Saw messages which I shouldn't

[yang punk]

Bro

High chance that she is having an affair, probably with office colleague especially always working late.

Catch her first then decide what you want to do...don't let her wise up that you suspect.

Women's Charter won't favor a cheating wife. Get evidence to have an upper hand. If divorce better chance of custody of your daughter and no alimony!

[DAdults]

Hey TS, I am afraid I am not in the position to give advice here... But I guess no matter what happens, you have to stay calm... Only with a cool head can you decide on your best course of action...

[fairman]

Thks all bros, I think I better don't ask her now. Will stay closer observe her at the moment.

[utd4ever59]

Brother, your wife is obviously having a good time behind your back. Get a PI to do some investigation and than divorce her. Once a woman eat outside , she will never stop unlike men. Men fuck for fun... women open leg bcos of love and loneliness.

[Bazic606]

There are a few things that you can do to clear your doubts:-

1. Spring a surprise lunch during her office hour, just say that you happen to pass by
2. Tell her your schedule and let her arrange hers around yours, then make sudden changes to get her to change hers
3. Yank her away to a long holiday and watch her reactions closely
4. Go on an oversea trip and return a day or two earlier
5. Notice her change of dressing, perfume or any abnormal habits

In due time, she will probably leave obvious traces of infidelity if it is true.

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, I'm eating my breakfast waffles and want to chime in again because I am concerned you will make a strategic mistake. Again, the objective is to protect your assets. One premature move and she could seek divorce on the premise you don't trust her. That means under the SG Women's Charter you lose 50% at least. Your immediate task is to assemble a team with hiring a PI the best you can find and getting him to find the truth. Armed with the truth you would be protecting your assets. So the reward is you keep your assets and find the truth. Anything else is a mission failure. Do you understand? Please delete your browser history cache if you are visiting this board on your home computer too. Don't let her have her cake and eat it too. Should the PI find that she is cheating, then you would have peace of mind. Should you jump the gun, she will not only be fucking another man behind your back but he and she would be enjoying the fruits of your hard earned labor. Don't ask her any more questions. Play dumb and dumber and oblivious to her actions ie texting and unaccounted for time away. Not matter how curious your are don't say anything. Talk to a trusted friend who doesn't know both of you instead. Or you can post here as long as your presence is secure. Keep us posted as you need to for support. We feel for you brother.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by Bazic606

There are a few things that you can do to clear your doubts:-

1. Spring a surprise lunch during her office hour, just say that you happen to pass by
2. Tell her your schedule and let her arrange hers around yours, then make sudden changes to get her to change hers
3. Yank her away to a long holiday and watch her reactions closely
4. Go on an oversea trip and return a day or two earlier
5. Notice her change of dressing, perfume or any abnormal habits

In due time, she will probably leave obvious traces of infidelity if it is true.

I don't advise any of the above. Because you queried her about the texting, she would turn suspicious should you alter your normal routine and habits. Let the PI do his or her job for you. They can get video proof for divorce court. You need concrete visual proof not hunches or suspisions not only for yourself and pieace of mind but for protection of your assets and your future. If the cheating guy has a solid job then your half would be used for vacations and things for them to splurge on while you drown in your sorrows. Don't be a fool, protect yourself.

[fairman]

Last night I waited until my wife fall asleep and take a look at her phone. (Are we going other places?) taken down the number I called this morning at my office, a guy ans the call then I hang up.

[Big Sexy]

mate, and you dont even have the courage to confront him?
it says alot about yourself. if you cant do it..
hire a hitman to finish the job.

Originally Posted by fairman

Last night I waited until my wife fall asleep and take a look at her phone. (Are we going other places?) taken down the number I called this morning at my office, a guy ans the call then I hang up.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Again, the objective is to protect your assets. One premature move and she could seek divorce on the premise you don't trust her. That means under the SG Women's Charter you lose 50% at least. Your immediate task is to assemble a team with hiring a PI the best you can find and getting him to find the truth. Armed with the truth you would be protecting your assets. So the reward is you keep your assets and find the truth. Anything else is a mission failure. Do you understand?

