but they are my immediate family members how can I stop seeing them or break off ties completely with them? I know we need to slim down but I have tried jogging and it not very effective to slim down, plus I not very disciplined in jogging esp. jogging alone. I wanted to ask you something else but I cannot remember I think.
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Originally Posted by ssd3469
if you already have 2 wives why do you still go and chiong? Is it because wife don't give? In that case why cannot divorce? Cause you have kids already? Just divorce lah, then kids go with 1 of you, then you can lead single life and chiong with as much freedom and frequency as you like.
one aunty and one uncle totally couldn't stand me
because i didn't marry an ethnic chinese
came to scold me saying I let down my parents
what do you think I should do? divorce my wife because of their views and find an ethnic chinese to marry?
why should I do something just to please others? this is my life, my choice
you cannot please everyone in the world
I chased them off and I never spoke to them again
my parents eventually accepted my decision and my wife, so who are they to say otherwise?
Immediate family members or relatives or friends, it doesn't matter, this is your life, not their life
As long as you don't commit crimes or do anything against your conscience, then just do what you want
why care so much about what others think?
everything in life is about discipline, well mostly
taking the easiest example, if you don't study hard, memorise and practise the questions
do you expect to get straight As in your exams all the way?
maybe yes, if you are a genius
if you have no discipline to diet and exercise but continue to binge eat, you can't expect your body to slim down
if you cut down on your food and exercise everyday, you will lose weight
another way is to eat nothing but fruits I heard, but I never tried
anyway, some girls like plump or fat guys, so it is entirely up to you and your luck then
i can only suggest
married one, then she said she changed her mind about having children
so i divorced her and married the second one
I have sex with my wife, once to twice a week at least
thing is i am very attracted to slim girls, my wife was 48kg before we got married
now her weight is around 20kg more after having 3 kids
i find it hard to be erect or stay erect, so i had to do other things such as watch porn, close my eyes to fantasize, cross-dress etc
I just cannot get naturally aroused with her, but I love her lots
yes, i cheated on her with two other girls
but at least I don't get the feeling that I got ED, I get aroused with them naturally but not with my wife
another thing of getting aroused is foreplay, my wife doesn't like foreplay, she just likes jumping straight into sex, ask her to give bj, she only gives like one bj every few months
whereas the other two girls does it without even thinking, but i don't need the bjs when i am with them anyway, already rock hard when i see them getting undressed, just looking at their beautiful bodies alone is enough to get me high
i love my wife and kids, getting divorced will only ruin my kids lives
anyway, my sex life is fabulous right now
When you are horny it is normal to not think of the potential consequences also...just like when people are horny they choose to take off rubber and do, so I am not to be blamed to be honest.
That is the difference between someone smart and any other ordinary fellow on the streets
Horny until forget potential consequences is similar to saying drunk until high cannot reason properly, instead of taking cab home drive the car home
Honesty is not to be blamed, but not using the brain is a common way for people to get the Darwin's Award
Btw, smart people don't get the Darwin's Award
If I had known I will be talking to a Buangkok Green resident, I won’t have posted my comments here.
I got quoted again and again and again and again….. real annoying.
What Buangkok Green resident?
I tried to google, found nothing
Can share share?
Even if you don't want to do replies in forum, a private message will be ok too lol
one aunty and one uncle totally couldn't stand me
because i didn't marry an ethnic chinese
came to scold me saying I let down my parents
what do you think I should do? divorce my wife because of their views and find an ethnic chinese to marry?
why should I do something just to please others? this is my life, my choice
you cannot please everyone in the world
I chased them off and I never spoke to them again
my parents eventually accepted my decision and my wife, so who are they to say otherwise?
