How often does your wife give you sex?

[edwintantan]

Originally Posted by lam1673

Just come across this thread and would like to express my frustration . Married for 20 years and our sex life went up and down hill several cycle. Before marriage and 1st 2 years we were really horny rabbit , we had sex almost everyday. It was a real honeymoon period.
She gave up wearing clothes to bed because she would naked eventually .
It reach a peak when she wished to bear a 2nd child, she practically "rape" me every opportunity to have her fertilise.
However thing went downhill after that. Our freq drop to once a week.
Thing became better after we sorted things out and went for 2nd honeymoon.
However in recent 5 years thing are bad again, my wife even said she could not find any passion in me anymore and we are together because of kids and responsibility .
For the last 2 years, we only had sex on rare occasions.
I am still working toward how our sex life can be revived . I have to find way to rekindle her passion but so far I failed.
I am worried myself too because I have become comfortable sleeping in separate room.

bro never sleep in another room ,, you might lose the feeling
follow me ,,ask for sex or worse rape her ,,
we need to keep the fire burning or else all will come back to square one
then what is the point of having a wife

[jimboi]

I have to agree with the earlier post where a woman needs to feel loved or her emotional needs met before she is interested in sex. Whereas for a man, we need to have sex in order to give love or whatever emotional requirement the wife needs.

As long as the wife understands the logic, we husbands will be at their mercy and more so if the sex is damn bloody good. But sadly not many women understands this. Instead, they will want themselves to be satisfied first for most of the time before they give sex. And that is the reason why prostitution remains the oldest trade in the world.

A married couple has to work together and understand mutual needs. If not, either sides will start to stray. Takes 2 hands to clap.

But given the challenges of modern life where work pace and stress is high, coupled with domestic and childcare demands, i can understand why some women are not as interested in sex.

Just my humble opinion.

[chanellno5]

Originally Posted by jimboi

I have to agree with the earlier post where a woman needs to feel loved or her emotional needs met before she is interested in sex. Whereas for a man, we need to have sex in order to give love or whatever emotional requirement the wife needs.

As long as the wife understands the logic, we husbands will be at their mercy and more so if the sex is damn bloody good. But sadly not many women understands this. Instead, they will want themselves to be satisfied first for most of the time before they give sex. And that is the reason why prostitution remains the oldest trade in the world.

A married couple has to work together and understand mutual needs. If not, either sides will start to stray. Takes 2 hands to clap.

But given the challenges of modern life where work pace and stress is high, coupled with domestic and childcare demands, i can understand why some women are not as interested in sex.

Just my humble opinion.

U are right. It takes 2 hands to clap. I am interested in sex all along. It was my husband who wasn't. Weird right?
I had not morphed into yellow faced aunty nor turned into some fugly being.

Sex is crucial in marriage. Otherwise its not a marriage without sex and passion.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by chanellno5

U are right. It takes 2 hands to clap. I am interested in sex all along. It was my husband who wasn't. Weird right?
I had not morphed into yellow faced aunty nor turned into some fugly being.

Sex is crucial in marriage. Otherwise its not a marriage without sex and passion.

So very agree with sis chanellno5 that a marriage without sex and horniness for it by both parties, is not a marriage at all and is bound to fail eventually ..glad to know she is one of the very few rare wifeys that like and enjoys sex very much while the husband is not ..this seems to be quite a negative trend these days

Yes, sis, your husband and other husbands like him who don't like to hv sex with their wives are really weird, very similar to the majority of wifeys these days who also don't like to hv sex with their husbands after some time ...if this is the case why bother to get married to each other in the 1st place ??...

now talking about the case of the husband..it is always the guy who proposes marriage with love to the gal and seals it on their wedding day ..and it is she who he has selected to marry to become his wife...so it's definitely weird if he ends up losing interest in his wife sexually after that esp if she remains as attractive as ever

[Topshag33]

Originally Posted by lam1673

Just come across this thread and would like to express my frustration . Married for 20 years and our sex life went up and down hill several cycle. Before marriage and 1st 2 years we were really horny rabbit , we had sex almost everyday. It was a real honeymoon period.
She gave up wearing clothes to bed because she would naked eventually .
It reach a peak when she wished to bear a 2nd child, she practically "rape" me every opportunity to have her fertilise.
However thing went downhill after that. Our freq drop to once a week.
Thing became better after we sorted things out and went for 2nd honeymoon.
However in recent 5 years thing are bad again, my wife even said she could not find any passion in me anymore and we are together because of kids and responsibility .
For the last 2 years, we only had sex on rare occasions.
I am still working toward how our sex life can be revived . I have to find way to rekindle her passion but so far I failed.
I am worried myself too because I have become comfortable sleeping in separate room.

