STDs

[Salinger]

Originally Posted by Salinger

Chimpanzees and bonobos does recreational sex too.
What we know is not all that it is.

Anyway, not sure what this thread is about.

When I said not sure what this thread is about, is how it came from std to bros "counselling" you.

As I said to you in another thread.

Originally Posted by Salinger

I am not disparaging you, I am encouraging you to change your mindset.
Or you can continue being how you are, whiney as fuck.

That will definitely help you get a gf.

Your mindset determines how you behave and the persona you project.
Told you there was a troll, who trolls for attention and reactions, you still engage him anyways.

How do people help someone who don't help themselves ?

We are dudes, with hard dicks to pound.
Suck it up and move on afresh.

We make our own beds, you decide if yours is of thorns or roses.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by Salinger

When I said not sure what this thread is about, is how it came from std to bros "counselling" you.

As I said to you in another thread.



Your mindset determines how you behave and the persona you project.
Told you there was a troll, who trolls for attention and reactions, you still engage him anyways.

How do people help someone who don't help themselves ?

We are dudes, with hard dicks to pound.
Suck it up and move on afresh.

We make our own beds, you decide if yours is of thorns or roses.

It came from stds to bros counselling me because I told them why I went to visit a prostitute when last time I was very hardcore against it. There is another troll in this thread in page 2 or 3 named angmoh lover. Probably you only told me after I have already replied to him. I have already lost out on $400,000++ already, how to move on afresh? Maybe by the time I get married I will be 38 or 40 already. Sigh. That's why last week I went to visit a prostitute already. Nobody cares if we have hard dicks to pound, men are not valued in Singapore, they are disposable, women are the valued ones. Pls enlighten me.

I disagree that we make our own bed because my life got sabotaged severely. Please read my other posts in this thread to get more information about my background. I am 33/34 with little savings and no first gf before. Going so long without a first gf is really painful.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by Peacekeeping

Maybe heaven trying to warn you. Maybe chionging is not for you. Putting aside our moral argument, my honest advice for you is quit chionging. Listen to heaven.

I sense sarcasm, please do not be sarcastic, being sarcastic doesn't prove that your points prior to this are right. Thanks. I am open to discuss thijngs healthily, sarcasm doesn't bring the discussion anywhere.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

I sense sarcasm, please do not be sarcastic, being sarcastic doesn't prove that your points prior to this are right. Thanks. I am open to discuss thijngs healthily, sarcasm doesn't bring the discussion anywhere.

What do I gain by being sarcastic? Let’s say you do horse riding for the first time, fell and nearly got paralysed but miraculously recovered in the end. I will also tell you horse riding is not for you and discourage you to go horse riding again. Anyway today is the last day of the year. You decide how you want to lead your life and whether the risk is worth it.

[avet]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

Update:

The itch is almost fully gone! I knew the Vagilisl cream would work because mine was yeast infection(another bro told me mine was yeast infection in another thread, cause I went to google yeast infection after that and they recommended Vagilsil cream).Thanks for advice anyway bros. Vagisil Cream costs $17.05 btw, not cheap, but much cheaper than visiting the doctor

How the fuck you know this is over?

Penis inflammation and discharge can be caused by herpes, chalmydia and candida. While bacterial will not subside, viral can and you still infected.

For fuck sake. Go.see.a. doctor!!!

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by Peacekeeping

What do I gain by being sarcastic? Let’s say you do horse riding for the first time, fell and nearly got paralysed but miraculously recovered in the end. I will also tell you horse riding is not for you and discourage you to go horse riding again. Anyway today is the last day of the year. You decide how you want to lead your life and whether the risk is worth it.

what does your catch bullets quote mean? If it's not sarcastic then thats great. Some people think they gain internet face by being sarcastic or winning the argument/debate to answer your question of what do you get. Nah I have decided to stop visiting because that is not me and not the values that I grew up with as explained 2 days ago. Not as much because of the STD. Actually the very night after visiting before I got the Yeast infection the next day I had already decided to stop already. You chiong for how many years already? Never get any STD at all? How did u manage to do that? Keep wearing condom even during foreplay?

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by avet

How the fuck you know this is over?

Penis inflammation and discharge can be caused by herpes, chalmydia and candida. While bacterial will not subside, viral can and you still infected.

For fuck sake. Go.see.a. doctor!!!

If you read my other posts, it's not inflamation and not discharge. Btw I don't understand your second sentence.

[babyjohnwong]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

.....My main issue for the past 34 years is I am unable to find a FIRST gf.

The thing is because some ML and my mum told me it's normal for single people to visit prostitute because no gf help them(but because of my values I kept rejecting that idea).

