Paranoid: sbf male fb?

[MoLiHuaCha]

Best to make things clear, if not, later, confirm daiji liao liao wan

[itiswhatitis]

i can oni say: tat bizman FB of yrs s very selfish. unless he s talking to u abt marriage or committment, otherwise i think u (westendgirl) ve yr own right of yr life.

u r fully authorised to go anywhere u wan, meet whoever u wan. only when u feel comfortable of his comments, then won't matter shd u heed his words SOMETIMES. SOMETIMES only. other than tat, both of u r jus sexual partners w no strings attached.

dun worry abt anyone esp HIM! u got e right to enjoy yourselves. remember, dun let him spoil yr day.

haiz........ dun get paranoid la, spoil yr day only. dun forget our lives r short. jus be happy!

[BoinKING]

if the sex was a killer then okay la..
if not then so many fish in the sea.. let one lose to have many..

worthy trade off lol

[ahchooxx]

i think he just don't want himself sexposed as a businessman. i think that's what those high ranking people scared of being exposed. but if he is really rich, he should go get a mistress to be his only fb right

[littlepok]

maybe TS should state her requirement, alot will be queueing up to know her, me inclusive haha. use some filtering requirement so u do not get spammed (got a hunch your PM is bursting liao with messages like)

F the bizman. i let u meet anyone u want, including my little bro

[xxFTOxx]

Originally Posted by westendgirl

i cant stand it anymore & wld like to seek brothers/sisters advice here. i am a newbie here n recently get to know a guy here. he is nice and attentive. only drawback is he is paranoid of meetg other samsters.

he is a businessman & say he treasured his privacy very much and paranoid about being identified as a samster. wtf right? u know a girl from SBF and you are scare stiff of the rest of the community? i told him i knew a few samsters here before him and i cant be cutting them off cos of his paranoia, rite? well, with his reluctance permission, i put this in writing in the forum and see the response.

Jealousy perhaps? Maybe he likes u? Well u gotta set the rules straight first. But I may be wrong

[itiswhatitis]

Originally Posted by littlepok

maybe TS should state her requirement, alot will be queueing up to know her, me inclusive haha. use some filtering requirement so u do not get spammed (got a hunch your PM is bursting liao with messages like)

F the bizman. i let u meet anyone u want, including my little bro

ha ha, i didnt do tat lor...............

muhahahahaa.............. didnt tot of it aso.......

but i think by tomolo aftern, tis ll be a 10pages thread.........

[HungHubby]

I read 2 pages and no "relationship/martial status" stated?

1. If ya both are single and available, whats the big hooha about bumping into other people or letting them know how/where u meet each other? SBF (though sexually) is just another online networking platform. If ya aint comfortable, then say HWZ?

2. Even if ya both fbs/fwbs, u both outta give each other alittle freedom and space. Dun really see why ya cant have friends of the opposite gender as long as nothing sexually is being involved.

2. If he's already taken, he's obviously afraid to let his other half find out? Then again, among his own group of friends/associates etc, most businessmen that I know of are pretty open about having another mistress/fwb/fb and not be afraid to be seen with them, its like having the luxury of an extra "toy" and a sign that they are already "up there".

[<<totally>>]

This thread now a bit 1-side. Maybe bizman go get a clone , find a friend to help you and clear the air before you lose that someone special if she really is to you.

But I will not use a clone and a friend to say on behalf. A nick is nothing as to compared with a person that really mean something. Be a man and if you did say things wrongly, just apologies.

I'm neutral but want to see things coming from 2 sides to be fair for both parties.

[westendgirl]

Originally Posted by aceaceguy

IMO, he want to be ur ONLY FB

ask him when he wanna propose to u

FB dont end up as hub and wife la...

[westendgirl]

Originally Posted by BoinKING

if the sex was a killer then okay la..
if not then so many fish in the sea.. let one lose to have many..

worthy trade off lol

i am learning bro boinking. will let u know when i can kill with my sex skill!!

currently it seems like a one tree forest to me lor...

[BoinKING]

then stick to one how to level up right?
haha must have a few to improve skill ma..

Everyone got their trade mark move.. which makes it fun.. hence FBs..

[SexyStan]

Originally Posted by littlepok

aren't u considered a samster as well? then why he meet u?

in other words, because u met other samster before, therefore he is afraid when he go out with u, other samster will identify u and hence refer him as another samster which he do not want to.

conclusion: very shameful to be seen with u? for example, there are bros who got together with masseur, ktv gals and even prostitutes (not referring u as one of these) and the bros accepted them for who they are, what they did IN THE PAST and lived happily (some of them...). if he likes u, he will have to accept for who u are and who u met or bonked with in the past. if not, this will forever be a prick in his heart. will u be truly happy? your own call

Originally Posted by westendgirl

omg this is totally unfair and sexist. wtf! female samster is slut; male samster is he-man? bro littlepok, thanks for pointing this out.

