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#376
13-01-2005, 02:57 AM
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Kumsia, brother MachodevilX for your advice.
I am selfish i think. Perharps i dun love her enough to wish she be happy in her marriage. Gnn, or maybe i want her too much? I am still harbouring the hope that she will leave him one day. I still hang the cute softtoy she made for me in my car. Everyday when i drive i will look at it. It is impossible to pass a single day without think of ANN. Very hard to open my "heart lock" lah. Other than my love for ANN, the other reason is being....if i am not poor and without resources then, she will never leave me. Then, i can't provide for her. I can't even afford to buy a hp to call her in army camp but instead got to queue up to make payphone calls. Last time hp damn ex, and hp bills not cheap also. I am just a poor NS boy. What to do? I seriously hated this. Nabei cheebye, serve my country so siong (me Guardsman) then my girl leave me. Nvm, good night. Should not have bring this out and make myself geksim. Need a hard drink and trying to sleep it off.  Regards, Ah Seng
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#377
13-01-2005, 03:06 AM
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hey bro ah seng, relak lah..the feeling i can identify very well man, gg thru a break up with my gal now also..haiz...quite fuck up, this feeling..but if like u say..the gal left u cos of u poor..then...smthng not v rite as feelings not supp to mix with monetary status one rite?
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13-01-2005, 03:22 AM
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Reading through ur story, I'm not laughing, really I'm not LAUGHING. Well, IMHO, this is just wat I think, btw, u asked for opinion hor, 1. No, it's just an infactuation tat all botaks in their NS days hv n u r just trying to look 4 ur lost ego or shld it be old memories back, u r not looking 4 love. 2. No, she is getting married so wats the f**king point  , u think she still loves u. If she still loves u, all this years she wld hv try to look 4 u or the other way round.3. Sure, of course, definitely, positively, no doubt abt it, as long as u still likes girls, ahem, u not gay rite.  see wat I mean, u r olreadi having second thoughts.btw, I'm really not laughing. Cheers.
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#379
13-01-2005, 11:07 AM
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1. The thingy abt true love is more than what i know. So i better not comment much on it. However, there will always be something everyone missed in life. Something one did not do/ properly / accomplish / or someone one did not express his feelings to or successfully savage the relationship. This kinda of feeling and in a situation of nothing you can do abt it is just so fustrating. In my view, your feelings for her is very strong thus putting you in the situation . Just that fate, if you believe it exist, is not meant for both of you. 2. I suggest you let it be...if you must say...is it to let the word out of heart to make you feel better or you are still hoping there might be a u-turn in the situation? At times, we believe our love for someone can be so strong that conquer all but most of the times, what the someone feel abt us is more important. Lock it in your heart kept only the sweet memories and proceed with your life. 3. You just have to open your heart, meet more ppl from the right places and give yourself and others a chance to enable things to develop. One can be in a new relationship but still ocassionally think of the "missed" someone. It is alright. We are human after all. But as things develop between you and the person in the new relationship, your feelings and sudden relapse of thinking of the "missed" someone will automatically be "reduced" as time go by...However...you need to identify your purpose of entering a new relationship. It should be to proceed and build on your life with someone you really like/want to grow love with, rather using her as a tool to get yourself out of the current heartache situation thus creating a new victim of love which i believe you will not. Not sure if you had seen the show "Leaving Las Vega" starring Nicholas Cage. I had not but read abt a scene from somewhere (definitely not from SB as far as i can remember). When Nicholas was asked abt his "drink to death" life style, he said something like "i cant remember i started drinking after my wife left me or she left me because of my drinking" See the effects of being heavily intoxicated with alcohol....having said all this is not the Zhong Tian (important pt). Relating your case to nicholas, his alcohol can be something else currently in your life ...excessive (i stressed again excessive) of drinking/gambling/commercial sex can make you feel worst and bring you nowhere. Gather your courage and will and with support from your frens, you will continue your journey of building your life after been lingering around this one station of your life. Cheer Up!!!  Time heals the wound thought it may leave a scar.