Btw bro condom does not protect everything, there is this thing called "crabs" which is lices on pubic hair, thus condom doesn't protect as condom does not cover pubic hair.

Originally Posted by ssd3469

I personally found it very hard to accept FWB or even ML and prostitute due to the conservative values I grew up with. I don't have a job now yet, probably starting next week, so can't claim from company now.

I think I am very similar to you, super conservative and very traditional family and background
Until I find it very backward thinking at times
Grandparents will say things like girls are useless, once married is like water poured away
Or have to favour the Lai Sun first, rather than the Wa Sun
(think you will understand this if you had such traditional bringing up too)
My grandma on her deathbed said all the lands (in MY) and inheritance (money) can only go to the sons
My uncles got all the lands and money and became multi millionaires overnight
My mum and her sisters got nothing because they are useless girls who are not able to carry on the family name
The irony? My uncles were the youngest
My mum and her sisters were the ones who help bring up and take care of the uncles, went out to work first and kept sending money back home which my grandparents took and kept buying lands decades ago when land in MY were super cheap, but in the end the sons are the ones who took the lands, lands bought with money sent back home by the sisters and the sisters were left with nothing
Stories aside

Unable to find GF, keep your options open
I had my first GF in my mid-30s, so I may not be too far from you
Initially I kept telling myself, I must find a Chinese Hokkien, must either know how to speak or willing to learn how to speak Hokkien, must look presentable, must want to have a family, must not be divorced or a single mum
With so much conditions, I really couldn't find someone suitable
Until one day I finally cannot take it, I just want someone who can love me back and I went international too
My parents went ballistic, but I couldn't care less
From Singaporeans to Malaysians, but Chinese so still not that bad
Then to Thais, Vietnamese and finally Filipino
They were furious, but then I said, it is my gf, who could one day be my wife and my family
Either you accept or I be single forever, you choose
Being the only son, they eventually gave in as they need me to carry on the family name

I don't really know the real reason why you are still single
If you have preconditions, such as must be slim and pretty etc, it would limit your options on who you could hook up with
Eg. If you only look for slim girls, a lot of girls actually put on a lot of weight after giving birth
If you only look for pretty girls, looks will fade over time
Instead, find someone who can please you in bed, who is willing to bear you children and take care of them, someone you can get along with easily etc
Or else when slim becomes ba ba to plump or even fat, or chio becomes ugly, you may start to find life moving downhill
Keep your options open, don't restrict yourself too much, and you will definitely increase your chances of finding your other half

Normal or not, it is not for us or the ML or your mum to decide
Society may view things certain things as normal, but it is your life
Society at large do not endorse or encourage homosexuality, or other things such as it is not acceptable for guys to wear skirts and dresses etc
Your own personal sexual reference is yours alone, why should the society views on what is a normal relationship dictate your sexual life?
Men have been wearing skirts and dresses for many many centuries, so why is a guy being judged and viewed as a weirdo or lunatic if he wears skirts or dresses now?
If you want to visit prostitutes, it is entirely your own personal choice regardless of your relationship status
Why care about what is society norm view?

Btw, from what I know, crabs is not STD, but STI
Sexually transmitted infection
Condoms do not protect against everything, yes
Not even pregnancy, let alone STDs and STIs
But by using it correctly, it will help reduce the chances of getting certain STDs and STIs by a huge percentage, statistically speaking
Herpes, syphilis and crabs are some which can be spread by touch alone, rendering condoms useless
But still, it is always best to use condoms and then pray hard

Finally, views do change over time
Men in skirts and dresses is one of them
Homosexuality will soon be the next, with Taiwan already became the first Asian country to recognise same sex marriages
My parents violent objections to finally accepting me having 1 wife after another, both of which are not of ethnic Chinese descent
You may find it hard to accept FWB, ML or prostitutes now, but who knows, your views may also change as time passes

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by babyjohnwong

I think I am very similar to you, super conservative and very traditional family and background
Until I find it very backward thinking at times
Grandparents will say things like girls are useless, once married is like water poured away
Or have to favour the Lai Sun first, rather than the Wa Sun
(think you will understand this if you had such traditional bringing up too)
My grandma on her deathbed said all the lands (in MY) and inheritance (money) can only go to the sons
My uncles got all the lands and money and became multi millionaires overnight
My mum and her sisters got nothing because they are useless girls who are not able to carry on the family name
The irony? My uncles were the youngest
My mum and her sisters were the ones who help bring up and take care of the uncles, went out to work first and kept sending money back home which my grandparents took and kept buying lands decades ago when land in MY were super cheap, but in the end the sons are the ones who took the lands, lands bought with money sent back home by the sisters and the sisters were left with nothing
Stories aside

