Fetish/Role Play/BDSM in HC

[fatty999]

Bros besides this site, are there any other sites that we can check for any visiting dommes?

[fatty999]

Originally Posted by elementz

Wow bro thanks for shoutout. Forgot i got post this. Alot change after many years cfm some laojiao bros can see the differences also who r the remaining ones who is actually serious about being a domme but this is my two cents la for the current batch of girls & trans. only singaporeans hor

Same la alphabetical for easy ref. Some i met once or twice, some is my thoughts but nvr met before/can roughly guess them as a person based on who they hang out with. think is quite common now they have cliques. Then i will state those who left/why/what happen roughly

Amber (Miss)
left cos she marry her bestfren husband then migrated to france as she prefer to live 24/7 slave. When she restart prodomme after jutejugs is purely monetary cos she is unemployed when she left teaching

Ayla (Mistress)
actually started out when caittrin intro to her since they both in the kink scene together (old pics on tumblr) but decided to jump to amber then she share the play space with her afterwards. her style is abit more niche kinks of needles & electro & playful. Not quite dominant cos she is a sub to begin with so can tell is quite robotic/expected as a domme. i would say more of a service top la so can cater to ur kinks easily. Body wise abit bah bah though can tell she try to slim down so her pics is still misleading cos looks skinny. also more transactional not full time. she is supported by the dom boyfriend

Aubrey (Miss)
half of jutejugs. Initially amber posted on twitter she is not interested to pro but here she is now. She & ayla took over amber space when she left & all her clients so she dun even have to lift a finger to find her own much. she is definitely friendlier & not fake in terms of confidence than ayla. Much older & those who prefer to serve a more mature hot blonde domme then she is the right one. Fun to play with la but she does needles also. Body wise might have done boob job also but decent size/looks natural compared to most

Aerie/Jasmine Raine (Mistress)
openly trans. If u want to try advanced bondage she is the best domme to request a sesh out of every1 in this list. She does escort also la & porn vids but her pricing on the high side but tbh is worth what u pay for. Her body is not bad for a guy transitioning to female. She used to teach the local kink comm ropes before transitioning so is one of the best rigger around in sg & gay comm

Ashley (Goddess)
used to say she trans when she is a sub but not now when she turn prodomme so theres some drama that is catfish or scam. Personally i feel she is fake friendly esp on twitter & try to make frens with every1 & recruit dommes so she can have this glorified to be mentor but she is not even involve in the local kink scene comm that much & did bunch of interviews with mainstream media. She probably wan to hav bdsm to be out there & be a spokesperson. Her style is more towards very fetishy & latex especially & she got her own playspace but note that this space is shared with alot of other kinky people (not just her mentee) so tbh not quite discreet la. The place quite old & dodgy tbh but if backalley clinic is her marketing then yes la it works. She does medical fetish play so those who such fetish will suit her n dun mind trans

Caittrin (Mistress)
from my old post she divorce la like amber. she evolve to be more refine/classy cos she in her early 30s liao. no need intro la she being the first to tour around the world speaks of how diverse her subs/skills/popularity. used to have playspace cos bo hua to keep paying rent when she travel. she is the local kink comm leader now & teach in hong kong comm also. not a service top so bro who just want the quick kink fetish fix wont suit her but her style gear towards power exchange, sensual but discipline strict not sadistic kind and holistic cos sometimes she do therapy work also during sesh. Host at atas hotels which is y her rate more ex la like what bro havanna mentioned last time. Her hygiene is good also and neat. she gear towards bros who r more established in their career if not v hard to communicate since she is quite knowledgeable about world affairs & got psych background.