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#380
13-01-2005, 11:16 AM
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This also reminds me of 15+ years ago.... The last time I saw her was 3 years ago... She's married. Although, She's not the most prettiest girlfrends I known. But she left a place in my heart which I can never forget for the rest of my life... Well, back to yuor question:- 1. Is my ANN my true love? This was your true love... at that point of time. As for now, It's more like a desire to have her back, like what bro MachoDevilX said. I know how you have this thought as I also feel that way too.some how,it's just don't feel right to break up a happy couple. Instead just 1 person feel sad, It may cause 3 ppl unhappy. 2. Should i tell her how i feel all these years? Very subjective, it's up to your pride. Why? She may or may not accept what u told her, If accepted, will she come back to you again? in this current situation, I think she will not. If not accepted, will you able to deal with another blow of rejection? 3. Would my true love comes again? It will, maybe It's happening now. Just look around you, there maybe just a sweet, plain jane who you never notice, carrying a touch for you. my adivce to you: If u cannot be with some one you love, Keep her in your heart, wish her a happy marriage. And dun lazies around, start looking for GF!! Will u not be mine? HauntedSex
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#381
13-01-2005, 11:21 AM
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You are most welcome. You are not the only one who feel this way. This is actually what most people in this World, are harbouring for. "Chi" sounded as "Eat" in chinese. "Chi" is the desire to want something that you always feel like wanting and you are not willing to let it go. It can be love, someone, something, hobbies, activities, food, drinks, etc.. Craving for something is a type of "Chi". If you still harbour the intention and hope that the guy will leave her one day, I don't think this is love. It is just being "chi". It's like wanting someone or something for a very long time and if you does not have it, you will feel a lost of something. Have you ever spare a thought for her and think of how she will feel when such things happened? Do you think that she can take it when her future husband leaves her??? If you do love her and care for her, do you think you will want her to feel sad and have to been through the feeling of abandonment by the one whom she loves? Just imagine if you are married with the one girl whom you love deeply and she leaves you, how will you feel? It's exactly the same feelings if the guy leaves her. Do you want her to feel the same pain as what you are feeling now? If you does not want her to feel the pain, as long as she has make her decision to be with that guy, just pray that the guy can treat her well and she can be happy with it. Think about it and I believe that you will be able to understand yourself better. You should just treat the past memories with her as a remembrance. Let me ask you one question. Have you ever thought of "What if both of you have never even met in this life?" The World is so huge. Two persons who can get to meet each other is really "Yuan Fen". The "Yuan Fen" can be just an hour, a day, a month or a year. But still, at least you can get to meet that someone... Although you won't feel the pain if you have never even met her in the first place, but is it really what you want? For me, I will still want to meet her even if it means that the one whom I love will broke my heart deeply again. I won’t regret meeting her… So, just be grateful enough that at least you can still meet her and be with her for a while. At least a chance is given to you to be with her for a while. The time together might not be long but it’s really better than nothing… If you are able to understand it, then I think you will be able to let it go…. Nothing in this World can be forever. Eventually, everything will come to an end… Although a lot of people will feel that if it’s True Love, then it should last forever… But then, is that the case? True Love is a desire that everyone of us wants to feel and possess. But it could be only a desire rather than Love itself… During the time when you feel that she leaves you is because that you are poor and in NS, it might not be the main reason. It could be your interpretations of finding excuses for yourself that this is the only reason why she leaves you. Although partially, it could indirectly be one of the reasons but definitely will not be fully. Such things cannot blame anyone or anything. It could be the time, the place, both of your matured level, both of your views, etc… There can be lots and lots of factor. It could be because that you have met her at the wrong time. And it was you who feel that she leaves you because you are poor and in NS. You just want to make yourself feel better. If someone has really decided to leave you, that means that no matter what you do, what you say at that particular point of time, it could be meaningless… It seems like you are putting the entire blame on her in which I do not think that you should feel so. Although you might not realize that you are actually blaming her sub-consciously, but then if you say that she leaves you because you are poor etc, then sad to say, I think you do not even love her and I think that you do not even deserve to be with her. You just want to have her. You just want to posses her. And this is not Love. Have you ever thought of it this way. Is she such a person whom she feels that if you have no $$, then she will leave you? Is she such a person who cannot even wait for you for a month? In your mind, you already have this impression of her that she leaves you is because of these two things. You just want yourself to feel better if you think of it this way as you cannot find any other reasons. And is this called love? In True Love, you will not ever blame her regardless of what she does. She can leave you for someone better but then if you truly loves her, you should know that she just want to find someone who she feels is more suitable for her. And if the one is not you, just accept it... 