Immediate family members or relatives or friends, it doesn't matter, this is your life, not their life
As long as you don't commit crimes or do anything against your conscience, then just do what you want
why care so much about what others think?
everything in life is about discipline, well mostly
taking the easiest example, if you don't study hard, memorise and practise the questions
do you expect to get straight As in your exams all the way?
maybe yes, if you are a genius
if you have no discipline to diet and exercise but continue to binge eat, you can't expect your body to slim down
if you cut down on your food and exercise everyday, you will lose weight
another way is to eat nothing but fruits I heard, but I never tried
anyway, some girls like plump or fat guys, so it is entirely up to you and your luck then
i can only suggest
married one, then she said she changed her mind about having children
so i divorced her and married the second one
I have sex with my wife, once to twice a week at least
thing is i am very attracted to slim girls, my wife was 48kg before we got married
now her weight is around 20kg more after having 3 kids
i find it hard to be erect or stay erect, so i had to do other things such as watch porn, close my eyes to fantasize, cross-dress etc
I just cannot get naturally aroused with her, but I love her lots
yes, i cheated on her with two other girls
but at least I don't get the feeling that I got ED, I get aroused with them naturally but not with my wife
another thing of getting aroused is foreplay, my wife doesn't like foreplay, she just likes jumping straight into sex, ask her to give bj, she only gives like one bj every few months
whereas the other two girls does it without even thinking, but i don't need the bjs when i am with them anyway, already rock hard when i see them getting undressed, just looking at their beautiful bodies alone is enough to get me high
i love my wife and kids, getting divorced will only ruin my kids lives
anyway, my sex life is fabulous right now
How come it seems like most people can go from dating stage to gf or dating to marriage easily? While I can't. I need to point out one thing, good exam results is not genius, there is no such thing, it is all down to a large bulk of hardwork. Those who say that they did not study but scored well are either lying, cheated in exams or it was a kindergarten exam. It is not just caring what other people think of us visiting a prostitute, it is due to my mum giving me bad advice that's why I went. Btw I binged eat was due to bullying trauma, meaning I did not actively choose to do so. I think my life got severely sabotaged from bullying, that's why I am 33 with no first gf, a sad life with a sad ending.
I keep getting rejected and cold shoulder by not just women, but men(for friendships) as well from age 21 to 24 after previous stages of buylling in my life. I tried dating 5 women when I was 30 to 33 but no woman want to go out on a second date with me. My university grades and subsequent career path is severely sabotaged thanks to the multiple stages of bullying. That's why I got forced to visit a prostitute because eventually I became 33/34 without a first gf and with little savings to plan for stable gf or marriage. It's a very sad situtation/sad life actually.
How come it seems like most people can go from dating stage to gf or dating to marriage easily? While I can't. I need to point out one thing, good exam results is not genius, there is no such thing, it is all down to a large bulk of hardwork. Those who say that they did not study but scored well are either lying, cheated in exams or it was a kindergarten exam. It is not just caring what other people think of us visiting a prostitute, it is due to my mum giving me bad advice that's why I went. Btw I binged eat was due to bullying trauma, meaning I did not actively choose to do so. I think my life got severely sabotaged from bullying, that's why I am 33 with no first gf, a sad life with a sad ending.
I keep getting rejected and cold shoulder by not just women, but men(for friendships) as well from age 21 to 24 after previous stages of buylling in my life. I tried dating 5 women when I was 30 to 33 but no woman want to go out on a second date with me. My university grades and subsequent career path is severely sabotaged thanks to the multiple stages of bullying. That's why I got forced to visit a prostitute because eventually I became 33/34 without a first gf and with little savings to plan for stable gf or marriage. It's a very sad situtation/sad life actually.
I have dated at least 20 to 30 different women in my life
(and I did not count those that I just chatted and never met up with)
Before I got into just a few relationships and ending up with 2 marriages and 3 kids
Considering my age when I got married, that was around 1 girl dated for every 1 year of my life
Make it 2 girls if you take out childhood and the first few years of teenage life
I think my life is should be easy, only dated 2 girls a year or a new girl every 6 months
Considering how I have known guys dating more than 1 hundred different women and no actual relationships at all and still counting
That is actually sad, statistically 1 new date every 1 to 2 months for the past 15 years since they graduated
You probably must have dated even more than that to give such comments about how easy it was for us to get into relationships and marriage
Try harder
The ML and your mum gave you bad advice which is why you visited the prostitute?
Wow, that is really profound
Bad advice or good advice, it is ultimately your choice to follow the advice or not
Why push the blame to others?
If you are a millionaire, girls will flock to you in heaps
You can be a millionaire anytime, just go rob a bank and you will be a millionaire easily
This is a bad advice too but I know you will it
Just let me know when you do it
You also know good results in exams come from hard work
But you want to slim down but no discipline to do the usual stuff like dieting and exercising?
