The Price of My stupidity

[misallocated]

Dear Bro's

once again, thanks for the kind words. But the news just keeps getting "better"....

"According to the Ministry of Health, 463 HIV cases were detected last year, involving 418 men. About 27 per cent of them, or 115 men, were married."

Nice, thats what I might end up as....a statistic...

Oh by the way, smokers have an increased risk.....guess what ...yup, smoker ...thats me.

Any bro's managed to think of any ideas as to how to get the FL massuese to test using a test kit bought online in a tactful manner ? I already made an order online and should be getting them soon.

As for the risk of passing it to my gf, she has several long haul flights this month while I might be travelling as well, hence I will be minimising physical contact with her....but pardon me for asking, wouldn't your partner get suspicious if you avoid sex with her for the next 3 months ? The standard "stress recently" and "I'm dead tired" can only work for a couple of weeks before she starts asking questions right ?

I usually only know how to ask for or initiate sex....never tried turning her down before actually....

[mortar]

TS, i fully understand what/how you are feeling now cos i have gone thru the same thing as you before. Anyway here's my thread: http://samleong.shop/showthread.php?t=208887

The waiting is the most cham of all, I have a gf too, and i totally understoodED the pain of discussing the future/happy times with your gf while your mind is thinking of 'shit what have i done to myself? how am i going to face my gf and family if i really got myself into deep trouble' Nevertheless, check up is a MUST for you in order to peace out your mind.

I went to DSC and the waiting time there is hell too, heart thumping experience while they show you the ch8 drama show which chen han wei got AIDS. The thoughts of regret will be revolving around your mind. Very luckily, all my tests are neg and i really left the place in a peace of mind. Now i start to appreciate life/gf/family more than ever. No more commercial bbbj for me. Get yourself check soon bro, and best of luck to you.

[thedocisin]

Originally Posted by misallocated

Any bro's managed to think of any ideas as to how to get the FL massuese to test using a test kit bought online in a tactful manner ? I already made an order online and should be getting them soon.

bro,

dun want to burst your bubble but even if she test negative for HIV she could be in the window period.
in other words she could be contagious and still test negative.
wat i'm saying is even if you test her and she is ok, you still need to get yourself tested.

all the best to you man.

[misallocated]

Dear Bros'

I need your advise please. I found a bump on my groin area. It's NOT on my penis. It's actually on the pubic area on the right beside my penis. It's slightly reddish, less than 1cm in diameter, not really painful unless you press it. Doesn't seem to have any pus yet.

I though it was a swollen lymph node but i checked the pictures online and it's not as swollen as the pics i found. It's more like a big pimple. Shit....how now man???

I asked the massuese and she told me she last did the medical check-up including HIV about 2 months back. But of course, I understand the window period theory as I am still f**king worried....can't sleep in peace...no mood at work. It's f**ked up man.

I have made an appointment at Dr Tan at OUB next week. I understand that the charges are $80 for consultation and $600 for the PCR test. But I would like to do the whole suite of tests for all possible STDs. Any bro's out there can kindly tell me how much it would cost ?

Appreciate your replies guys.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by misallocated

I need your advise please.

Should be "I need your ADVICE please.".

"Advise" is a verb.

[justlook]

Originally Posted by misallocated

Dear Bros'

I need your advise please. I found a bump on my groin area. It's NOT on my penis. It's actually on the pubic area on the right beside my penis. It's slightly reddish, less than 1cm in diameter, not really painful unless you press it. Doesn't seem to have any pus yet.

I though it was a swollen lymph node but i checked the pictures online and it's not as swollen as the pics i found. It's more like a big pimple. Shit....how now man???

I asked the massuese and she told me she last did the medical check-up including HIV about 2 months back. But of course, I understand the window period theory as I am still f**king worried....can't sleep in peace...no mood at work. It's f**ked up man.

