Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[HelloAngel]

Originally Posted by angelhunter702

Well, all bros here are indeed lucky. Some had sex before marriage but not after kids. Some had sex before marriage but reduced significantly after marriage. I envy you all.

I didn't have once before marriage and thought she is waiting for us to have sex after marriage. 10 years of relationship and 2 years after marriage, guess what, I didn't even have sex once with her before but she cheated me once.

I love her and respect her as my life partner. I'm her best friend and so does she as mine. But I guess there is where it stops. I married my best friend. Hahaha~

Well, I had it once awhile outside (I guess I slept with 8 different FL so far), otherwise, it's just visit my favourite massage lady and let her jerk me off.

I did all this discretely and always feel guilty after that. Anyway, I guess this will go on till the rest of my life? Anyway, I'm now working overseas and busy coping with wife and life and never had sex for a loooong time.

So, cheer up bros, I guess I am the worse case by far.

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

[angelhunter702]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

My wife claims to have frigidity and I even encouraged her to visit doctor together. We share the same bed, we hugs and we kisses (more like light peck and not French. She finds it dirty). That's all. No more than that. I had been a very understanding and caring husband. I am the only bread-earner now and she is enjoying her life. I had been trying to find out the root-cause like probably due to stress from work, stress from family, financial stress, etc. but to no avail. As I was trying to find out what had caused this to happen, We relocated overseas. She is now a stay-at-home wife with a car to roam around freely meeting up other TAI TAI(s). We have no kids. I believe I had earned enough that she can shop at London from time to time. Sometime I just blamed this to my karma. Anyway, I'm not self-pitied as I had overcome this. Just here to share bit and pieces of my life

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by angelhunter702

Well, all bros here are indeed lucky. Some had sex before marriage but not after kids. Some had sex before marriage but reduced significantly after marriage. I envy you all.

I didn't have once before marriage and thought she is waiting for us to have sex after marriage. 10 years of relationship and 2 years after marriage, guess what, I didn't even have sex once with her before but she cheated me once.

I love her and respect her as my life partner. I'm her best friend and so does she as mine. But I guess there is where it stops. I married my best friend. Hahaha~

Well, I had it once awhile outside (I guess I slept with 8 different FL so far), otherwise, it's just visit my favourite massage lady and let her jerk me off.

I did all this discretely and always feel guilty after that. Anyway, I guess this will go on till the rest of my life? Anyway, I'm now working overseas and busy coping with wife and life and never had sex for a loooong time.

So, cheer up bros, I guess I am the worse case by far.

bro i believe everyone can't have the best of everything in life. it's just a matter of importance. perhaps to you it is more important to have a faithful soulmate in life which is y u are still tolerating the non sex lifestyle that you are being subjected to. some other bros in similar situation might call it quits and move on to a new life. afterall, most woman don't regard sex as something very important in a relationship so sometimes the man has to be bold enough to voice out his disatisfaction otherwise nothing will change and gradually the man will have to live a double life - a monk life with wife and a wild life with other women out there, a good faithful husband inside and a sex predator outside. not very healthy it seems.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

Yes, the sis is so spot-on wif her views !...Any guy will definitely be v. lucky to hv a wifey as understanding as sis HelloAngel of her hubby's sexual needs ! ...but regrettably, she is just 1 of the few rare ones in the whole wide ocean who understands & fulfill her hubby's sacred needs whenever asked or required ...Good wife !!

[sadfa]

Originally Posted by angelhunter702

My wife claims to have frigidity and I even encouraged her to visit doctor together. We share the same bed, we hugs and we kisses (more like light peck and not French. She finds it dirty). That's all. No more than that. I had been a very understanding and caring husband. I am the only bread-earner now and she is enjoying her life. I had been trying to find out the root-cause like probably due to stress from work, stress from family, financial stress, etc. but to no avail. As I was trying to find out what had caused this to happen, We relocated overseas. She is now a stay-at-home wife with a car to roam around freely meeting up other TAI TAI(s). We have no kids. I believe I had earned enough that she can shop at London from time to time. Sometime I just blamed this to my karma. Anyway, I'm not self-pitied as I had overcome this. Just here to share bit and pieces of my life

U mean she lost her virginity to another guy but dont think it's her spousal duty to fcuk you???

Unless you're 50 or no libido , this isn't any kind of married life.

Are you a pushover?

Married life is a compromise.
Most ppl do things they don't really want to do but do due to obligations. Does she know ?? Why u allow her to get her way? Is she pampered by her parents ??

It seems like she's living the life she likes n want but you're not

If this kind of married life Isnt wat u want, wake up n do something about your life
________
Exchange points compromise ma

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by angelhunter702

Well, all bros here are indeed lucky. Some had sex before marriage but not after kids. Some had sex before marriage but reduced significantly after marriage. I envy you all.

I didn't have once before marriage and thought she is waiting for us to have sex after marriage. 10 years of relationship and 2 years after marriage, guess what, I didn't even have sex once with her before but she cheated me once.

I love her and respect her as my life partner. I'm her best friend and so does she as mine. But I guess there is where it stops. I married my best friend. Hahaha~

Well, I had it once awhile outside (I guess I slept with 8 different FL so far), otherwise, it's just visit my favourite massage lady and let her jerk me off.