Wow, speechless at this irony
I have dated at least 20 to 30 different women in my life
(and I did not count those that I just chatted and never met up with)
Before I got into just a few relationships and ending up with 2 marriages and 3 kids
Considering my age when I got married, that was around 1 girl dated for every 1 year of my life
Make it 2 girls if you take out childhood and the first few years of teenage life
I think my life is should be easy, only dated 2 girls a year or a new girl every 6 months
Considering how I have known guys dating more than 1 hundred different women and no actual relationships at all and still counting
That is actually sad, statistically 1 new date every 1 to 2 months for the past 15 years since they graduated
You probably must have dated even more than that to give such comments about how easy it was for us to get into relationships and marriage
Try harder
The ML and your mum gave you bad advice which is why you visited the prostitute?
Wow, that is really profound
Bad advice or good advice, it is ultimately your choice to follow the advice or not
Why push the blame to others?
If you are a millionaire, girls will flock to you in heaps
You can be a millionaire anytime, just go rob a bank and you will be a millionaire easily
This is a bad advice too but I know you will it
Just let me know when you do it
You also know good results in exams come from hard work
But you want to slim down but no discipline to do the usual stuff like dieting and exercising?
Wow, speechless at this irony
I need to go out now, reply you in detail later, I just want to tell you that I have already lost out on $400,000++ of income earnings from working already. All these factors led me up to this path of visiting a prostitute. I am also very sick and tired of hearing you will get a gf in the future naturally etc.
I also expereince fever symptoms this past 3 or 4 days, I think kena herpes already, not just yeast infection so simple.
I need to go out now, reply you in detail later, I just want to tell you that I have already lost out on $400,000++ of income earnings from working already. All these factors led me up to this path of visiting a prostitute. I am also very sick and tired of hearing you will get a gf in the future naturally etc.
I also expereince fever symptoms this past 3 or 4 days, I think kena herpes already, not just yeast infection so simple.
Don't bother going out
Banks don't open on public holidays
You want to rob them? Go tomorrow
Sick and tired of hearing?
Then go and get one instead of staying home doing nothing
I got herpes, but I never got a fever from it
Good luck, most likely covid, go and do art
I have dated at least 20 to 30 different women in my life
(and I did not count those that I just chatted and never met up with)
Before I got into just a few relationships and ending up with 2 marriages and 3 kids
Considering my age when I got married, that was around 1 girl dated for every 1 year of my life
Make it 2 girls if you take out childhood and the first few years of teenage life
I think my life is should be easy, only dated 2 girls a year or a new girl every 6 months
Considering how I have known guys dating more than 1 hundred different women and no actual relationships at all and still counting
That is actually sad, statistically 1 new date every 1 to 2 months for the past 15 years since they graduated
You probably must have dated even more than that to give such comments about how easy it was for us to get into relationships and marriage
Try harder
The ML and your mum gave you bad advice which is why you visited the prostitute?
Wow, that is really profound
Bad advice or good advice, it is ultimately your choice to follow the advice or not
Why push the blame to others?
If you are a millionaire, girls will flock to you in heaps
You can be a millionaire anytime, just go rob a bank and you will be a millionaire easily
This is a bad advice too but I know you will it
Just let me know when you do it
You also know good results in exams come from hard work
But you want to slim down but no discipline to do the usual stuff like dieting and exercising?
Wow, speechless at this irony
Since you are so smart why you got herpes then? Secondly, it is not that I don't want to work on my own accord, it is that I got sabotaged until my university grades and career path is gone. With regards to mum's advice, while it is true that I am an adult who can make his own decisions, but because they are my parents, people whom I have trusted and followed since young thus their advices carry a lot weight to me. Plus it was my mum who said you can throw away the conservative values I have taught you since young now before I decided to go visit one(plus other factors I listed just now). Btw the ML was not the one who adviced me, although a few MLs adviced me, but that wasn't what I typed to you, plus mainly it's still my mum's advice, ML's advice only affected me a bit. Lastly, I don't see why you need to be sarcastic, it doesn't get your point across any better.
Btw this is my life, I don't owe an explanation to my family members or anyone in this forum. I was only explaining my situation because I want to get help and advice, not because I owe anyone an explanation here. Pls know the difference. Hence the guy who said me holding moral high ground is wrong as well because I don't owe anyone an explanation here in the first place.