Unable to find GF, keep your options open
I had my first GF in my mid-30s, so I may not be too far from you
Initially I kept telling myself, I must find a Chinese Hokkien, must either know how to speak or willing to learn how to speak Hokkien, must look presentable, must want to have a family, must not be divorced or a single mum
With so much conditions, I really couldn't find someone suitable
Until one day I finally cannot take it, I just want someone who can love me back and I went international too
My parents went ballistic, but I couldn't care less
From Singaporeans to Malaysians, but Chinese so still not that bad
Then to Thais, Vietnamese and finally Filipino
They were furious, but then I said, it is my gf, who could one day be my wife and my family
Either you accept or I be single forever, you choose
Being the only son, they eventually gave in as they need me to carry on the family name

I don't really know the real reason why you are still single
If you have preconditions, such as must be slim and pretty etc, it would limit your options on who you could hook up with
Eg. If you only look for slim girls, a lot of girls actually put on a lot of weight after giving birth
If you only look for pretty girls, looks will fade over time
Instead, find someone who can please you in bed, who is willing to bear you children and take care of them, someone you can get along with easily etc
Or else when slim becomes ba ba to plump or even fat, or chio becomes ugly, you may start to find life moving downhill
Keep your options open, don't restrict yourself too much, and you will definitely increase your chances of finding your other half

Normal or not, it is not for us or the ML or your mum to decide
Society may view things certain things as normal, but it is your life
Society at large do not endorse or encourage homosexuality, or other things such as it is not acceptable for guys to wear skirts and dresses etc
Your own personal sexual reference is yours alone, why should the society views on what is a normal relationship dictate your sexual life?
Men have been wearing skirts and dresses for many many centuries, so why is a guy being judged and viewed as a weirdo or lunatic if he wears skirts or dresses now?
If you want to visit prostitutes, it is entirely your own personal choice regardless of your relationship status
Why care about what is society norm view?

Btw, from what I know, crabs is not STD, but STI
Sexually transmitted infection
Condoms do not protect against everything, yes
Not even pregnancy, let alone STDs and STIs
But by using it correctly, it will help reduce the chances of getting certain STDs and STIs by a huge percentage, statistically speaking
Herpes, syphilis and crabs are some which can be spread by touch alone, rendering condoms useless
But still, it is always best to use condoms and then pray hard

Finally, views do change over time
Men in skirts and dresses is one of them
Homosexuality will soon be the next, with Taiwan already became the first Asian country to recognise same sex marriages
My parents violent objections to finally accepting me having 1 wife after another, both of which are not of ethnic Chinese descent
You may find it hard to accept FWB, ML or prostitutes now, but who knows, your views may also change as time passes

Thank you for taking the time to write this. I guess because my life is similar to otaku/宅男, that is why it is hard for me to get a gf, I don't believe in joining communinty centre classes eg. cooking classes to know new girls also... I used to look handsome, went to binge eat and became fat after I got sabotaged, resulting in me harder to get a gf. My university grades and career also largely gone le. Talking about views, but how can we share something as intimate as sex with a stranger ie. prostitute?

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by babyjohnwong

I think I am very similar to you, super conservative and very traditional family and background
Until I find it very backward thinking at times
Grandparents will say things like girls are useless, once married is like water poured away
Or have to favour the Lai Sun first, rather than the Wa Sun
(think you will understand this if you had such traditional bringing up too)
My grandma on her deathbed said all the lands (in MY) and inheritance (money) can only go to the sons
My uncles got all the lands and money and became multi millionaires overnight
My mum and her sisters got nothing because they are useless girls who are not able to carry on the family name
The irony? My uncles were the youngest
My mum and her sisters were the ones who help bring up and take care of the uncles, went out to work first and kept sending money back home which my grandparents took and kept buying lands decades ago when land in MY were super cheap, but in the end the sons are the ones who took the lands, lands bought with money sent back home by the sisters and the sisters were left with nothing
Stories aside

Unable to find GF, keep your options open
I had my first GF in my mid-30s, so I may not be too far from you
Initially I kept telling myself, I must find a Chinese Hokkien, must either know how to speak or willing to learn how to speak Hokkien, must look presentable, must want to have a family, must not be divorced or a single mum
With so much conditions, I really couldn't find someone suitable
Until one day I finally cannot take it, I just want someone who can love me back and I went international too
My parents went ballistic, but I couldn't care less
From Singaporeans to Malaysians, but Chinese so still not that bad
Then to Thais, Vietnamese and finally Filipino
They were furious, but then I said, it is my gf, who could one day be my wife and my family
Either you accept or I be single forever, you choose
Being the only son, they eventually gave in as they need me to carry on the family name