Charm (not sure)
Fetish escort so u like simple fetish to dom u & fuck then she is good choice cos she def can do hj or fj but she abit pricy la but worth if u want to touch the domme

Dahlia (Goddess) Lain's mentee
Lain had to leave cos her interview outed her & she dun have much pain subs for her to keep up running full time.
Like lain, Dahlia is super sadistic, infact the most in sg but she is very friendly though sometimes she got bad day and will be pissy. She have better equipments for electro & impact play and all the extreme kinks than all of the dommes in this list and ya some bro mention she prof tattoo so she know her needle quite well but not perfect. The blood turns her on rather than the needle act. She is hot bbw if u dun like skinny girls and mixed blood not angmoh mix hor cos some bros pm me to ask about her looks. Full body tasteful tattoo. She look scary la but she not

Estella (Mistress)
kena stalked by some bros and her knife/impact play with no prior training also unsafe. Same as the current luna. Kena complain cos physical damage to some bros not just 1 hor. Then u know la y she got forced to retire. Singaporean but prc origin so she tall and ex model but really beauty is just skin deep. Then she collab with yura & amber for playspace but the subtle fight/hate among themselves lol so irony

Emmelia (Mistress)
Also same abit robotic/expected for a domme esp her twitter posts words & wah cb i thought got new hot domme then she recently post needle play cibai. Sry is very turn off for me. The only left with Ashley

Elya (Goddess)
Minah looking domme also on & off recently preg then give birth. V young and she is more fetish provider not very dominant

Haze (Mistress)
mma trained so bros who want wrestling/chokehold sesh can try her. Body not feminine cos she more bodybuilt kind but tall la. Face not the prettiest but decent got tomboy feel. she is vegan so bros who wan to impress her shud know what to buy food for her. She started as a sub oso and not into impact play cos she scared to hit people

Lilith
Frens with ashley but is origin with vexa and not full time. She got the lesbian look


Luna (Mistress)
not to be confused with the retired older Luna. Idk where she got her training from but cb her edge play sibei unsafe sia & unsterile based on twitter. She charge lowest among all local dommes in sg but is really up to u la on ur own risk. She got her own space but very old also. Then drama the kurt saga somemore not dommy la tbh just fetish provider

Lucelle (Lady)
i think the oldest age among all the dommes in sg. No doubt aunty la but she is well groomed still the nicest feet. oso on and off not full time can request for sesh if u can host

Minky (Mistress/Queen)
no longer prodomme cos now she organise events for the expat kink comm

Roxy (Queen)
also into impact play but she is more havoc than dahlia not lady like. she is friendly la and eloquent smart la no doubt but not natural domme just bossy. also on and off but tbh discretion is an issue cos she post pics on her space quite obv. oso y she charge low la cos she dun do much kinks or pegging

Rinn/Liliana/Etc lost count (Mistress/Goddess/Etc)
idk la bros can gauge for urself for someone who keep changing name and on and off sesh and say retire then say no. Her style more playful but sadistic and open to more kink/fetish provider does brown shower so if u can tahan the unknown whether she want to sesh then sure go ahead. Her looks nice la cos she did her nose and boobs if u like the influencer chinese douyin look

Rose (Mistress)
left cos the boyfriend dun like her prodomme

Sierra (Goddess)
dis one dam havoc idk what she doing sia esp the roxy saga thing. nvr met before but if u wan to be instructed by havoc girls who have no knowledge about the basic bdsm protocol then go ahead. plus she try to intro more girls and be a mentor. Speechless…

Vera (Mistress)
Same la intro by ashley then this one disappeared. Nvr try her heng ah. Got ahlian vibe also

Vexa (Mistress)
the remaining domme left from purgatory but she also on and off cos prodomme is not her main thing. now she show her face liao tho back the she alr lowkey dun care about people know about she do dis. Her style is mix sensual and sadist abit playful kind not really dominant so is more towards fetish provider kind. Tbh her fake accent trying too hard angmoh influence quite a turn off no doubt her body is hot la for a syt


Wei (Mistress)
used to be under ashley before she did panty selling. She is latex obsessed but literally thats her entire personality but i mean she is not the first to explore latex in sg lah. V chi influence those raised up in traditional chi fam but not much angmoh influence and she speak like typical Singapore accent. Playful also not dominant so is more of fetish provider. like her mentor, also does med fetish