Since you are so smart why you got herpes then? Secondly, it is not that I don't want to work on my own accord, it is that I got sabotaged until my university grades and career path is gone. With regards to mum's advice, while it is true that I am an adult who can make his own decisions, but because they are my parents, people whom I have trusted and followed since young thus their advices carry a lot weight to me. Plus it was my mum who said you can throw away the conservative values I have taught you since young now before I decided to go visit one(plus other factors I listed just now). Btw the ML was not the one who adviced me, although a few MLs adviced me, but that wasn't what I typed to you, plus mainly it's still my mum's advice, ML's advice only affected me a bit. Lastly, I don't see why you need to be sarcastic, it doesn't get your point across any better.
Btw this is my life, I don't owe an explanation to my family members or anyone in this forum. I was only explaining my situation because I want to get help and advice, not because I owe anyone an explanation here. Pls know the difference. Hence the guy who said me holding moral high ground is wrong as well because I don't owe anyone an explanation here in the first place.
Herpes can spread by touch alone, such as even by some infected aunties giving you an innocent kiss when you were a baby or small boy
What has IQ has to do with getting infected with herpes?
I have also mentioned that using condoms isn't effective against some STDs and STIs, so nothing is foolproof, chiong = take risk
I have also listed down a few of them and herpes is one of them that I have mentioned
You don't understand what I was saying, you missed out my point earlier or you didn't read my earlier post to you?
Is this more detailed explanation clearer now?
Sarcasm is good in the sense that it catches attention
Maybe I wasn't previously, that was why you missed out this point
Poor university grades because you got sabo and career path gone too?
Well, at least you got a degree
That puts you at an advantage over a lot of others who don't have a degree
Eg. In engineering, as long as you got degree, you can easily get a job as a job as engineer straight away
But if you only got IT cert or diploma, you can only become technician or at most assistant engineer
Similarly in accounting, as long as you got degree, you can easily get a job as an accountant or auditor
With a lower education such as diploma, you can only hope for accounts/finance executive at the very best
Same as in other industries
You can easily get a better job with higher pay than a lot of others who don't have any degrees
If you cannot get a job in the best or biggest companies or a public job in the gov because of your grades, just get a similar job in a private limited set up and slowly work your way up
You can easily find a decent job with a decent pay with a degree anywhere in SG
Why don't you just appreciate what you have?
If you just keep looking back and grumbling, nothing is going to change for the better
Parents are humans too
And they can give poor or even bad advice just like any other person on the street
Grow up and stop being a mummy's boy or daddy's boy
If you can't see past this reasoning, there is no point in replying you anymore
My parents gave me a lot of bad advice too in the past
Telling me to study in a course which is in a sunset industry
Kept discouraging me from becoming a navigator when I wanted to choose a job different from my studies
I ended up earning more than twice my peers as a navigator
Changed many different jobs after that
Eventually set up a business using the money saved from my job as navigator despite my parents protests
Turned out to be quite profitable, but had to shut down due to covid losses
Did not have a golden mountain to rely on to tide over the covid period
After many years of hard work and experience, managed to join a blue chip company about a year ago
I didn't grumble at taking a wrong course, didn't grumble at having to close my profitable business due to covid
I just kept on going
Hard work and perseverance pays off
If I had stuck to their advice, I would still be single now hunting for some girl who is of ethnic Chinese descent, stuck to it for more than 15 years and single during this time
I didn't and in less than 5 years, I got married twice and now with 3 kids
You say you are here to get help and advice
But it seems like nothing we have said seems to have gotten through to you
Makes me wonder
Update 2: I am feeling a bit feverish the past 4 days, it may be due to herpes from the prostitute. I will not be taking panadol to suppress the fever, else if I visit a doctor he can't check my fever as a symptom. Thanks for any care and concern so far.
Herpes can spread by touch alone, such as even by some infected aunties giving you an innocent kiss when you were a baby or small boy
What has IQ has to do with getting infected with herpes?
I have also mentioned that using condoms isn't effective against some STDs and STIs, so nothing is foolproof, chiong = take risk
I have also listed down a few of them and herpes is one of them that I have mentioned
You don't understand what I was saying, you missed out my point earlier or you didn't read my earlier post to you?