I have made an appointment at Dr Tan at OUB next week. I understand that the charges are $80 for consultation and $600 for the PCR test. But I would like to do the whole suite of tests for all possible STDs. Any bro's out there can kindly tell me how much it would cost ?

Appreciate your replies guys.

If you think all cost for checking expensive at singapore you can go to malaysia (Johor Bahru) last time i check for HIV and STD around RM 350 +-

[thedocisin]

bro,

last time i did full suite of STD test about $400+
sounds to me your 'pimple' worst case scenario is syphilis
syphilis can cure. just need to take penicillin injection.
chill bro.
all the best to you. really really hope you will be ok.

[iSAMMYBOY]

Seeing Dr Tan will be a good choice.
Heard that they uses laser for treatment in case yours is a tiny wart.
No need to shave off pubic hair to the skin like other clinics do.
Saw from Shim Clinic website that for physical examination ONLY, already need to shave off pubic hair. Might look clean but wierd thou.
Alot of people recommend Dr Tan, maybe after yur visit you may share your experience with bros here on their professionalism and expertise level.
Good Luck!

Originally Posted by misallocated

Dear Bros'

I need your advise please. I found a bump on my groin area. It's NOT on my penis. It's actually on the pubic area on the right beside my penis. It's slightly reddish, less than 1cm in diameter, not really painful unless you press it. Doesn't seem to have any pus yet.

I though it was a swollen lymph node but i checked the pictures online and it's not as swollen as the pics i found. It's more like a big pimple. Shit....how now man???

I asked the massuese and she told me she last did the medical check-up including HIV about 2 months back. But of course, I understand the window period theory as I am still f**king worried....can't sleep in peace...no mood at work. It's f**ked up man.

I have made an appointment at Dr Tan at OUB next week. I understand that the charges are $80 for consultation and $600 for the PCR test. But I would like to do the whole suite of tests for all possible STDs. Any bro's out there can kindly tell me how much it would cost ?

Appreciate your replies guys.

[God OfSex]

If you continue to see her, be mentally prepared for the conseqences if the unpredictable happens. Please tread carefully else you may regret! It's your choice. Meanwhilst, no point worrying about this & that until you have seen a doc.

Good luck and hope you will be fine.

[nuoyah]

bro, I read your story and could not help thinking that I've been there....done that...and walked the same situation you were in. I know the anguish you feel and tension I felt when I took my first HIV test at AIDS Anonymous was not pleasant to say the least. I was partially relieved that I was not tested positive then the thought hit that I had to endure another 3 months of pure hell mental torture. That was the good news...the bad news was I contracted gonorrhea. In my case, I did not even do it raw...I think it came from a BJ. Fortunately the condition was curable and things did not get any worse than that for me.

I was finally cleared of everything after 6 months and I could not tell you how relieved I was. There and then, I made my decision....no more commercial sex for me. It's just not worth it and the girls or FLs in Geylang, street walkers, etc.....it's just not safe. I know all that talk about them going for test, clean,blah blah...but seriously if a hooker is infected, most of them will not refrain from working to make money. Besides it takes time before the any virus is detected...it's this time that's most dangerous. IMHO I think they want to enact a little revenge on the next lusty sucker and spread the feeling around. I went to the doctor for a medical recently and I took my HIV test with confidence and no fear. I wish you well and if you are cleared, take courage from my story and abstain in future. Do not live in fear ever again.

[nicholassoong81]

Bro, your story is pretty scary. Did you have BBBJ or BJ? Really puzzled at how you got gonnorhea

[peanut123]

Dude, I don't know where you got your info from, but you are wrong on all counts.

1. You don't need to have cuts or open wounds to get HIV from an infected person. Cuts and open wounds increases your chances of getting HIV, but you can get infected even if you don't have any cuts or open wounds.

2. How does knowing that people in porn movies are more likely to get HIV help TS in any way ? That's like saying people jumping off 40 storey buildings are likely to get killed means its safe for me to jump off 20 stories. It makes no sense.