Yura (Princess)
still around but i realise i didnt include in my old post. Lian looking if u like & princess attitude. Sadistic and got her own space also with decent equipments. More fetish provider not really into power exchange or dominant just bossing u around is like going through the motion. not actually friendly so it feels like she forever bossing if u like that kind then ok lor. is just personality but i say before la actual dominant dun hav to prove they can be dominant the whole time. Her skills not bad la if u just want to play & not serve a domme. Her price on high side to reflect & she been quite some time too so it make sense la to increase

Yuki (Mistress)
Some bro say she lian i oso tink so but she also on and off since last time. Not my cup of tea

Overall, imo ropes is the essential skill most established dommes have so no need worry if u want to be tied. I suggest to do your research who u think u can click with not just based on looks la cos meeting local domme vs prc is different experience & price

Prc is really wham bam thank u mam kind so no connection before after the sesh so u horny then want to jerk off quickly then is the best n worth. If u wan to build long term connection or have proper conversation about kink then it make sense to meet the local dommes and just stick to 1 or 2 unless u r the kind who like to ONS

Thanks for the sharing bro!

[hangman99]

Wow what a post! It’s fabulous. And I cannot agree more that Lucelle has the most beautiful pair of feet. She is a real milff- milf-feet. Now you are making me want to contact her

[QUOTE=elementz;22378848]

[otherOne]

[QUOTE=hangman99;22384090]Wow what a post! It’s fabulous. And I cannot agree more that Lucelle has the most beautiful pair of feet. She is a real milff- milf-feet. Now you are making me want to contact her

Saw on IG, she's in Italy with Minky.

[hangman99]

Dreaming of having gelato off lady lucelle’s feet right now! Those long and well pedicures toes are killer

[QUOTE=otherOne;22384193]

Originally Posted by hangman99

Wow what a post! It’s fabulous. And I cannot agree more that Lucelle has the most beautiful pair of feet. She is a real milff- milf-feet. Now you are making me want to contact her



Saw on IG, she's in Italy with Minky.

[ILemonic]

Originally Posted by elementz

Wow bro thanks for shoutout. Forgot i got post this. Alot change after many years cfm some laojiao bros can see the differences also who r the remaining ones who is actually serious about being a domme but this is my two cents la for the current batch of girls & trans. only singaporeans hor

Same la alphabetical for easy ref. Some i met once or twice, some is my thoughts but nvr met before/can roughly guess them as a person based on who they hang out with. think is quite common now they have cliques. Then i will state those who left/why/what happen roughly

Amber (Miss)
left cos she marry her bestfren husband then migrated to france as she prefer to live 24/7 slave. When she restart prodomme after jutejugs is purely monetary cos she is unemployed when she left teaching

Ayla (Mistress)
actually started out when caittrin intro to her since they both in the kink scene together (old pics on tumblr) but decided to jump to amber then she share the play space with her afterwards. her style is abit more niche kinks of needles & electro & playful. Not quite dominant cos she is a sub to begin with so can tell is quite robotic/expected as a domme. i would say more of a service top la so can cater to ur kinks easily. Body wise abit bah bah though can tell she try to slim down so her pics is still misleading cos looks skinny. also more transactional not full time. she is supported by the dom boyfriend

Aubrey (Miss)
half of jutejugs. Initially amber posted on twitter she is not interested to pro but here she is now. She & ayla took over amber space when she left & all her clients so she dun even have to lift a finger to find her own much. she is definitely friendlier & not fake in terms of confidence than ayla. Much older & those who prefer to serve a more mature hot blonde domme then she is the right one. Fun to play with la but she does needles also. Body wise might have done boob job also but decent size/looks natural compared to most

Aerie/Jasmine Raine (Mistress)
openly trans. If u want to try advanced bondage she is the best domme to request a sesh out of every1 in this list. She does escort also la & porn vids but her pricing on the high side but tbh is worth what u pay for. Her body is not bad for a guy transitioning to female. She used to teach the local kink comm ropes before transitioning so is one of the best rigger around in sg & gay comm

