Fetish/Role Play/BDSM in HC

[otherOne]

Originally Posted by yahiko

I've thought long and hard if i should post this.

This is my FR on Princess Yura.
Recently, I engaged and had my first session with her and it went terribly wrong. I felt she was unprofessional and she did not abide by safety protocol. I was injured. There was no pre-session chat. I did requested for a no safeword session and hard domination.

Don't mean to blame the victim, but you should not have requested a no safeword session from a domme who is known for "sadism".

[otherOne]

To comment further on bro yahiko's predicament:

I think we all have to be careful about what we request from dommes. The "pro" in pro-domme means "professional", but apart from the fact that they are paid in exchange for services, Singapore's pro-dommes are generally not "professional" at all.

Those in Japan for example are trained by older dommes, so there's decades of tradition behind their practices, and they know what to do and not do.

In Singapore however, most of these 20-something dommes are party girls who are introduced to BDSM by their fellow party girls, who told them it's a good way to make money on the side.

It's up to us to be protective of ourselves, and make sure the dommes here don't do anything with us that's above their pay grade.

[Havanna Slicks]

Originally Posted by otherOne

To comment further on bro yahiko's predicament:

I think we all have to be careful about what we request from dommes. The "pro" in pro-domme means "professional", but apart from the fact that they are paid in exchange for services, Singapore's pro-dommes are generally not "professional" at all.

Those in Japan for example are trained by older dommes, so there's decades of tradition behind their practices, and they know what to do and not do.

In Singapore however, most of these 20-something dommes are party girls who are introduced to BDSM by their fellow party girls, who told them it's a good way to make money on the side.

It's up to us to be protective of ourselves, and make sure the dommes here don't do anything with us that's above their pay grade.

agree wif u bro, japanese have to undergo rigorous training, newbie domees known as baby dominas have to sit in senior dominas session to learn, after they practise senior dominas have to sit in to assess them, in SG, the party girls group i wonder how many training sessions they undergo, got once i met one she didnt know what to do end up we hold hands and talk heart lol...

yea money is a good motivation, but if it's the sole motivation then not very healthy, say if along the way the domee can develop interest and build on it then not so bad, some do, sadly some dont, experienced subs once meet will know, the interest, the body language and the look in their eyes, some domees you can see they are like working to a checklist, ok item 1, check, item 2, check lol...

lastly, like what i pointed out previously, hygiene and safely are 2 things not to be compromised, once breach like this one tell u no blood still wan to draw then not only not professional but is like taking the whole BDSM idea like a joke or avenue to vent her frustrations...

[yahiko]

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[Mcwoof00]

Bro yahiko, actually I do empathise u in ur situation. Nobody likes to be hurt in a way u aren't expecting to be coming. Esp in a "paid service" session like this.

Perhaps yura took ur intention to be hurt so badly that no one is gonna save u from the predicament.

I think most of them know that yura is known for her sadism. But then again, alot of them have been voicing out that she had turned sensual recently. Oh well prob it depends on each and everyone's request beforehand.

However, accidental do happen. Anywhere anytime. I think this is a huge misunderstanding on her part as well.

Nonetheless I do wish u a speedy recovery and hope u will be more careful with ur requests in the future.

Have fun and take care!

Originally Posted by yahiko

The 2nd session was a complete opposite of the 1st and was more focused on sensual domination with no risk of injury and she won't be hitting me. She offered me a free session, I might as well take it. But my FR still holds true, the trauma I experienced still lingers.

I actually made 3 requests to her for a session. To be fair to Yura, I did emphasized some points in bolded and capital letters and that might have made her think that she needs to play the part of a very sadistic girl but the thing is she should have read and internalised what was written. I think she only picked out the part she got excited about and went about doing it her own way which resulted me in getting hurt in the process. Since some of you asked for it, I will extract the core points of my requests. Hey, everyone got their own fantasy so here goes..

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1. To be fully restraint and gagged to the point that no backing out on my part and no safeword is possible.

2. Occasionally tease but always end up tormenting by hitting me repeatedly with the flog, crop, whip, etc on me without mercy. She can also slap me on my head and face, spit on me, ridicule me or whatever evil ideas she can think of. No permanent damage or blood.

3. Requested her to be dressed in provocative lingerie and force me to comply strictly to the rule that I'm not allowed to peek at her or else be punished by being blindfolded as my cock gets lashed with the flogger without warning. Subsequent times breaking the rule will get harder and more lashes to the point where I might be writhing violently and 'screaming' through the gag with every lash administered and bruises/welts may start appearing across my crotch or cock n balls or I may even tear up. No holding back.

The things I don't appreciate was that
Firstly, she wielded a hard implement frm the start which was a rattan cane not even specifically mentioned in my request. And I did not want a cane to be swinging dangerously close to my cock because the impact will be much painful compared to a flog. I figured the injury sustained was because of this. She was swinging it anyway she wanted with max force and I know from the start it was very dangerous.
Secondly, she made little to no reference to the 'rule'. I did not appreciate that she kept repeatedly hitting my pelvic area/cock with the cane and paddle for the majority duration of the session right from the beginning. It was torture. Caning to the cock was a hard no-no for me. She could have hit me somewhere else.
Third, there wasn't any teasing involved at all. It was until towards the end of the session when she started to get sensual. By then, I was alrdy hurt and screaming non-stop.
Fourth, I saw my cock bleeding and that was really over the line.

The only conclusion I had was that she got carried away.
These made me angry and upset at her for conducting the session this way. I cannot really get over how much I had to fork out for the treatment if this had not happened and the injury has not healed after close to a week.