Is this more detailed explanation clearer now?
Sarcasm is good in the sense that it catches attention
Maybe I wasn't previously, that was why you missed out this point
Poor university grades because you got sabo and career path gone too?
Well, at least you got a degree
That puts you at an advantage over a lot of others who don't have a degree
Eg. In engineering, as long as you got degree, you can easily get a job as a job as engineer straight away
But if you only got IT cert or diploma, you can only become technician or at most assistant engineer
Similarly in accounting, as long as you got degree, you can easily get a job as an accountant or auditor
With a lower education such as diploma, you can only hope for accounts/finance executive at the very best
Same as in other industries
You can easily get a better job with higher pay than a lot of others who don't have any degrees
If you cannot get a job in the best or biggest companies or a public job in the gov because of your grades, just get a similar job in a private limited set up and slowly work your way up
You can easily find a decent job with a decent pay with a degree anywhere in SG
Why don't you just appreciate what you have?
If you just keep looking back and grumbling, nothing is going to change for the better
Parents are humans too
And they can give poor or even bad advice just like any other person on the street
Grow up and stop being a mummy's boy or daddy's boy
If you can't see past this reasoning, there is no point in replying you anymore
My parents gave me a lot of bad advice too in the past
Telling me to study in a course which is in a sunset industry
Kept discouraging me from becoming a navigator when I wanted to choose a job different from my studies
I ended up earning more than twice my peers as a navigator
Changed many different jobs after that
Eventually set up a business using the money saved from my job as navigator despite my parents protests
Turned out to be quite profitable, but had to shut down due to covid losses
Did not have a golden mountain to rely on to tide over the covid period
After many years of hard work and experience, managed to join a blue chip company about a year ago
I didn't grumble at taking a wrong course, didn't grumble at having to close my profitable business due to covid
I just kept on going
Hard work and perseverance pays off
If I had stuck to their advice, I would still be single now hunting for some girl who is of ethnic Chinese descent, stuck to it for more than 15 years and single during this time
I didn't and in less than 5 years, I got married twice and now with 3 kids
You say you are here to get help and advice
But it seems like nothing we have said seems to have gotten through to you
Makes me wonder
Cause you said I was not smart when chionging that's why contracted STD. I have not had a gf for 33/34 years, what do you expect me to do to satisfy my sexual urge(I have a high sex drive) then? Find an FWB? FWB is not exactly the safest also...I consider FWB same as prostitute and ML in the sense that it is casual sex.
All the jobs that I have been to is bad job(meaning jobs which other people don't want to do) after graduation. "You can easily find a decent job with a decent pay with a degree anywhere in SG" I don't exactly agree with this.
Parents are humans too but sometimes they should shut up instead of giving bad advices. Shutting up is better than shooting off your golden mouth and giving bad advice.
Cause you said I was not smart when chionging that's why contracted STD. I have not had a gf for 33/34 years, what do you expect me to do to satisfy my sexual urge(I have a high sex drive) then? Find an FWB? FWB is not exactly the safest also...I consider FWB same as prostitute and ML in the sense that it is casual sex.
All the jobs that I have been to is bad job(meaning jobs which other people don't want to do) after graduation. "You can easily find a decent job with a decent pay with a degree anywhere in SG" I don't exactly agree with this.
Parents are humans too but sometimes they should shut up instead of giving bad advices. Shutting up is better than shooting off your golden mouth and giving bad advice.
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Originally Posted by ssd3469
When you are horny it is normal to not think of the potential consequences also...just like when people are horny they choose to take off rubber and do, so I am not to be blamed to be honest.
You said when someone gets horny, it is normal not to think of potential consequences
So I said if doing things without thinking of potential consequences such as when getting horny, it is similar to a person getting drunk but insists on driving home instead of take public transport
That is the difference between someone smart and any other ordinary fellow on the streets
I didn't say you are not smart, that why you got STDs
Nothing wrong even if you are not smart
Just that you will tend to make more mistakes in life, sometimes even potentially fatal ones
Smart people will think before they act
You can also use your hand PCC what
I had my first gf in my 30s, I am sure a lot of other guys are the same too
What do you think we were doing from since teenager until 30 plus?