Ashley (Goddess)
used to say she trans when she is a sub but not now when she turn prodomme so theres some drama that is catfish or scam. Personally i feel she is fake friendly esp on twitter & try to make frens with every1 & recruit dommes so she can have this glorified to be mentor but she is not even involve in the local kink scene comm that much & did bunch of interviews with mainstream media. She probably wan to hav bdsm to be out there & be a spokesperson. Her style is more towards very fetishy & latex especially & she got her own playspace but note that this space is shared with alot of other kinky people (not just her mentee) so tbh not quite discreet la. The place quite old & dodgy tbh but if backalley clinic is her marketing then yes la it works. She does medical fetish play so those who such fetish will suit her n dun mind trans

Caittrin (Mistress)
from my old post she divorce la like amber. she evolve to be more refine/classy cos she in her early 30s liao. no need intro la she being the first to tour around the world speaks of how diverse her subs/skills/popularity. used to have playspace cos bo hua to keep paying rent when she travel. she is the local kink comm leader now & teach in hong kong comm also. not a service top so bro who just want the quick kink fetish fix wont suit her but her style gear towards power exchange, sensual but discipline strict not sadistic kind and holistic cos sometimes she do therapy work also during sesh. Host at atas hotels which is y her rate more ex la like what bro havanna mentioned last time. Her hygiene is good also and neat. she gear towards bros who r more established in their career if not v hard to communicate since she is quite knowledgeable about world affairs & got psych background.


Charm (not sure)
Fetish escort so u like simple fetish to dom u & fuck then she is good choice cos she def can do hj or fj but she abit pricy la but worth if u want to touch the domme

Dahlia (Goddess) Lain's mentee
Lain had to leave cos her interview outed her & she dun have much pain subs for her to keep up running full time.
Like lain, Dahlia is super sadistic, infact the most in sg but she is very friendly though sometimes she got bad day and will be pissy. She have better equipments for electro & impact play and all the extreme kinks than all of the dommes in this list and ya some bro mention she prof tattoo so she know her needle quite well but not perfect. The blood turns her on rather than the needle act. She is hot bbw if u dun like skinny girls and mixed blood not angmoh mix hor cos some bros pm me to ask about her looks. Full body tasteful tattoo. She look scary la but she not

Estella (Mistress)
kena stalked by some bros and her knife/impact play with no prior training also unsafe. Same as the current luna. Kena complain cos physical damage to some bros not just 1 hor. Then u know la y she got forced to retire. Singaporean but prc origin so she tall and ex model but really beauty is just skin deep. Then she collab with yura & amber for playspace but the subtle fight/hate among themselves lol so irony

Emmelia (Mistress)
Also same abit robotic/expected for a domme esp her twitter posts words & wah cb i thought got new hot domme then she recently post needle play cibai. Sry is very turn off for me. The only left with Ashley

Elya (Goddess)
Minah looking domme also on & off recently preg then give birth. V young and she is more fetish provider not very dominant

Haze (Mistress)
mma trained so bros who want wrestling/chokehold sesh can try her. Body not feminine cos she more bodybuilt kind but tall la. Face not the prettiest but decent got tomboy feel. she is vegan so bros who wan to impress her shud know what to buy food for her. She started as a sub oso and not into impact play cos she scared to hit people

Lilith
Frens with ashley but is origin with vexa and not full time. She got the lesbian look


Luna (Mistress)
not to be confused with the retired older Luna. Idk where she got her training from but cb her edge play sibei unsafe sia & unsterile based on twitter. She charge lowest among all local dommes in sg but is really up to u la on ur own risk. She got her own space but very old also. Then drama the kurt saga somemore not dommy la tbh just fetish provider

Lucelle (Lady)
i think the oldest age among all the dommes in sg. No doubt aunty la but she is well groomed still the nicest feet. oso on and off not full time can request for sesh if u can host

Minky (Mistress/Queen)
no longer prodomme cos now she organise events for the expat kink comm

Roxy (Queen)
also into impact play but she is more havoc than dahlia not lady like. she is friendly la and eloquent smart la no doubt but not natural domme just bossy. also on and off but tbh discretion is an issue cos she post pics on her space quite obv. oso y she charge low la cos she dun do much kinks or pegging

