Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[SammyKing]

Bro...it's nothing new. Alot of us are facing the same problem as u.

[ferragamo]

Originally Posted by wankytonky

Bro Ferragamo, i seldom post here but can totally relate to you. Married 4 years with bad sex life. I've struggled through this year without cheating but dont know how long i can last..

salute you, going 1 yr like you is tough on the guy

and some women won't believe that not every guy wants to cheat on the wife.. it is really kenna force until cannot take it

[SKSS]

I agree with SammyKing, many of us are facing this problem.

Maybe can go for supper once in awhile so you dont have everything coped up inside.

[Teddman]

OMG Guys (and the occasional gals), this thread is scaring the crap out of me.

I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her.

And while she goes her own way, I go about donating my seed worldwide. It's very painful now already! I have friends who tell me Macau no need to book hotel, the massage place already provides you heaven (sleep, eat, make sweet love to hot russian/chinese/korean/hot girls, repeat cycle), or Bangkok got Poseidon model floor.

HOW TO TAKE THIS GUYS!?

And after visiting spa a few times, I can honestly say the experience of masseuse asking GQ to you may be funny and interesting the first few times, but after that, feels damn pathetic. The Tiger wants MORE. But having more is like selling my soul man.

It is honestly very very difficult to stay on the straight and narrow. I think it's her fault for giving so little. But really the amount I demand, my friends also think i am abit abnormal. I proposed ultimately because some voice inside me said that this marriage thing - cannot be about satisfying the Tiger alone right?

I think after we get our flat, I will insist that the design plans to our study room will be kept secret and up to me to decide. The Internet may be my only salvation.

[ferragamo]

Originally Posted by Teddman

OMG Guys (and the occasional gals), this thread is scaring the crap out of me.

I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her.

My only important advice to you is please make your decisions and choices before you have any children

Once you have children, you have to be responsible to them as they are innocent.

so no matter how horny you are, you should think of them first

therefore, think clearly and plan whatever you wish before any kids

[alvinskoh]

Originally Posted by Teddman

OMG Guys (and the occasional gals), this thread is scaring the crap out of me.

I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her.

And while she goes her own way, I go about donating my seed worldwide. It's very painful now already! I have friends who tell me Macau no need to book hotel, the massage place already provides you heaven (sleep, eat, make sweet love to hot russian/chinese/korean/hot girls, repeat cycle), or Bangkok got Poseidon model floor.

HOW TO TAKE THIS GUYS!?

And after visiting spa a few times, I can honestly say the experience of masseuse asking GQ to you may be funny and interesting the first few times, but after that, feels damn pathetic. The Tiger wants MORE. But having more is like selling my soul man.

It is honestly very very difficult to stay on the straight and narrow. I think it's her fault for giving so little. But really the amount I demand, my friends also think i am abit abnormal. I proposed ultimately because some voice inside me said that this marriage thing - cannot be about satisfying the Tiger alone right?

I think after we get our flat, I will insist that the design plans to our study room will be kept secret and up to me to decide. The Internet may be my only salvation.

Hi;

Don't marry for the sake of getting married. Listen to your heart and soul.
If your partner cannot satified you, I think better quit before too late.
Trust me ; you will regret after getting married.
After marriage; your wife will demand more from you and give even less to your need. I went thru this before and divorce after having two kids; is very messy.

Unless your girl friend is those can submit to you if not this will be a trap you will regret.

That is my experience.

Short pain better than Long pain

Cheers

[sxzx4u]

Originally Posted by analog

Hey Bro:

Note to all young guys, I know, i know...your GF today is a slut, she complains you can't fuck enough or often enough, she sucks your cock, takes it up the ass everything, you're in bliss. You buy a ring, you get engaged....life is great. After you get engaged sex gets even better, you are in heaven all is great, You get married, and your screwing her in every room in your new flat every day of the week, TWICE a day, its all good. She gets pregnant, you're both happy, after all, you're married. Its all good, sex continues through the pregnancy, then the baby is born, happy, happy, happy.......and it never comes back. You wait, you're a patient, modern sensitive guy, she has to heal you say to your self, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months a year.....when is she going to heal? Why she not interested any more etc....

Then she decides she wants another baby, she rapes you for a few months until she gets pregnant again, then she shuts off. Not like first time when you fucked all through the pregnancy. This time she doesn't let you touch her....and the cycle repeats.

This is fucking truth. This happened to me EXACTLY!!!

[singlad]

Originally Posted by sxzx4u

This is fucking truth. This happened to me EXACTLY!!!

It happens to all married men.

[Pagarsex]

It does happen to most married men but not all la. Go look at the swinging / orgy pages here, many bros swinging happily with their lovely wives; look at the picture/ link exchange plaza, many hubby n wives r spicing up thier sex life n happily sharing with bros my personal experience is wife used to be very conservative, shy about sex, after 2 kids she is getting hornier n wetter n hungrier. The only problem we hav now is too much work n too little time for ourselves in this high pressure sin society.

I think alot to do with matching personality, willingness to up the fun n try new things, and most of all- open communication. Sex is 2 ways traffic (3 or mOre ways for some lucky couples both husband n wife need to want the same thing. If there is problem, talk it out, if cannot talk, go for counseling like one of the bro suggested, if really cannot work out solution at least each other knows the real reasons why things fail.