I don't really know the real reason why you are still single
If you have preconditions, such as must be slim and pretty etc, it would limit your options on who you could hook up with
Eg. If you only look for slim girls, a lot of girls actually put on a lot of weight after giving birth
If you only look for pretty girls, looks will fade over time
Instead, find someone who can please you in bed, who is willing to bear you children and take care of them, someone you can get along with easily etc
Or else when slim becomes ba ba to plump or even fat, or chio becomes ugly, you may start to find life moving downhill
Keep your options open, don't restrict yourself too much, and you will definitely increase your chances of finding your other half

Normal or not, it is not for us or the ML or your mum to decide
Society may view things certain things as normal, but it is your life
Society at large do not endorse or encourage homosexuality, or other things such as it is not acceptable for guys to wear skirts and dresses etc
Your own personal sexual reference is yours alone, why should the society views on what is a normal relationship dictate your sexual life?
Men have been wearing skirts and dresses for many many centuries, so why is a guy being judged and viewed as a weirdo or lunatic if he wears skirts or dresses now?
If you want to visit prostitutes, it is entirely your own personal choice regardless of your relationship status
Why care about what is society norm view?

Btw, from what I know, crabs is not STD, but STI
Sexually transmitted infection
Condoms do not protect against everything, yes
Not even pregnancy, let alone STDs and STIs
But by using it correctly, it will help reduce the chances of getting certain STDs and STIs by a huge percentage, statistically speaking
Herpes, syphilis and crabs are some which can be spread by touch alone, rendering condoms useless
But still, it is always best to use condoms and then pray hard

Finally, views do change over time
Men in skirts and dresses is one of them
Homosexuality will soon be the next, with Taiwan already became the first Asian country to recognise same sex marriages
My parents violent objections to finally accepting me having 1 wife after another, both of which are not of ethnic Chinese descent
You may find it hard to accept FWB, ML or prostitutes now, but who knows, your views may also change as time passes

With regards to our sex life is our own business, but what if family members and cousins and uncles found out about it and started looking down on you or avoided sharing food with you?

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by babyjohnwong

I think I am very similar to you, super conservative and very traditional family and background
Until I find it very backward thinking at times
Grandparents will say things like girls are useless, once married is like water poured away
Or have to favour the Lai Sun first, rather than the Wa Sun
(think you will understand this if you had such traditional bringing up too)
My grandma on her deathbed said all the lands (in MY) and inheritance (money) can only go to the sons
My uncles got all the lands and money and became multi millionaires overnight
My mum and her sisters got nothing because they are useless girls who are not able to carry on the family name
The irony? My uncles were the youngest
My mum and her sisters were the ones who help bring up and take care of the uncles, went out to work first and kept sending money back home which my grandparents took and kept buying lands decades ago when land in MY were super cheap, but in the end the sons are the ones who took the lands, lands bought with money sent back home by the sisters and the sisters were left with nothing
Stories aside

Unable to find GF, keep your options open
I had my first GF in my mid-30s, so I may not be too far from you
Initially I kept telling myself, I must find a Chinese Hokkien, must either know how to speak or willing to learn how to speak Hokkien, must look presentable, must want to have a family, must not be divorced or a single mum
With so much conditions, I really couldn't find someone suitable
Until one day I finally cannot take it, I just want someone who can love me back and I went international too
My parents went ballistic, but I couldn't care less
From Singaporeans to Malaysians, but Chinese so still not that bad
Then to Thais, Vietnamese and finally Filipino
They were furious, but then I said, it is my gf, who could one day be my wife and my family
Either you accept or I be single forever, you choose
Being the only son, they eventually gave in as they need me to carry on the family name

I don't really know the real reason why you are still single
If you have preconditions, such as must be slim and pretty etc, it would limit your options on who you could hook up with
Eg. If you only look for slim girls, a lot of girls actually put on a lot of weight after giving birth
If you only look for pretty girls, looks will fade over time
Instead, find someone who can please you in bed, who is willing to bear you children and take care of them, someone you can get along with easily etc
Or else when slim becomes ba ba to plump or even fat, or chio becomes ugly, you may start to find life moving downhill
Keep your options open, don't restrict yourself too much, and you will definitely increase your chances of finding your other half

Normal or not, it is not for us or the ML or your mum to decide
Society may view things certain things as normal, but it is your life
Society at large do not endorse or encourage homosexuality, or other things such as it is not acceptable for guys to wear skirts and dresses etc
Your own personal sexual reference is yours alone, why should the society views on what is a normal relationship dictate your sexual life?
Men have been wearing skirts and dresses for many many centuries, so why is a guy being judged and viewed as a weirdo or lunatic if he wears skirts or dresses now?
If you want to visit prostitutes, it is entirely your own personal choice regardless of your relationship status
Why care about what is society norm view?