Rinn/Liliana/Etc lost count (Mistress/Goddess/Etc)
idk la bros can gauge for urself for someone who keep changing name and on and off sesh and say retire then say no. Her style more playful but sadistic and open to more kink/fetish provider does brown shower so if u can tahan the unknown whether she want to sesh then sure go ahead. Her looks nice la cos she did her nose and boobs if u like the influencer chinese douyin look

Rose (Mistress)
left cos the boyfriend dun like her prodomme

Sierra (Goddess)
dis one dam havoc idk what she doing sia esp the roxy saga thing. nvr met before but if u wan to be instructed by havoc girls who have no knowledge about the basic bdsm protocol then go ahead. plus she try to intro more girls and be a mentor. Speechless…

Vera (Mistress)
Same la intro by ashley then this one disappeared. Nvr try her heng ah. Got ahlian vibe also

Vexa (Mistress)
the remaining domme left from purgatory but she also on and off cos prodomme is not her main thing. now she show her face liao tho back the she alr lowkey dun care about people know about she do dis. Her style is mix sensual and sadist abit playful kind not really dominant so is more towards fetish provider kind. Tbh her fake accent trying too hard angmoh influence quite a turn off no doubt her body is hot la for a syt


Wei (Mistress)
used to be under ashley before she did panty selling. She is latex obsessed but literally thats her entire personality but i mean she is not the first to explore latex in sg lah. V chi influence those raised up in traditional chi fam but not much angmoh influence and she speak like typical Singapore accent. Playful also not dominant so is more of fetish provider. like her mentor, also does med fetish


Yura (Princess)
still around but i realise i didnt include in my old post. Lian looking if u like & princess attitude. Sadistic and got her own space also with decent equipments. More fetish provider not really into power exchange or dominant just bossing u around is like going through the motion. not actually friendly so it feels like she forever bossing if u like that kind then ok lor. is just personality but i say before la actual dominant dun hav to prove they can be dominant the whole time. Her skills not bad la if u just want to play & not serve a domme. Her price on high side to reflect & she been quite some time too so it make sense la to increase

Yuki (Mistress)
Some bro say she lian i oso tink so but she also on and off since last time. Not my cup of tea

Overall, imo ropes is the essential skill most established dommes have so no need worry if u want to be tied. I suggest to do your research who u think u can click with not just based on looks la cos meeting local domme vs prc is different experience & price

Prc is really wham bam thank u mam kind so no connection before after the sesh so u horny then want to jerk off quickly then is the best n worth. If u wan to build long term connection or have proper conversation about kink then it make sense to meet the local dommes and just stick to 1 or 2 unless u r the kind who like to ONS

Luna simi drama with kurt? kurt tay? yes! her play damm unsafe sia..dunno rmind of who sia. cane ppl till bled and nv wipe/sterilize the cane but the worst of worst still the reuse of sperm towel by estella (only true prc will do this kinda thing).. total WTF. she kena force retire? tot she left cos married for second time. heard vexa came back to the scene aft haitus. her body hot meh..dun think so. hear the voice turn off liao.

nv review tammy speaking of influencer like. angel rinn ok la but def nt influencer

[Az284]

Originally Posted by ILemonic

Luna simi drama with kurt? kurt tay? yes! her play damm unsafe sia..dunno rmind of who sia. cane ppl till bled and nv wipe/sterilize the cane but the worst of worst still the reuse of sperm towel by estella (only true prc will do this kinda thing).. total WTF. she kena force retire? tot she left cos married for second time. heard vexa came back to the scene aft haitus. her body hot meh..dun think so. hear the voice turn off liao.

nv review tammy speaking of influencer like. angel rinn ok la but def nt influencer

Luna got doxxed by Kurt Tay. He sessioned with her, took a recording and then uploaded it to his socials. She got harrassed by others who tracked down her name as a result of it. It wasn't a pleasant experience and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Personally, I don't welcome people who expose the community unnecessarily like that. When one member gets exposed, we're all at greater risk.

Originally Posted by fatty999

Bros besides this site, are there any other sites that we can check for any visiting dommes?