Sleeping apart will bring the narriage spiralling down further bro. I think.its tough when we have to start to plead when it comes to having sex when married. Feel at times the reason for being single was a better option. But then again the joy of having kids outweighs it. Need to find balance i guess.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by lam1673

Just come across this thread and would like to express my frustration . Married for 20 years and our sex life went up and down hill several cycle. Before marriage and 1st 2 years we were really horny rabbit , we had sex almost everyday. It was a real honeymoon period.
She gave up wearing clothes to bed because she would naked eventually .
It reach a peak when she wished to bear a 2nd child, she practically "rape" me every opportunity to have her fertilise.
However thing went downhill after that. Our freq drop to once a week.
Thing became better after we sorted things out and went for 2nd honeymoon.
However in recent 5 years thing are bad again, my wife even said she could not find any passion in me anymore and we are together because of kids and responsibility .
For the last 2 years, we only had sex on rare occasions.
I am still working toward how our sex life can be revived . I have to find way to rekindle her passion but so far I failed.
I am worried myself too because I have become comfortable sleeping in separate room.

Originally Posted by Topshag33

Sleeping apart will bring the narriage spiralling down further bro. I think.its tough when we have to start to plead when it comes to having sex when married. Feel at times the reason for being single was a better option. But then again the joy of having kids outweighs it. Need to find balance i guess.

Empathize with the 1st bro...but tis is wat usually happens after marriage between a husband n his wife .. as time passes by all things tend to go downhill esp where sex in marriage is concerned as many husbands and wives have been testifying in this and other similar threads ...

but at least for tis bro during dating and just after marriage, the sex with his wife was still very good.....however, the saddest thing is tat there are increasing numbers of husbands who are sleeping in separate rooms from their wives...it's like a norm these days ...they behave more like tenants to each other rather than joint owners...tats how bad it can get...finding a balance is easier said than done...sigh

[freeman88]

I want to thank the TS. At least l know I'm not alone. Very similar situation.

[mister man]

Spent the whole night reading 66 pages of this thread! I realised that I'm not alone as well. Married for almost 20 years, in my mid 40s, 2 children. I've a high sex drive but my wife has the opposite. She is simply not interested in sex since our first born. She still orgasms when we have sex (average once every 2 months), but she has never ever initiated sex. I've to climb mountains, swim across rivers just to 'ask' her if she is 'in the mood'... and she'll obliged cause she felt it's her duty. But 90% of the time she's 'not in the mood'...
The sexual deprivation is causing me depression. I'm thinking of finding a FB...

[YELLOW]

dont lah .... means more competition ....

Originally Posted by mister man

Spent the whole night reading 66 pages of this thread! I realised that I'm not alone as well. Married for almost 20 years, in my mid 40s, 2 children. I've a high sex drive but my wife has the opposite. She is simply not interested in sex since our first born. She still orgasms when we have sex (average once every 2 months), but she has never ever initiated sex. I've to climb mountains, swim across rivers just to 'ask' her if she is 'in the mood'... and she'll obliged cause she felt it's her duty. But 90% of the time she's 'not in the mood'...
The sexual deprivation is causing me depression. I'm thinking of finding a FB...

[freeman88]

Originally Posted by YELLOW

dont lah .... means more competition ....

Finding a FB is not easy. Chemistry and opportunity play a big part. Only had 1 before. If you're a woman, probably easier.

[ferragamo]

Originally Posted by mister man

She still orgasms when we have sex (average once every 2 months), but she has never ever initiated sex. I've to climb mountains, swim across rivers just to 'ask' her if she is 'in the mood'... and she'll obliged cause she felt it's her duty. But 90% of the time she's 'not in the mood'...

I know what you mean, if always not in the mood

and even if the wife has sex but is not really into it, makes the whole experience disappointing.......

[mister man]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

I know what you mean, if always not in the mood

and even if the wife has sex but is not really into it, makes the whole experience disappointing.......

Yup. But since the sex is so rare? I still have to seize the opportunity and fuck like crazy...🤣

[mister man]

Originally Posted by freeman88

Finding a FB is not easy. Chemistry and opportunity play a big part. Only had 1 before. If you're a woman, probably easier.

Agree!!! That’s why depression!!!!

[Latte]

My wife will normally agrees on my 10th attempt of asking. But i always stopped asking after 5 fail attempts 😂😂😂

[ferragamo]

Originally Posted by Latte

My wife will normally agrees on my 10th attempt of asking. But i always stopped asking after 5 fail attempts 😂😂😂

sometimes wonder why must ask xxx times

some people so lucky, the wife will initiate and jump on them
like morning wake up to wife BJ them..