Chill gal... as someone neutral, I believe u've misunderstood Bro Littlepok's intended message. He's criticizing ur Man, not u. Hope that clarifies. As for ur Man's fears, becoz of some lack of info we have here from u (u may also b lacking some info on ur part as well for that matter, we really don't knw...), there can b multiple perspectives & his paranoia or indignance may be due to one or a few of the below listed reasons: -

(i) In Biz, Speak Biz (在商言商)

U've mentioned he is a bizman. In biz, reputation does matter. He cld b fearing tt a Samster outing wld unnecessarily blow his identity, &/or even cause him to bump into fellow Samsters w/ he has biz dealings w/. It may seem a small matter to u, or us even; But it may generate unnecessary awkwardness in future when he's talking biz in a professional capacity, jeopardize biz r/s, or even generate unnecessary rumors about him in his inner circle.

(ii) His marital status or other circumstances

Particularly for bizmen &/or some1 w/ reasonable public exposure, & in furtherance of e above (i), e anonymity that e virtual world offers to all of us protects them slightly more. Using marriage as an example, he might have fears that he loses his bargaining power becoz he's identity might be blown to a samster who is also a biz associate, simply becoz now e same associate, having known who he is, & perhaps what he does becoz of FRs or stories he's published, blackmails him. It may seem a remote fear, but remote as it is, it can happen bcoz e world of biz is a cut throat one. I do not knw e size of e biz he has, or e industry he's in, but I believe tt fear wld b there, e difference being only in e propensity he feels it.

(iii) R/s between e 2 of u

U mentioned him as a FB. Perhaps he does not see u in tt light. It cld b his possessiveness, not wanting to share u w/ fellow samsters, regardless of his seniority in this forum, or he knws what goes on in these forums & he cannot bear e thought of that happening to u &/or him. Perhaps, he hates how some shallow guys (most in fact but certainly not all), is likely to see u in a light whereby u "can b upped" (blunt, but some cruel truths, no harm intended) if people knew he had his chance w/ u. Perhaps, such a thought is simply too much for him to bear; and/or

(iv) Simply doesn't care

Not that he doesn't care about u. But he simply doesn't care about a Samster meeting. Some of us keep to ourselves pretty much (me included and I haven't met that many samsters before really in the past). Particularly for males, especially those w/ a profile in biz, we tend to be very objective-driven. A mere outing like food and drinks, could be mistakebly perceived as a waste of time w/o much specific outcomes, by some men.

Just some thoughts I have. I hope my perspective helps, but I do understand its not meant to be exhaustive towards other possibilities. If u r truly feeling curious & perturbed, I believe u shld speak to him. After all, if u guys are intimate, what's there that cannot b spoken aboveboard? U've credited him for being attentive, I'm sure he'd b more than willing to offer u answers like how a gentleman wld instead of have u (or us) speculate.

[aceaceguy]

Originally Posted by BoinKING

then stick to one how to level up right?
haha must have a few to improve skill ma..

Everyone got their trade mark move.. which makes it fun.. hence FBs..

Haha, good one bro.

Is ur trade mark 'bishan'?

[westendgirl]

Originally Posted by littlepok

maybe TS should state her requirement, alot will be queueing up to know her, me inclusive haha. use some filtering requirement so u do not get spammed (got a hunch your PM is bursting liao with messages like)

F the bizman. i let u meet anyone u want, including my little bro

littlepok hahaha some pm la. not considered a deluge of spam. still like to maintain the r/s. he is nice and considerate.

Originally Posted by itiswhatitis

ha ha, i didnt do tat lor...............

muhahahahaa.............. didnt tot of it aso.......

but i think by tomolo aftern, tis ll be a 10pages thread.........

that wont happen la. this thread probably had run its course with all the points raised here. i am really grateful for all the postings and pms.

Originally Posted by HungHubby

I read 2 pages and no "relationship/martial status" stated?

1. If ya both are single and available, whats the big hooha about bumping into other people or letting them know how/where u meet each other? SBF (though sexually) is just another online networking platform. If ya aint comfortable, then say HWZ?

2. Even if ya both fbs/fwbs, u both outta give each other alittle freedom and space. Dun really see why ya cant have friends of the opposite gender as long as nothing sexually is being involved.

2. If he's already taken, he's obviously afraid to let his other half find out? Then again, among his own group of friends/associates etc, most businessmen that I know of are pretty open about having another mistress/fwb/fb and not be afraid to be seen with them, its like having the luxury of an extra "toy" and a sign that they are already "up there".

just say our r/s is complicated. whatever it is, it will not lead to marriage. it is just a temporary arrangement that both of us are comfortable with. only this little issue...

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

This thread now a bit 1-side. Maybe bizman go get a clone , find a friend to help you and clear the air before you lose that someone special if she really is to you.

But I will not use a clone and a friend to say on behalf. A nick is nothing as to compared with a person that really mean something. Be a man and if you did say things wrongly, just apologies.

I'm neutral but want to see things coming from 2 sides to be fair for both parties.

bro, i asked him not to. i dont want to polarise the forum with my little problem. he can read and talk to me. anyway, raising firework here is the last thing he has on his mind...