Not that I know of - I'm still trying to build one for the local community for this purpose to cover PRCs, local, visiting and overseas dommes, but it's not easy to do so as busy with work and got lots of tech issues. But I'm not in a rush.

Originally Posted by silverug

I "commandoed" an ML listed on SLG as Nina. She is open to some simple fetishes and keen to learn. Those seeking simple fetishes may try, she's quite open minded.

The picture listed on the website was quite accurate and she has adorable smile. She is rather tall with big boobs to match..

She also has some costumes for those that like them...It was a pleasant surprise as she put on the pilot costume without me requesting it.

$120 was well spent for me....given that she tried all my fetishes.

Warh bro - really commando here. I don't even see SM listed as a service.

[Az284]

Thanks bro for sharing - I appreciated the time you spent to round-up all of the local dommes, as well as your contributions earlier on local dommes. I've actually learnt a lot from you in the past. It's not easy to pen thoughts down so comprehensively. I welcome your opinions both good and bad.

Your advice on doing research on local dommes first to find a connection is really spot on. The cost of error when experimenting is high and with high price tags, being careful is a must. That’s my conclusion as well.

Like you, I've sessioned with quite a few on your list, and heard about others second-hand. Some I get along with, some have rejected me for strange reasons. Others - my kinks will never match, or won’t be worth my time or money. But almost all I respect for venturing forth and trying.

The local pro domme scene is full of drama. I do my best to stay away from it. Much of what you've said I've heard repeated second-hand from others. Lots of what you've said I've actually heard people saying something quite different. Which is why I hesitate to repeat anything that I’ve heard from the dommes themselves directly on this forum.

When a community is as opaque as the SG kink ones, even with the very best of intentions, it's very easy for things to get distorted when it passes through multiple people. So my main takeaway is that it's difficult (if not impossible) to know the full truth.

You may be 100% right, you seem very well connected with what’s been going on in the scene and behind the scenes. But it’s difficult for any one person to verify information, especially if it’s based on one’s impressions of who they hang out with. Even if you tasked a New York Times investigative journalist to figure out all that went on over the past few years, they might struggle.

Going into why pro dommes left the scene and their exact personal circumstances satisfies curiosity, an itch to know. I must confess it definitely scratched my itch to see what I’ve heard written out in public. I read every word.

But if that personal information isn’t already public, then I strongly suspect their preference is not for that information to be discussed publicly on a forum. I would suggest it’s more helpful to focus conversation on how they do their sessions instead (which you have). Discretion goes both ways - they are discreet about our kinks, our identities and I think it’s relatively easy for us to reciprocate.

I put myself in the position of an aspiring pro domme in her early 20s looking at this forum and wondering if one day I choose to leave the scene because of personal reasons, will it all be posted here for everyone to see? It definitely doesn’t encourage me to join.

We complain frequently about the lack of standards and availability of good quality dommes. That’s not going to happen anytime soon or isn’t fully within our control. But there are small steps we can take here to provide a conducive environment for that happen - because at the end of the day this is a community.

My learning from the past few years or so of doing this is that it’s not easy for local dommes to get training or the experience needed to meet the high standards which are necessary of BDSM. It’s not always for the want of trying. I sessioned recently with a few dommes in SF and Berlin and the amount of resources, support, openness they have access to really just eclipses whatever is available in Singapore. The community here is also a lot more fragmented. After sessioning overseas, it makes me more aware of some of the limitations of local dommes as well as how they’ve had to work through them.

So when I meet a young / inexperienced domme for the first time, I bear that in mind that everyone is on their own learning journey. We are all constantly a work-in-progress. I don’t think anyone goes into a session treating safety lightly.

Originally Posted by elementz

Wow bro thanks for shoutout. Forgot i got post this. Alot change after many years cfm some laojiao bros can see the differences also who r the remaining ones who is actually serious about being a domme but this is my two cents la for the current batch of girls & trans. only singaporeans hor

Same la alphabetical for easy ref. Some i met once or twice, some is my thoughts but nvr met before/can roughly guess them as a person based on who they hang out with. think is quite common now they have cliques. Then i will state those who left/why/what happen roughly ...