3. There's no such thing as safe or safest place to fuck for commercial sex. Commercial sex by its very nature is dangerous. Wanna be safe ? Stay home and PCC, or fuck a faithful partner.

Originally Posted by Msdy777

Hi TS,
don't worry too much as what is done is already done..
let me console you...
1. the girl u did raw with, she must have HIV before she can pass to you.
Even she got HIV, both of you must have open wounds or small cut on the skins to pass the virus.. in any case, I think the chances are low..
But you still can get stds...

2. just go watch some hardcore porn like gangbang, creampie, orgy clips, I sure those people got a higher chance than you to get HIV.

3. lastly for those bros out there who are scared of getting stds and HIV but cannot control your desire... I suggest you guys go to legal brothel at geylang because it is the safest place u fuck at peace... without worrying so much after a session.

Hope this will help you feel better!

3.

[frivolous_ami]

I was in the same shoes. Bottomline is be responsible. Bang hard, but also must have condom. You never know what kind of crap the other fellow is carrying. Sometimes, whether fl or not, sg morals are collapsing as another bro was saying.

Carrying something and not knowing what it is.... is a horrible feeling. Do the right thing, do with condom or don't do at all.

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by peanut123

3. There's no such thing as safe or safest place to fuck for commercial sex. Commercial sex by its very nature is dangerous. Wanna be safe ? Stay home and PCC, or fuck a faithful partner.

Faithful partner is a hard find. Even a so called faithful one can be playing around. Seen too many so called faithful ones banging around. So, still have to be very safe. Dun say those viet wife. Those still can say quite safe.

[ilovesingapore]

Originally Posted by misallocated

Dear Bro's

thanks for the kind words and advice (yes boss sammyboy, I noticed that you place particular emphasis on this word, hence the need to underline

In fact, one bro gave a brillant, out-of-my-box idea about buying the test kit and getting the FL massuse to test for HIV. I really think thats a great idea, I would love to proceed with it but the thing is, how do I put it across to her ?

I like to think that I have high EQ and it seems to me that if I ask her to test, it would seem that I don't trust her and she might even deem it insulting since she has reiterated to her customers and on the forums that she DOES NOT do FJs.

Its not like there's any emtional entanglement involved, but I wouldn't want to piss her off and end up having to wait for another nail-biting 3 weeks.

So i'm sure that there has to be a nice and tacit way to put my message across without pissing her off since technically, she can help alleviate some of my worries for awhile but I need some creative ways to ask her.

Help needed here brothers.

An update on my emotional and physical well-being. Emotions wise, my nerves are a wreck. I have to continue being my normal gregarious self with my parents, gfs, colleauges , friends and customers and it is draining me. Try faking a smile and cracking jokes when your mind is constantly going," what the f**k have I done to myself ??!!!"

Part of my job involves entertaining my clients, bring them out for drinks at KTVs etc and the girls there do not interest me one bit at all....I would rather stay home and mope about what i stupidly did and how is it gonna affect my loved ones ? I mean, what the hell are they gonna say about me at the fucking funeral ???

Physical-wise, yes I know that symptoms do not kick in early, but still , the headaches have progressed to fevers and a flu , could be due to the weather, but , is it too much of a concidence ? I read that there's a possibility of a high fever in 3 weeks so I'm counting down but trying my best to lead a healthy lifestyle to try and prevent it from coming so as to falsely take it as a sign that things are gonna be allright.

Went to visit my new place with my GF today, great place, great facilities. She was decribing how she wants to do up the place, where's our dog gonna sleep , showing me her shortlisted IDs, cause it was over first place and she's really enthusiastic. My heart had the "sour" feeling. If things do go wrong, how to tell her ? How do i tell someone that I'm gonna ruin her life plans ?

Once again, im fucked. Nice.

if u hv HIV, u can be the ambassador for Action for AIDS. Ur emotions are really high.