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#382
13-01-2005, 11:29 AM
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I have missed out this point of pride and dealing with another blow of rejection. Thanks for adding in...Lucky that you have point this out. Bro CB got to ask himself if he was prepared to accept another blow of rejection before even asking. 
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13-01-2005, 04:56 PM
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Thank you all for the sound advice and questions. Its greatly appreciated.
Basically its the circumstances, 形事被迫 that forced me to give up this relationship early in my life. Actually i got her to thank for motivating to earn $ and not so easily be subjected to circumstances again.
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#385
13-01-2005, 08:18 PM
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true love without sex or sexual activities?
don't think it's possible if the couple are young and horny. Maybe when they are both older and have grown up kids. Quote:
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#386
14-01-2005, 04:41 AM
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Love is for stupid people.
You treat her with respect. You hang around her because dat's enuf to make u happy. You know (without her saying) wat she likes and get her the things she wants. She say she no time so u do her work for her. Den next day find out she "no time" because go party with Guy B. You stupid and don't mind. she say "no time" again, u help her again.
The whole world tell her Guy B will dump her after one or two fucks. But she says "no. he really loves me." so 2 wks later, Guy B walk around happily. u can see his cock on his face. and u can see the ger crying. u know he fuck her liao and its the end. the ger still dun believe cause she stupid. You give her shoulder let her cry. u tell urself "she kana fuck but i dun mind". den six months later, its another "i really love u" guy. You want to beat this one up but u can't because he's some big shots son. go police sue till u pawn underwear also not enuf. You stupid. She stupid. So love is only for stupid ppl. Don't fall in love unless u want to be stupid. maybe 10 yrs down the road aids got cure. but stupid confirm no cure. Still not convinced? Know why $$$ can buy sex but cannot buy love? Clever ppl know how to sell their body to earn money. stupid ppl duno how to sell love to earn money. It is sad but it is true. It is life. Life is fucked up. especially for stupid ppl. Warn gals n guys one more time. don't be an idiot by falling in love. life is fucked up enough. Last edited by watmidoin; 14-01-2005 at 04:57 AM.
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#387
14-01-2005, 10:23 AM
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An example of Sex will be guys visiting WLs and that is for sex. Although it may develop into Love as well but the initial intention of guys visiting WLs, is usually for Sex. An example of Love can be a couple chatting with each other and both party will still feel satisfied and happy. Even by just hugging and kissing alone will still be able to bring the couple closer and hence allow them to feel the Love in each other. If ever one day (Touch Wood) that your gf /wife happened to meet with an accident that results in her losing conscious for the rest of her life, will you still take care of her and love her? Or if the accident results in her having no more feelings below her waist level, will you still love her and accompany her throughout the rest of her life? For me, I will. In conclusion, it's really up to individuals and it's subjective to whether you truly love the person. For me, True Love can survive without Sex.
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14-01-2005, 10:30 AM
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#389
14-01-2005, 11:10 AM
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what if the girl is old and dont appeal to ur sexual needs anymore? okie this may sound stpud but maybe can give it a try.. everytime after sex or u masturbated... think of or look at the one u loved... do u still find her attractive and special to u or just another woman around u? i think we guys tend to be clearer mind after the shot... our army to affect our thinkin.. 
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15-01-2005, 07:41 AM
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