Overall, imo ropes is the essential skill most established dommes have so no need worry if u want to be tied. I suggest to do your research who u think u can click with not just based on looks la cos meeting local domme vs prc is different experience & price

Prc is really wham bam thank u mam kind so no connection before after the sesh so u horny then want to jerk off quickly then is the best n worth. If u wan to build long term connection or have proper conversation about kink then it make sense to meet the local dommes and just stick to 1 or 2 unless u r the kind who like to ONS

[ILemonic]

Originally Posted by Az284

Thanks bro for sharing - I appreciated the time you spent to round-up all of the local dommes, as well as your contributions earlier on local dommes. I've actually learnt a lot from you in the past. It's not easy to pen thoughts down so comprehensively. I welcome your opinions both good and bad.

Your advice on doing research on local dommes first to find a connection is really spot on. The cost of error when experimenting is high and with high price tags, being careful is a must. That’s my conclusion as well.

Like you, I've sessioned with quite a few on your list, and heard about others second-hand. Some I get along with, some have rejected me for strange reasons. Others - my kinks will never match, or won’t be worth my time or money. But almost all I respect for venturing forth and trying.

The local pro domme scene is full of drama. I do my best to stay away from it. Much of what you've said I've heard repeated second-hand from others. Lots of what you've said I've actually heard people saying something quite different. Which is why I hesitate to repeat anything that I’ve heard from the dommes themselves directly on this forum.

When a community is as opaque as the SG kink ones, even with the very best of intentions, it's very easy for things to get distorted when it passes through multiple people. So my main takeaway is that it's difficult (if not impossible) to know the full truth.

You may be 100% right, you seem very well connected with what’s been going on in the scene and behind the scenes. But it’s difficult for any one person to verify information, especially if it’s based on one’s impressions of who they hang out with. Even if you tasked a New York Times investigative journalist to figure out all that went on over the past few years, they might struggle.

Going into why pro dommes left the scene and their exact personal circumstances satisfies curiosity, an itch to know. I must confess it definitely scratched my itch to see what I’ve heard written out in public. I read every word.

But if that personal information isn’t already public, then I strongly suspect their preference is not for that information to be discussed publicly on a forum. I would suggest it’s more helpful to focus conversation on how they do their sessions instead (which you have). Discretion goes both ways - they are discreet about our kinks, our identities and I think it’s relatively easy for us to reciprocate.

I put myself in the position of an aspiring pro domme in her early 20s looking at this forum and wondering if one day I choose to leave the scene because of personal reasons, will it all be posted here for everyone to see? It definitely doesn’t encourage me to join.

We complain frequently about the lack of standards and availability of good quality dommes. That’s not going to happen anytime soon or isn’t fully within our control. But there are small steps we can take here to provide a conducive environment for that happen - because at the end of the day this is a community.

My learning from the past few years or so of doing this is that it’s not easy for local dommes to get training or the experience needed to meet the high standards which are necessary of BDSM. It’s not always for the want of trying. I sessioned recently with a few dommes in SF and Berlin and the amount of resources, support, openness they have access to really just eclipses whatever is available in Singapore. The community here is also a lot more fragmented. After sessioning overseas, it makes me more aware of some of the limitations of local dommes as well as how they’ve had to work through them.

So when I meet a young / inexperienced domme for the first time, I bear that in mind that everyone is on their own learning journey. We are all constantly a work-in-progress. I don’t think anyone goes into a session treating safety lightly.

u're much the idealist. in a perfect world, yes i would 100% agree with u but the cynical world is much farther to the radicalized truth u portray. many come and many go, some come for the fast money and some for the thrill, u really think safety is their top priority or even at the back of their head? call me a realist but if that were the case there wouldn't be so many mishaps and case study to even talk about. bs is bs no matter the intent. unprofessionalism is symptomatic of bad character and the shelf lives of such dommes speaks the truth.

[silverug]

Originally Posted by Az284

Warh bro - really commando here. I don't even see SM listed as a service.

