Sad but true. However my close gfs all supported me despite that I'm playing with fire. Sometimes I look at my kids n think whether they knew their mother is sleeping with strangers outside. But I decided life is short. If men can stray, why can't women. Although I strongly emphasize that I only did it as a last resort, to fulfill my needs.
I think if you continue to fulfill your duties as their mom, the kids will not bother what you do outside the home. Humans have different needs and sexual need is one of them. If you can't be satisfied at home, then you source outside. It's normal for some women to do that, at least for those in my circle of gal frens. But most importantly, know the rules of the game and be safe. Take care, sis.
I can feel u. I have a very close female friend who even intro her friend to me, hoping that we can work out something. But too bad, her friend n me are from different world. Close friend thought of feeding my needs, but she happily married so didn't want to take any chance. Even if she give, I don't think I will take it.
Ur situation is the same as mine except it's reverse role. I think u made a wise choice not accepting ur close gf help , end up will be worst.
How often does wife have sex with me? After over 10 years of marriage, now is like almost zero. I do feel sad that it has become like this and trust me on this, she receives at least TWO orgasms every single time we have sex from the time we pak tor until even now during the exceptionally rare times when we do it. So although my kukujiao is small... i know i am not a dud in bed, at least insofar as she is concerned.
I have never said any thing derogatory about her post pregnancies body (yes, we have children and yes she has piled on a lot of weight) and i still get hard looking at her when she is naked.
Whatever she desires, she get. (all i can say is that she has more high end bags and watches than 95% of her friends).
I spend time with the children and encourage her to go out with her friends so that she can catch a breather. We also spend more time together than most people.
I am not a looker (i think that i am ugly actually) but i am fit for a man in his 40s (178 cm, 74kg, body fat of under 15%).
More or less given up on trying to cajole, seduce her into sex. Rejected all the time now.
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Originally Posted by chanellno5
Hugs... Yes life move on. TAts why I decided to eat outside rather than wallow in self pity. Took me a long time to step out but I'm not turning back. Call me cheap or whatever. I hv my needs to fulfil.
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Sad but true. However my close gfs all supported me despite that I'm playing with fire. Sometimes I look at my kids n think whether they knew their mother is sleeping with strangers outside. But I decided life is short. If men can stray, why can't women. Although I strongly emphasize that I only did it as a last resort, to fulfill my needs.
I actually encouraged one of my colleagues to do the same as you. Her husband has zero interest in her although she still looks very hot and had aggressively "attacked" sexually repeatedly. And No, it was not towards me. I had no real interest in banging her. Know her for too long to want to do any thing with her.
She was a little reluctant at first but when she did, she felt so happy and satisfied and fulfilled. She felt like a WOMAN again. There were some pitfalls but with my assistance and advice, she circumvented them eventually.
End of the day, i think that we would be silly to deny ourselves some measure of comfort and happiness. Life is simply too short.
Moreover, i firmly believe, after going through the entire process of listening; discussing and advising my friend, that it is more than just sex. It is a need to be desired, to be touched, to actually "FEEL" something again.
And this, applies to both men and woman for it is a human instinct.
I think if you continue to fulfill your duties as their mom, the kids will not bother what you do outside the home. Humans have different needs and sexual need is one of them. If you can't be satisfied at home, then you source outside. It's normal for some women to do that, at least for those in my circle of gal frens. But most importantly, know the rules of the game and be safe. Take care, sis.
Thanks sis, I actually don't feel any guilt at all the first time i strayed. Guess my rational needs overcome any guilt. Yes I will try my best to be safe
How often does wife have sex with me? After over 10 years of marriage, now is like almost zero. I do feel sad that it has become like this and trust me on this, she receives at least TWO orgasms every single time we have sex from the time we pak tor until even now during the exceptionally rare times when we do it. So although my kukujiao is small... i know i am not a dud in bed, at least insofar as she is concerned.
I have never said any thing derogatory about her post pregnancies body (yes, we have children and yes she has piled on a lot of weight) and i still get hard looking at her when she is naked.
Whatever she desires, she get. (all i can say is that she has more high end bags and watches than 95% of her friends).
I spend time with the children and encourage her to go out with her friends so that she can catch a breather. We also spend more time together than most people.
