Help needed.. much appreciated

7211 · #1 13-02-2009, 05:31 AM

Hi guys..

Need some advice here. Hope someone provide me with some ideas?

I have this friend and she's from ukraine. I think our friendship is more towards a formal and professional relationship?

Any ideas for me to break the ice and try go a step further? Not necessary to bed her etc etc but more of just wanna be on a more personal terms with her before taking further steps.

Hope the experienced ones here can give some constructive ideas. Cheers!

KurtWagner · #2 13-02-2009, 10:46 AM

Better be careful about getting into a long distance relationship. It aint easy and definitely will cause plenty of heartaches. Just imagine this, you cant even touch and feel her presence, what kind of relationship is that? I have had two before and both didnt work out. But, I wish you all the best!!! : )

$110Thai-escort · #3 13-02-2009, 01:55 PM

Ya long distance relationship are hard to maintain but also got successful stories one wish you all the best TS

volvo · #4 13-02-2009, 04:17 PM

hi TS, i guess most importantly is trust issues. As long as both of you trust each other it should be good. I am in one now, although its hard, but as long as the trust is there, it would be fine. But its up to individuals to individuals. Just my 2 cents worth.

Wet_Towel · #5 13-02-2009, 04:27 PM

Ukarine? Even u married her in furture must buy air tickets for her to go back for home visit on and off. Or worse, her family want to come visit her. Unless money no issue with u

7211 · #6 13-02-2009, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Wet_Towel

Ukarine? Even u married her in furture must buy air tickets for her to go back for home visit on and off. Or worse, her family want to come visit her. Unless money no issue with u

Thanks for the reply guys! We are currently working together you see. Both of us based in the same place.

I just have no idea how to move up the next step? I have this worry that if I were to try any further moves, the next time there wouldnt be any friendship even.. sigh..

Right not its not so much of getting married but just moving on to the next stage?

7211 · #7 13-02-2009, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by KurtWagner

Better be careful about getting into a long distance relationship. It aint easy and definitely will cause plenty of heartaches. Just imagine this, you cant even touch and feel her presence, what kind of relationship is that? I have had two before and both didnt work out. But, I wish you all the best!!! : )

Thanks for the concern! As I mentioned to another reply, we are both located in same place. Just not sure if I should make the next step? or just remain as friends..

lcbguy · #8 13-02-2009, 04:53 PM

Without any basic information like status and duration of your friendship/couple with her, we cannot advise anything.

How long have both of you known each other as friends ?

Gone steady and hold hands already ? If yes how long ?

thomas88 · #9 13-02-2009, 09:05 PM

If you're serious about her then tell her straight as westerner are not conservative like Asians.

7211 · #10 14-02-2009, 05:02 AM

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Originally Posted by lcbguy

Without any basic information like status and duration of your friendship/couple with her, we cannot advise anything.

How long have both of you known each other as friends ?

Gone steady and hold hands already ? If yes how long ?

Hi! Nope.. no hands holding... got to know her for about 2 years? We were from same uni but after graduation and only recently, say 1-2 months started having conversations as we meet each other through some events...

Maybe its would be right to just be direct with her.. but.. if i get rejection.. wldnt it be end of story?
Apparently she is quite popular during her time in uni but never got attached.. maybe she did but shes single now.

What should i do?

Frankiestine · #11 14-02-2009, 11:00 AM

TS i would say 99% of the work is done...since you both knew each other during UNI days..she would probably have known you well enough..the other 1% left is to know how she feels about you...well you can only know if you ask her but since she knows you so well it won't be a problem for you to ask her out for a drink...dun make it sound like a date cos she might be willing to commit that soon..go for a few rounds of drinks then ask her..

lacoruna69 · #12 14-02-2009, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by 7211

Maybe it would be right to just be direct with her.. but.. if i get rejection.. wouldn't it be end of story?

Wouldn't that be better as both of you can then move on? Dun be wishy washy if you are guy. Ask her directly that you like her and whether she wants to move the relationship to another phase. If she tell you both of you are better off remaining as friends, just take it like a man and move on.
Today is V day, do it.

CuntTracker · #13 14-02-2009, 11:59 AM

Funny leh... I think u just need to pull ur moves on her. you don't need any advice and it doesn't matter where she is from. If u get u get...if u don't den u don't.

No advice can assure u 100% success in courting a girl. You need advice in bedding skills I am sure the bros here can be of more help.

Now u just need courage and tenacity

Lumix · #14 14-02-2009, 12:11 PM

Dude just take things as it come, no need to rush, things may develop if u've true feeling for her,if you cant even maintain a friendship how to move on ? 1-2 month started having converstation and u're thinking so far, give some time pal

7211 · #15 14-02-2009, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Lumix

Dude just take things as it come, no need to rush, things may develop if u've true feeling for her,if you cant even maintain a friendship how to move on ? 1-2 month started having converstation and u're thinking so far, give some time pal

Thanks to all who provided their point of view. I guess I would just have to take a step at a time then.

Will provide updates as the time goes.