If you wait till they quote SM services in their ads, their price might increase to 150 or some listing 200 for SM nowadays....my fetishes are quite simple and I love taller girls and a bit curvier....

Typically I'll just text and ask direct....if they don't reply or they say no, I'll just move on to the next one on my target list....I will have back up plan like going back to familiar ones like Coco, Jessica for budget session or other ML which I've tried before.

[Az284]

Originally Posted by ILemonic

u're much the idealist. in a perfect world, yes i would 100% agree with u but the cynical world is much farther to the radicalized truth u portray. many come and many go, some come for the fast money and some for the thrill, u really think safety is their top priority or even at the back of their head? call me a realist but if that were the case there wouldn't be so many mishaps and case study to even talk about. bs is bs no matter the intent. unprofessionalism is symptomatic of bad character and the shelf lives of such dommes speaks the truth.

If only you knew me in real life lol! I'm not an idealist, not even a realist. I'm supremely cynical to the point where my colleagues keep telling me not to be!

Cynicism / realism is a state of mind. What you choose to say and do is a different matter. I have no delusions about profit-making impulses.

But to your point I agree - there will be mishaps and yes there will be people who take it less seriously than others. But yes I should have caveated that those intent on doing it well won't take it lightly. It's too sweeping a statement to say everyone will.

What I do emphasize is balance and objectivity, because cynicism can be equally unrealistic compared to optimism. It's important not to tar the entire scene with the actions of bad actors (if those occur). The same way dommes should not assume the worst of subs because of subs that spoil things.

Lastly, I know this wasn't your point but safety is the responsibility of both partners, not just the dommes. I don't walk into risky scenes unless I know exactly what I'm dealing with. If I asked for something risky that might leave marks, I make sure I know exactly what the hygiene and safety standards are like. I never give my full list of kinks in the first session until I've assessed the domme first. I insist on safety words even if the domme forgets or ask for better ones if I think they don't work.

[Az284]

Originally Posted by silverug

If you wait till they quote SM services in their ads, their price might increase to 150 or some listing 200 for SM nowadays....my fetishes are quite simple and I love taller girls and a bit curvier....

Typically I'll just text and ask direct....if they don't reply or they say no, I'll just move on to the next one on my target list....I will have back up plan like going back to familiar ones like Coco, Jessica for budget session or other ML which I've tried before.

Haha I may share a similar preference. Might consult you in future as I don't think I do PRCs as much as you.

[masterbaker]

Originally Posted by silverug

I "commandoed" an ML listed on SLG as Nina. She is open to some simple fetishes and keen to learn. Those seeking simple fetishes may try, she's quite open minded.
The picture listed on the website was quite accurate and she has adorable smile. She is rather tall with big boobs to match..

She also has some costumes for those that like them...It was a pleasant surprise as she put on the pilot costume without me requesting it.

$120 was well spent for me....given that she tried all my fetishes.

Thank you brother for the recommendation.

I visited Nina and had a good time. Bear in mind she’s still quite green and new to this SM concept, but she was very game and could tell she tried her best.

She doesn’t have SM tools but is happy to provide for simpler to perform fetishes if you can explain to her clearly what it is conceptually.

As mention by bro silverug above, she has some costumes as well that could add to a role play scenario.

Looks wise she’s tall, amply-bosomed and pretty. No complaints when I saw her after the door was closed.

Overall worth trying for those who enjoy a session with simpler fetishes. For heavier flavoured requirements, just text her to see if she’s open to providing them.

http://sglonelyguy-23.com/nina-massage/

[Irving123]

https://sglonelyguy-23.com/zara-massage/
Hi bros How about her SM skills?any FR on this?

[otherOne]

Originally Posted by Irving123

https://sglonelyguy-23.com/zara-massage/
Hi bros How about her SM skills?any FR on this?

Looks like every ML is slapping on "SM" to their list of offerings now. Reminds me of how years ago only a handful of MLs offered Juagen, and then everyone started doing "Juagen" and charging more for it. Same thing is happening with SM.