I did all this discretely and always feel guilty after that. Anyway, I guess this will go on till the rest of my life? Anyway, I'm now working overseas and busy coping with wife and life and never had sex for a loooong time.

So, cheer up bros, I guess I am the worse case by far.

marriage is a hard pill to swallow

lots of couples, as shared by the bros here, do not have sex anymore

and more guys now turn to FBs and WLs to get their fix

The only danger is thinking a new relationship will fill that void, it wouldn't. The next relationship once it gets into the familiarity stage, and the other party is lazy and takes you for granted, its just out of the fire, into the pan

[Camoskin]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

Very well said sis

[curiousSG]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

Very true..

[Fade]

hmmm.. just wondering how u guys Initiated the session and under what circumstances that you got rejected?
Women are also visual creature.. are u guys cleanly shaved & Smelling good?
Good oral hygenie and look appealing to ur wife? Do U just anyhow grope her or gives warm cuddly loving hugs?? It's just a routine for u guys to cum but for ladies to orgasm and squirt it's a totally different level.

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

How come your wife don't wanna have sex with you? It's very strange. What happens when you try to initiate sex? Do you all share the same bed?!

Sex is important in a relationship as I think it brings the couple closer. My partner needs his fix every week or else he gets restless. And I am happy to oblige him too cos i rather he do it with me than with other gals. Haha. I do agree that most women end up being more of a mother than a wife after having kids. They forgot that their role in a family is wife first, then a mom. A happy wife/hubby will try his/her best to please the other party. But seems like many unhappy hubbies here gets constantly rejected by the wife as the wife forgot her responsibility as a spouse includes fulfilling the hb's sexual needs. Men are programmed to need sex and the wife has to program herself to meet that need.
It's quite sad la when the wife keeps rejecting you but hopefully things will improve when the kids are in preschool and more independent.

maybe because women are usually not that sexually active and turned on

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by Fade

hmmm.. just wondering how u guys Initiated the session and under what circumstances that you got rejected?
Women are also visual creature.. are u guys cleanly shaved & Smelling good?
Good oral hygenie and look appealing to ur wife? Do U just anyhow grope her or gives warm cuddly loving hugs?? It's just a routine for u guys to cum but for ladies to orgasm and squirt it's a totally different level.

some times we are too excited. go straight to breasts and pussy area, and it seems some are quite pissed

[Uniden2]

Don't married la nowsaday single so free and relax.

[5ag1_Boar]

Probably mentioned this somewhere in SBF before. After my child was conceive, had ZERO sex with wife till divorce (about 3 yrs). During counseling, she said she cannot reconcile being a mother and being sexual... I'm like WTF? But, I guess it's a psychological conditioning.

My current marriage is quite ok. Our frequency is between once a month to once a week. My wife is conscious of her "wifely duties", plus she has a decent sex drive.

However, during a big fight recently, she revealed that she recently don't feel like making love to me anymore and can't bare to perform her "wifely duties". Reason is that she didn't feel loved.

We talked through it and I have been making more effort to "speak her love language" and the effect is almost instantaneous and sex life is back to normal. For those unfamiliar with "love language", please go and check out "5 Love Languages" By Gary Chapman. It might sound like mumbo jumbo, but seriously its the simplest concept ever, and it actually make sense to most people, unlike some of the other books out there. Not that easy to practice, but doable.

You can Google about it, but I strongly recommend reading the book. Get it at the libraries or buy one. It is probably less then $25 these days and not very thick, but full of value.

As many people say, women must feel loved to have sex, men must have sex to feel loved.

To be fair, my wife and I are both aware of love languages and we try to practice it. Sometimes we get complacent, but its not hard to get back on the bike. For some it will require more work.

[Lenghtyshot]

I ve been jerking off before I have my 1st gf in my poly days.
Got my nickname from my ns buddy due to my long lasting fuck before ejaculation.
Tot that I wont ve to use my hand anymore but after 10yrs of marriage with with 2 kids, I'm back to jerking again.
Wife totally not interested in sex at all. I suspect is the thingy she implant in her arm to prevent pregnancy. Everytime give same excuse, tired, stress, kids awake...etc until I dun bother to initiate anymore.

Last time if gf dun like to ve sex at least can change or find another. Now is like can only see , remember and imagine during jerking. sigh...
Really hope to find a FB rather then keep hunting high n low for best worthy FL.

Sometime wondering am I normal anot, Basically I need sex daily.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Lenghtyshot

I ve been jerking off before I have my 1st gf in my poly days.
Got my nickname from my ns buddy due to my long lasting fuck before ejaculation.
Tot that I wont ve to use my hand anymore but after 10yrs of marriage with with 2 kids, I'm back to jerking again.
Wife totally not interested in sex at all. I suspect is the thingy she implant in her arm to prevent pregnancy. Everytime give same excuse, tired, stress, kids awake...etc until I dun bother to initiate anymore.

Last time if gf dun like to ve sex at least can change or find another. Now is like can only see , remember and imagine during jerking. sigh...
Really hope to find a FB rather then keep hunting high n low for best worthy FL.

Sometime wondering am I normal anot, Basically I need sex daily.

you are not alone.... wife, FB, Xiao San, Mistress all become this way after time

Its only WL that can still give you the GFE and the AV star feel, but then because
1. They are experts, they do it daily with many different men 2. You are paying them