If you do not know anything, just keep quiet and don't comment. Wrong advice is worse than no advice. A divorce isn't fault-based. Just because she cheats on you doesn't mean she will 'lose' out in a divorce, regardless of the evidence that you have. Her lawyer will teach her to say that she started cheating on you because of your unreasonable behaviour. Since you can advise people on how to 'protect' his 50% (50% of what? Pre-marital, post-marital, combined assets?), have you thought of the issue of custody of his 2 year old? Divorce already, his daughter how?

Originally Posted by fairman

Last night I waited until my wife fall asleep and take a look at her phone. (Are we going other places?) taken down the number I called this morning at my office, a guy ans the call then I hang up.

What you have done is to alert them that you are suspicious. The guy can easily called back your office, say he has a missed call from this number and ask the receptionist for the name of the company. If this guy is so obvious as to sms 'I miss you, are we going other place', he is prepared and ready for the issue to blow up and come to any painful conclusion. He has no loss, unlike you.

What I hope you will do is to take a step back and calm down. If the affair is true, give up your wife to him but don't give up on the marriage. Stay married to your wife, even if she cheats. Endure all humiliation, whatever lovey dovey sms. WHY? because this is your only chance of living with your daughter and watching her grow up. This is the only way your daughter's mind won't be brain-washed into hating her father while she is growing up.

Imagine you caught her cheating. A divorce ensues. She gets custody, monthly maintenance and 50% of post-marital and combined assets. You are the ONLY loser. If your daughter ask her why daddy is no longer staying with them, do you expect your ex-wife to say 'because mummy cheated on daddy' or will she be likelier to say 'daddy is difficult to live with' or maybe something even worse?

Let sleeping dogs lie. I know a man's ego may find it hard to do that but don't lose out on being a part of your daughter's life. Do it for the daughter. Eat humble pie.

[blohsg]

err ... there are so many possibilities on what could had happened and what you can do now that you've called the bugger ...

Prepare your "personal things" in case it escalates to "out of control" & eventual divorce/separation. So depending on whether you want to continue the marriage and how much you "love" your wife or if vice versa ... you'll have to open things up and trash with her ... what's been lacking or if she's unhappy or what not ...

OR else you sit inside your little cave & be cuck00ed and be miserable and "eat out" & be quiet ... for the "sake of your daughter". I've heard of a family like that where the parents sleep in separate rooms (due to father's wayward ways) & eventually child thinks it's "NORMAL" for that arrangement. kid ends up confused & probably straightening out things would be better for the kid.

Next time talk to him ... confront him ... you are her husband ... you can tell him to F^&* OFF and leave your wife alone? Like some of the bros say ... you fight for your wife ... if she doesn't appreciate & reciprocate , then it's okie to let go.

But b4 that ... try your fullest to be calm and collected when you discuss this with your wife ... take her out or something and try to make it as non-confrontational as possible ... ask nicely & state your ground rules ... what you "suspect" & you are willing to let it go (erm ... let's say you still want to save this marriage) if it stops now if she gives you some explanation ... ask her what you can do to help or change or do ...

alternatively ... you ignore / eat humble pie and start eating out If you're happy with that ...

[blohsg]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

mate, and you dont even have the courage to confront him?
it says alot about yourself. if you cant do it..
hire a hitman to finish the job.

You call fer him ? hehe
You : Sorry ... i got a sms from you ... "I missed you & Are we going other places" ? Did you send it to the wrong person?
You : But If you're messing with my wife ... you better F^)& off as you're totally out of line !

It's not courage ... it's ANGER/FEAR that will push you to call your husband/wife's mistress/lover

oh well ... don't over - think ... maybe it's not so serious ... T/S ... have some faith.

[alan0338]

TS, seriously, dun go kio kuay for the moment hor, wait u kena cot by her first then u really is chui tak lan liao ...

if u want to catch her, make sure she dun catch u first

[fairman]

Originally Posted by alan0338

TS, seriously, dun go kio kuay for the moment hor, wait u kena cot by her first then u really is chui tak lan liao ...

if u want to catch her, make sure she dun catch u first

Thks bro. Just now I SMS her about the message and she admit she seeking for other guy for few month already. That her ex bf. I told her wanna divorce is it and she said she don't want. Told her don't blame me for flirting around.

[blohsg]

just Breathe ...