domineering wives who do not understand love & emotions at all...sigh...T.Q. sis for understanding & seeing tis problem from the men's POV as well..

[MoJoe313]

peanutbutterjel is sis?! Oops

[MissyPA]

Originally Posted by parrotkid

Sex life for me had gone downhill ever since my wife had our 2nd child. If i al lucky, i get to have sex with her 2 times a month. Sometimes just once. I thought they always say that women sex drive will increase when they become older? Any bros with similar experience?

Hi
as a married women I used to hav very low sex drive after my 2 children due to stress I guess. Currently my children have grown up and I'm less stress I started to realise my sex drive are high. I initiated sex lots of times but my husband just refuse (note:both of us are just in our late 20s) all he allow was blowjob for him. He did enjoy the blowjob but it just cant satisfy my needs. Guess I just have to give him somemore time to adapt back to sex life.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

peanutbutterjel is sis?! Oops

Oops !!..am i wrong ??...paiseh, so sorry to peanutbutterjel about tat ...in tis forum, gender is not always clear...can be easily mistaken !...really sorry abt tat.

[bbq1989]

Wa! All the stories here are scaring me. I am newly wed, for less than 2 years, and now having sex w her is like i have to ask for favor lidat. Ask ten times maybe she relents once.

Before she started work, still quite frequent. Once work starts, once a week maybe. After marriage, once or twice a month. Now she pregnant, so try to understand. But looking at all of your experience here, looks like its just gg to continue going downhill.

Damn jialat. My drive quite high one. And we still treat each other properly, like call each other dear, i don ignore her when she talks to me etc. but alrdy lidat. Cant imagine few years down the road...turning 26 this year nia leh. Still young and energetic. Lol.

[bbq1989]

Originally Posted by MissyPA

Hi
as a married women I used to hav very low sex drive after my 2 children due to stress I guess. Currently my children have grown up and I'm less stress I started to realise my sex drive are high. I initiated sex lots of times but my husband just refuse (note:both of us are just in our late 20s) all he allow was blowjob for him. He did enjoy the blowjob but it just cant satisfy my needs. Guess I just have to give him somemore time to adapt back to sex life.

was his sex drive high before marriage and kids? I always thought sexual compatibility is very important. came across this article talking about it before. really some weird advice there. haha. link

[MissyPA]

Originally Posted by bbq1989

was his sex drive high before marriage and kids? I always thought sexual compatibility is very important. came across this article talking about it before. really some weird advice there. haha. link

His sex drive is not high but its been a month or so since we last had sex. I tried ways in seducing him but it just dont work. Is there anyway that can really turn guys on? I tried it on my friends they turn on easily but not on my husband.

[bbq1989]

Originally Posted by MissyPA

His sex drive is not high but its been a month or so since we last had sex. I tried ways in seducing him but it just dont work. Is there anyway that can really turn guys on? I tried it on my friends they turn on easily but not on my husband.

wa you tried it on your friends? What lucky friends. hahaha.
mmm...i guess some guys are naturally low in drive. Does he exercise often? For me, exercising makes a difference.

[MissyPA]

Originally Posted by bbq1989

wa you tried it on your friends? What lucky friends. hahaha.
mmm...i guess some guys are naturally low in drive. Does he exercise often? For me, exercising makes a difference.

I doubt myself hence I tried. I even tried not wearing anything inside with recealing clothes as well as those fbt shorts or so abd still no response. He dont excercise. The so called excercise he does is walking few km. Thats it. T.T

[kt88_2]

Now realise that many couples have this problem .My wife also not interested , always say tired.I live like a monk very long already.Think normal if all having this problem