Go to prostitute week in week out? Go FWB?
Want to find FWB might as well find GF
You mean at 30+ years old now, you never ever use your hand before?
You dunno how to satisfy your sex urges?
Normal sex drive, PCC once every two days
If high sex drive, PCC everyday or 2-3 times a day
Not enough, then PCC 4-5 times or more a day until your legs go weak
Don't talk rubbish leh, is it a must to find prostitute?
I only got a diploma before I was forced to take up further studies
Because I could not find a decent job
And I have to pay for my further studies with my own money while working full time and studying half time
If you got a degree and say cannot find a decent job and decent pay
Then what? People with IT cert or diploma or even lower do what?
Eat shit ah?
身在福中不知福
Understand what that means?
I have been through life worse than you
You started off life better than me and still thinks it sucks
Got a degree still want to complain?
When I got my first pay check after I finished my studies and after my NS
Guess what was the first thing I did?
I went to KFC to buy myself a zinger meal and went for to see a movie
Why?
Because I never had the money to eat fast food and only saw a movie once in my whole life before I turned 21 (my sister brought me MacDonald's and treated me to the movies when she got her first pay check)
To me, being able to go fast food restaurants and watching movies is a luxury
And guess what? That first real pay check was less than 2k before CPF deduction
My family had to scrimp and save to put me through poly
I even had to work part-time to pay for my own expenses while in poly
There is always someone worse off than you
Appreciate what you got and work hard to make a better life for yourself
If you keep continue to surround yourself with miserable instances in your life and wallow in self-pity
You will be stuck there forever and won't get out
Pretending to get help and advice just to get attention will not last forever
If you cannot wake up and look at the brighter side of life, there is nothing anyone can do to help you if you don't help yourself
I am done talking to you, bye
You said when someone gets horny, it is normal not to think of potential consequences
So I said if doing things without thinking of potential consequences such as when getting horny, it is similar to a person getting drunk but insists on driving home instead of take public transport
That is the difference between someone smart and any other ordinary fellow on the streets
I didn't say you are not smart, that why you got STDs
Nothing wrong even if you are not smart
Just that you will tend to make more mistakes in life, sometimes even potentially fatal ones
Smart people will think before they act
You can also use your hand PCC what
I had my first gf in my 30s, I am sure a lot of other guys are the same too
What do you think we were doing from since teenager until 30 plus?
Go to prostitute week in week out? Go FWB?
Want to find FWB might as well find GF
You mean at 30+ years old now, you never ever use your hand before?
You dunno how to satisfy your sex urges?
Normal sex drive, PCC once every two days
If high sex drive, PCC everyday or 2-3 times a day
Not enough, then PCC 4-5 times or more a day until your legs go weak
Don't talk rubbish leh, is it a must to find prostitute?
I only got a diploma before I was forced to take up further studies
Because I could not find a decent job
And I have to pay for my further studies with my own money while working full time and studying half time
If you got a degree and say cannot find a decent job and decent pay
Then what? People with IT cert or diploma or even lower do what?
Eat shit ah?
身在福中不知福
Understand what that means?
I have been through life worse than you
You started off life better than me and still thinks it sucks
Got a degree still want to complain?
When I got my first pay check after I finished my studies and after my NS
Guess what was the first thing I did?
I went to KFC to buy myself a zinger meal and went for to see a movie
Why?
Because I never had the money to eat fast food and only saw a movie once in my whole life before I turned 21 (my sister brought me MacDonald's and treated me to the movies when she got her first pay check)
To me, being able to go fast food restaurants and watching movies is a luxury
And guess what? That first real pay check was less than 2k before CPF deduction
My family had to scrimp and save to put me through poly
I even had to work part-time to pay for my own expenses while in poly
There is always someone worse off than you
Appreciate what you got and work hard to make a better life for yourself
If you keep continue to surround yourself with miserable instances in your life and wallow in self-pity
You will be stuck there forever and won't get out
Pretending to get help and advice just to get attention will not last forever
If you cannot wake up and look at the brighter side of life, there is nothing anyone can do to help you if you don't help yourself
I am done talking to you, bye
seems like you don't wish to read my reply, in that case I shall not waste my time typing out then. TLDR: I still don't agree.
01-01-2024, 11:37 AM
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