R we doing something to change the situation or r letting the situation to do us in??

Just my 1 cent worth .

[koites]

Originally Posted by Teddman

OMG Guys (and the occasional gals), this thread is scaring the crap out of me.

I am 29 and getting married next year.
I think after we get our flat, I will insist that the design plans to our study room will be kept secret and up to me to decide. The Internet may be my only salvation.

My sincere advice. Give it up. If it's not now, it will be worse in the future. Given the fact that the first time status and "lower" hdb price are so "sacred" since property prices are going up like our sex drive by the hour, you should leave her. It's not going to be easy to reestablish yourself after you get married the second time. If you can already see the future, why plunge yourself into it? Take ownership for your own future.

[emaza30]

I'm also married to more than 10yrs. i must admit that sometime sex is slow. But every relationship has it up and down. When sex need is not match, it look outside to kill the urge. But i go back to my for wife for satisfy sex.

is for you to choose what you want.

[Raymond128]

Originally Posted by analog

Hey Bro:

At least you're getting some!!!
Many are getting nothing.

Women are really evil in this sense....
Their entire job, obligation, is to have sex with their husband. That is what a marriage license is, a document consenting to have sex with this man.

Sigh....life.

Note to all young guys, I know, i know...your GF today is a slut, she complains you can't fuck enough or often enough, she sucks your cock, takes it up the ass everything, you're in bliss. You buy a ring, you get engaged....life is great. After you get engaged sex gets even better, you are in heaven all is great, You get married, and your screwing her in every room in your new flat every day of the week, TWICE a day, its all good. She gets pregnant, you're both happy, after all, you're married. Its all good, sex continues through the pregnancy, then the baby is born, happy, happy, happy.......and it never comes back. You wait, you're a patient, modern sensitive guy, she has to heal you say to your self, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months a year.....when is she going to heal? Why she not interested any more etc....

Then she decides she wants another baby, she rapes you for a few months until she gets pregnant again, then she shuts off. Not like first time when you fucked all through the pregnancy. This time she doesn't let you touch her....and the cycle repeats.

And this is how life is with a Singaporean wife my friends. And young boys who are still in the GF/BF stage, save your advice. You have no idea how that little slut you have for a GF right now will change once you marry her and she has a kid. You simply have NO IDEA!

I went to a marriage course when I was a teenager, church related thing, married priest (yes, there are such things) and he said this:
"Couples marry with the man thinking his wife will never change and the woman thinking she will change her future husband. They're both wrong."

How true that has turned out to be.

I'm hoping once the kids get a bit older she comes back. By she I mean the woman I married because the woman I am with now is not who I married. But there is nothing any of us can do about it. Its enough to drive a man to drink....and many do.

Cheers,
jim

Hi Jim, total agreed on what he mentioned... Guess we have to find new hobby & CCA to keep our life going... That why we are all SammyBoy Buddies here...

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by Pagarsex

my personal experience is wife used to be very conservative, shy about sex, after 2 kids she is getting hornier n wetter n hungrier.

Wow bro... ur wife is different to many others (in a good way)... Any secret on why and how this could happen. As you may read the thread, most of us have wives that are not interested in sex anymore... the urge is declining...
However, I am sure that some women have even higher urge with years..

[kmstore]

So many brudders on the same boat... Haiz...

[sgjoey]

Originally Posted by nuclearkid

The concept of a polygamous relationship isn't exactly acceptable to all. Its like politics, religion, sexual orientations...what's right or wrong depends on your perspective and your bias. It isn't acceptable just because it is acceptable to some.

And speaking of complexity, any relationship is as complex as you want it to be, or conversely, just as simple. It can be as straightforward as no BS, straight talking and no hiding. Same stuff we teach our young children day in day out. If one starts thinking about a relationship as one does drawing up a risk assessment matrix, yes, it can be terribly convoluted. There is another book in history that outsells the one you recommended...inside, it espoused basic tenets of a strong relationship while not never suggesting polygamy is the solution. Make a guess, most people have heard of it...

Nonetheless, the internet and by extension the information it generates, provides a plethora of information for one to practice his or her confirmation. Its definition, according to wiki, is "Confirmation bias (also called confirmatory bias or myside bias) is a tendency for people to favor information that confirms their preconceptions or hypotheses regardless of whether the information is true." Data mining is a very common malpractice in the research world. Likewise, one can easily find information to debunk the notion that polygamy is natural. We should take such information in perspective and practice what is right while knowing what can potentially be problematic.

Of cos the idea of polygamy is not acceptable in most developed societies. That is because we have all been nurtured from young to believe that monogamy is the goal.

And I am not actually talking about polygamy, but more about polyamory -- which goes even further.

As for the book you mentioned, I am guessing you are talking about the Bible. To be honest, all holy books contain lots of rubbish. No contest when we contrast religion with science as custodians of the truth. Science wins, hands down.

And the latest science research is telling us something which is so revolutionary that most people are still not ready to accept -- essentially, humans (males as well as females) like most animal species, are non-monogamous.