[_listless]

Originally Posted by yahiko

The 2nd session was a complete opposite of the 1st and was more focused on sensual domination with no risk of injury and she won't be hitting me. She offered me a free session, I might as well take it. But my FR still holds true, the trauma I experienced still lingers.

I actually made 3 requests to her for a session. To be fair to Yura, I did emphasized some points in bolded and capital letters and that might have made her think that she needs to play the part of a very sadistic girl but the thing is she should have read and internalised what was written. I think she only picked out the part she got excited about and went about doing it her own way which resulted me in getting hurt in the process. Since some of you asked for it, I will extract the core points of my requests. Hey, everyone got their own fantasy so here goes..

( Click to show/hide )

1. To be fully restraint and gagged to the point that no backing out on my part and no safeword is possible.

2. Occasionally tease but always end up tormenting by hitting me repeatedly with the flog, crop, whip, etc on me without mercy. She can also slap me on my head and face, spit on me, ridicule me or whatever evil ideas she can think of. No permanent damage or blood.

3. Requested her to be dressed in provocative lingerie and force me to comply strictly to the rule that I'm not allowed to peek at her or else be punished by being blindfolded as my cock gets lashed with the flogger without warning. Subsequent times breaking the rule will get harder and more lashes to the point where I might be writhing violently and 'screaming' through the gag with every lash administered and bruises/welts may start appearing across my crotch or cock n balls or I may even tear up. No holding back.

The things I don't appreciate was that
Firstly, she wielded a hard implement frm the start which was a rattan cane not even specifically mentioned in my request. And I did not want a cane to be swinging dangerously close to my cock because the impact will be much painful compared to a flog. I figured the injury sustained was because of this. She was swinging it anyway she wanted with max force and I know from the start it was very dangerous.
Secondly, she made little to no reference to the 'rule'. I did not appreciate that she kept repeatedly hitting my pelvic area/cock with the cane and paddle for the majority duration of the session right from the beginning. It was torture. Caning to the cock was a hard no-no for me. She could have hit me somewhere else.
Third, there wasn't any teasing involved at all. It was until towards the end of the session when she started to get sensual. By then, I was alrdy hurt and screaming non-stop.
Fourth, I saw my cock bleeding and that was really over the line.

The only conclusion I had was that she got carried away.
These made me angry and upset at her for conducting the session this way. I cannot really get over how much I had to fork out for the treatment if this had not happened and the injury has not healed after close to a week.

Bro, i got to speak to Princess on this issue and she show me the screenshot of your request.
I got say that you did not share your full request with us here. i think you left out points that is not favourable to you.
I think it is only fair to share the fully session request for everyone to decide what went wrong.

she did try to have a conversation with but you didn't reply to her messages. But she did give you a heads up that she'll be sharing the screenshot.

so I am sharing the screenshot of your request

[_listless]

Removed as per request..

[zoomer]

Normally communication and fetish request between both party should be P&C

Not saying who is right or wrong..
But unless the direct party... Else may not be the best thing to share it out in a open forum

[Fmcane]

Originally Posted by _listless

@yahiko Please be fair to Yura, you asked and she delivered or perhaps you have no idea what you are asking for... Since so scare and upset why still ask for free session after that

[Havanna Slicks]

agree with bro, share PNC stuffs is not right...

[Zzun]

Dont think is entirely her fault due to the nature of request. Just gone wrong from expectation. Play safe bro. Thats why i always avoid cbt also.

[Havanna Slicks]

Originally Posted by Fmcane

@yahiko Please be fair to Yura, you asked and she delivered or perhaps you have no idea what you are asking for... Since so scare and upset why still ask for free session after that

she delivered way beyong wad was asked bro, not pointing or siding but have to be fair to both sides, a sub ask for sadist but no blood, go in the domee start cutting him and make him bleed, also sadist ma right?

there is a difference between pushing limits and breaching it, breach is not respecting limits already, in that case basically every session also same just do what she likes since the limit is like non existent...

agree going back for the free session is like accepting her apology so case closed there, but at least compensate the medical for the damage she done, have to be responsible for one's actions...

sorry no offense to u but discussing to the topic on hand, nothing against u bro...

[Havanna Slicks]

Originally Posted by Zzun

Dont think is entirely her fault due to the nature of request. Just gone wrong from expectation. Play safe bro. Thats why i always avoid cbt also.

takes 2 hands to clap, each person have their part to play to contribute when things go south...

[afreshercupofjo]

Hi Yahiko,

Sorry to hear about your experience and troubles that you go through

I have been hanging around using different nicks in this thread prob since 2003. Don’t remember what nicks I use but i can remember my posts. Old timer will remember Sophie from Perla Spa that I post about


I never domme with Yura; had a brief initial exchanges. But I found myself being turn off by her attitude. However to a neutral observer, she delivered what you asked for. In short, you implied no safe word and no chances for her to back out or lower her tempo/hardness

[Fmcane]

Originally Posted by Havanna Slicks

she delivered way beyong wad was asked bro, not pointing or siding but have to be fair to both sides, a sub ask for sadist but no blood, go in the domee start cutting him and make him bleed, also sadist ma right?

there is a difference between pushing limits and breaching it, breach is not respecting limits already, in that case basically every session also same just do what she likes since the limit is like non existent...

agree going back for the free session is like accepting her apology so case closed there, but at least have to compensate the medical for the damage she done, else she think everyone she can dish out the same damage then after that nothing is going to happen, have to be responsible for one's actions...

sorry no offense to u but discussing to the topic on hand, nothing against u bro...

Np bro but I do view it differently. The request made were clear on what yahiko was asking for. Maybe domme next time need to ask client to sign indemnity form liao

Btw I only session with Yura once so not really related to her