I am not a looker (i think that i am ugly actually) but i am fit for a man in his 40s (178 cm, 74kg, body fat of under 15%).
More or less given up on trying to cajole, seduce her into sex. Rejected all the time now.
I actually encouraged one of my colleagues to do the same as you. Her husband has zero interest in her although she still looks very hot and had aggressively "attacked" sexually repeatedly. And No, it was not towards me. I had no real interest in banging her. Know her for too long to want to do any thing with her.
She was a little reluctant at first but when she did, she felt so happy and satisfied and fulfilled. She felt like a WOMAN again. There were some pitfalls but with my assistance and advice, she circumvented them eventually.
End of the day, i think that we would be silly to deny ourselves some measure of comfort and happiness. Life is simply too short.
Moreover, i firmly believe, after going through the entire process of listening; discussing and advising my friend, that it is more than just sex. It is a need to be desired, to be touched, to actually "FEEL" something again.
And this, applies to both men and woman for it is a human instinct.
I couldn't agree more with u. U hit the spots accurately. The desire to be felt n touched. I couldnt stand the thought of no sex for the rest of my life . That's why I stepped out. But at the end of the day, I hope to fulfill my emotional needs besides my physical needs.
Hello, seriously take your bias stand aside. If men cheat they don't get brand as macho, gentleman or anything positive. U wan to bash also bash correctly.
Well.. not from where my circle of friends talk. When the guys shared their stories, they get pat on their back.
But when we the girls shred the same things, they gave us us 'you a slut" look.
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One thing for sure now is no matter is men cheat or woman cheat, the fucking law side and protect the woman. How is this for fairness?
Even as a women myself, I have to agree with you. The women chartered had been misused by some women for their own benefit. Honestly, I do pity some men on this.
wah i reading all these posts and get scared sia, i think a long long time ago i posted in one of the similar threads about my situation also. i'm not married, but with gf, so if this post is deemed not applicable then please delete. i've been with my gf for 5 years plus liao, i'm only mid 20's, but still haven't seen her fully naked sia, i dunno what's wrong as she can get very horny when making out, however always stop short from removing her panties and attacking i planning to marry her, hoping that she is just being conservative and will have lots of fucking after, but until then i seeing FL at least every week. sadly i got no fb though, i don't really know how to approach it, and singapore being a small world i scared if i try to find fb word will get out
wah i reading all these posts and get scared sia, i think a long long time ago i posted in one of the similar threads about my situation also. i'm not married, but with gf, so if this post is deemed not applicable then please delete. i've been with my gf for 5 years plus liao, i'm only mid 20's, but still haven't seen her fully naked sia, i dunno what's wrong as she can get very horny when making out, however always stop short from removing her panties and attacking i planning to marry her, hoping that she is just being conservative and will have lots of fucking after, but until then i seeing FL at least every week. sadly i got no fb though, i don't really know how to approach it, and singapore being a small world i scared if i try to find fb word will get out
My ex FB start to work near my place not long ago. In a shop that my family will walk pass daily. My blood freeze when I saw her, eye contact with her too. Glad that she act like she dunno me, but I still 😓😓😓😓 whenever I walk pass her every weekend.
I couldn't agree more with u. U hit the spots accurately. The desire to be felt n touched. I couldnt stand the thought of no sex for the rest of my life . That's why I stepped out. But at the end of the day, I hope to fulfill my emotional needs besides my physical needs.
You are not wrong about this. Just that you need to play safe and avoid hurting or harming your loved ones... Me too.. had a regular sexual trysts with my close female friend (she was unhappily married and her hubby strayed too by bringing the lady home!!) .. But then we never do it at her home .. I brought her to hotels.... Secret and discreet... always use Durex condoms.. I am clean (I go for regular checkups) but I don't want accidents like making her tummy heavy with my child or anything... Frankly she needs companion, a listening ear and someone to enjoy good safe sex with to help her satisfy, enjoy and relax amidst the tensions she faced in life.. Sex to us seems more like a discreet leisure activity. But then keep it low profile to avoid affecting her marriage is first priority other than protected sex.
19-11-2015, 03:23 AM
i planning to marry her, hoping that she is just being conservative and will have lots of fucking after, but until then i seeing FL at least every week. sadly i got no fb though, i don't really know how to approach it, and singapore being a small world i scared if i try to find fb word will get out