Btw, from what I know, crabs is not STD, but STI
Sexually transmitted infection
Condoms do not protect against everything, yes
Not even pregnancy, let alone STDs and STIs
But by using it correctly, it will help reduce the chances of getting certain STDs and STIs by a huge percentage, statistically speaking
Herpes, syphilis and crabs are some which can be spread by touch alone, rendering condoms useless
But still, it is always best to use condoms and then pray hard

Finally, views do change over time
Men in skirts and dresses is one of them
Homosexuality will soon be the next, with Taiwan already became the first Asian country to recognise same sex marriages
My parents violent objections to finally accepting me having 1 wife after another, both of which are not of ethnic Chinese descent
You may find it hard to accept FWB, ML or prostitutes now, but who knows, your views may also change as time passes

how do you quote from different posts btw?

[HentaiSpartan]

Can someone delete this thread. It's adult discussion about sex, not depression. Also I cant take the discussion seriously at all, if you are already in your 30s, why would still take these kind of suggestions from your mom? If your are already in bad situation, why take the plunge further? What kind of mentality is that? Getting a woman should not be your priority now. I recommend u start cleaning your room first and watch some videos on Jordan B Peterson.

[HentaiSpartan]

And get out of this forum

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

what does your catch bullets quote mean? If it's not sarcastic then thats great. Some people think they gain internet face by being sarcastic or winning the argument/debate to answer your question of what do you get. Nah I have decided to stop visiting because that is not me and not the values that I grew up with as explained 2 days ago. Not as much because of the STD. Actually the very night after visiting before I got the Yeast infection the next day I had already decided to stop already. You chiong for how many years already? Never get any STD at all? How did u manage to do that? Keep wearing condom even during foreplay?

My bullets mean money(and sperms). Meaning to be selective and spend on ml/fl who are worth it. If the gal is fat, old or ugly then I will skip and find another one. For the same std risk and financial cost, I would rather make love to a syt. Someone who can make me very happy in that 30mins. In all my years, only got jock itch from dirty massage towels. Apply cream and recover in a week. I go for hj, bbbj and capped fj. I don’t frenchkiss or lick pussy. I pay to get serviced.

[babyjohnwong]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

Thank you for taking the time to write this. I guess because my life is similar to otaku/宅男, that is why it is hard for me to get a gf, I don't believe in joining communinty centre classes eg. cooking classes to know new girls also... I used to look handsome, went to binge eat and became fat after I got sabotaged, resulting in me harder to get a gf. My university grades and career also largely gone le. Talking about views, but how can we share something as intimate as sex with a stranger ie. prostitute?

Funny thing is a lot of people want to find pretty girls, slim and good figure etc.
Others even want funnier things like must know how to cook and do housework (we live in a society where we can easier hire a helper)
Long hair, knows how to make up etc
But guy themselves? Are they macho and fit?
Are they taking care of their looks and know how to present themselves?
It goes both ways actually
If you don't believe in joining classes, social groups etc, you are only limiting yourselves to the circle of people you can meet
I used to do stuff when I was single, like taking up salsa classes, joining hiking groups, kayaking groups, went for a lot of social activities like bowling, karaoke, pool, birthdays parties, fashion shows etc
The wider the circle of people you come into contact with, the greater the chance, just like taking exams, how do you expect to score high marks if you don't even bother to study?
How can we share something as intimate as sex with a stranger?
Obviously we can to be honest, survival of species, evolution blah blah blah, we are all "designed" to procreate, to carry on the survival of our race, only difference between now and prehistoric times, we have evolved intellectually and we start questioning things like meaning of life, we start to do things for recreation instead of need for survival
But that still doesn't strip us of our basic instincts
If you don't erect after seeing a pretty lady naked, maybe there is indeed something wrong with your DNA

Originally Posted by ssd3469

With regards to our sex life is our own business, but what if family members and cousins and uncles found out about it and started looking down on you or avoided sharing food with you?

It is their own business, their minds, why do you need to care so much about what they think about you?
Who in this world is totally innocent?
Everyone is hiding something in their closet, so why need to bother?
If they look down or avoid you, then you stop seeing them
If they cannot accept you for who you are, it is their problem
Why do you need to conform to their ideals?

Originally Posted by ssd3469

how do you quote from different posts btw?

Can click on multi-quote button next to quote
Or manually copy and paste
Will be the same too